Rom books ruin women's expectation wrt real-life relationships? - Page 3

Originally posted by: trouble_006

Iss reply se yaad aya, Have you read The bromance book club by Lyssa Kay Adams?

Rant incoming (Coz man was I pissed when I read the book) :

It's ironical how the book actually somehow invalidates whatever else you've written in the post 😆

The wife has been faking all her feelings for over 3 years of their marriage, isn't honest with her husband and when he realises that one day and has an overreaction, she asks him to leave and gets pissed that he left coz apparently that was a test.

She takes absolutely no responsibility about the breaking down of their marriage even though she was dishonest for 3 years, faking happiness and orgasms (how was he supposed to know if she never told him anything she didn't like about their life, sapna thodi ayega usko). The book keeps on reiterating that the wife is in the right and the husband is in the wrong, he has to do all the heavy lifting coz she has some unresolved childhood issues which even she didn't realise for much part of the book 😆

She makes him guess what makes her upset throughout the book and gets pissed if he isn't able to in the first attempt (yes guess coz God forbid these two have an honest conversation).

End of the day, the husband has to follow a romance book to woo her and tries everything just so that something sticks.

It was a great concept but man did the author bungled up the execution.

ugh, why you gotta spoil the book, now I don't wanna read it 🤣

This is indeed q very interesting topic to discuss I would say

Afterall, we as teenagers when we watch or read we build our own fence of imaginary characters which our subconscious brain believes to be absolutely true living somewhere in this planet

Then comes age of maturity, to be concise, rationality steps in, ur perception of the world colored by empirical observations outwits ur fence and breaks those glass houses where u have built a sculpture of admiration

Bye, bye, hero let us accept the fate of our times

Truth is no man born is perfect, every man according to Aristotle desires happiness as the end for which the desired means Aristotle showcases is looking through the lens of rational actions and provoking thought process. This is what naturally glides in us when the action of hormones penetrates not deep and sets at dusk.

Originally posted by: foreverlazy

I completely disagree. I'm not saying men irl should be exactly like fictional men, but there are certain characteristics that fictional men have that is kind of shocking for men in real life to not have.

@bold: Uh...maybe they should be? Being understanding of your partner and making them a priority is kind of the bare minimum and women are allowed to expect the bare minimum.

I don't think that men in romance books are non-existent, there are men who are like that in real life, I've been fortunate enough to see one of my closest friends marry one. I think that there's this misconception of how men in romance books are not flawed. They absolutely are, but they acknowledge and actively try to improve on said flaws and apologize for their mistakes. That's the part that gets to some men in real life and that's what they consider to be unrealistic.

agreed! this is not meant to be a brag or a flex but my partner is a better partner than anyone i have ever read about or seen in any media and i'm not exaggerating here at all. any girl in my family who has talked to him now says they want someone like him. the point is that it is possible for guys to meet the expectations that women have and the ideal man doesn't just exist in books and movies. a lot of them just use this excuse so they don't have to work on improving themselves. it's easier to blame the problem on an outside source than to take responsibility and do better

Originally posted by: vibecheck

agreed! this is not meant to be a brag or a flex but my partner is a better partner than anyone i have ever read about or seen in any media and i'm not exaggerating here at all. any girl in my family who has talked to him now says they want someone like him. the point is that it is possible for guys to meet the expectations that women have and the ideal man doesn't just exist in books and movies. a lot of them just use this excuse so they don't have to work on improving themselves. it's easier to blame the problem on an outside source than to take responsibility and do better

EXACTLY!!! Don't use fictional characters as an excuse to not improve yourself as a partner.

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

Fictional romance hasn’t ruined my expectations, not when factual living breathing men ruin it for me daily. Why blame the books? 🙃

Becoz you are comparing living breathing men with Novel wala 🤷‍♀️ 😆

Question, do you compare living breathing men with the perfect men from the romance novel?

To answer the original question,

Yes. Ruin may be a strong word but Romance novel sure influences your expectations in your partner.

I have been there. Although I am quite realistic yet if I am reading a romance novel, khatam hote hi,

me to my husband — Tum aise kyu nahi ho. 😆

He is romantic but not like how novel describes men — who knows the perfect reply to novel women’s queries.

— who comes unannounced at a perfect time when novel woman is missing him.
— who has the best surprises planned.
— he reads woman’s mind and knows what to do.
— they live at such places where so many picture perfect moments ban jati hai.

Real life is far from it. Your partner will mostly have replies that will make you want to bang your head to wall. 😆 But they make up in other various ways.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Becoz you are comparing living breathing men with Novel wala 🤷‍♀️ 😆

Question, do you compare living breathing men with the perfect men from the romance novel?

No, as in living breathing men generally suck so I ain’t blaming the novels. 😂

The novels I read are dark romances and the heroes are all evil psychopaths, definitely not perfect men. I just want a man that loves like SRK does in his romance films. Is that too much to ask? 😭 Oh and he needs pretty fingers too.

Folks, as you must have realised (if not, then well, ab kya kahe) this thread was a part of the Jimmy Jabs round 3.

And I had to argue against what I actually believe in 😆

So, you can keep your swords down 😎

Originally posted by: trouble_006

Folks, as you must have realised (if not, then well, ab kya kahe) this thread was a part of the Jimmy Jabs round 3.

And I had to argue against what I actually believe in 😆

So, you can keep your swords down 😎

humein pata hai. now share your true feelings 🤣