Maybe some of my opinion is coming from personal experience. During my first few years of marriage, my SIL (husband’s younger sister) told me that she was dating a guy and wanted to marry him eventually. She had told her mom as well who was pretty okay with it. They had come over to our house and my SIL wanted me to drop her off to his car so they could go out somewhere. My mother-in-law knew about this and kind of pressured me into it. I wasn’t comfortable lying to my husband but I did it anyway. Later on when she wanted to marry this guy, her mom told the family. My husband met with him and hated him. He was really condescending and rude towards my SIL. He was very misogynistic at times. My mother in law accidentally let it slip that I had dropped off my SIL with him and had met him briefly. Anyway, my husband was upset with me because he didn’t expect me to hide anything from him. The funny thing is that he wasn’t as hurt that his mom and sis hid this but it hurt him more that I did. He knew they put me in a difficult position and told me not to worry about keeping their trust as much as keeping his. I understood where he was coming from because I have the same expectation from him. They did eventually did get married but he was horrible to her and they did get divorced. Anyway, I think what I did was nowhere near as bad as what Meerab did so I feel like she needs to take some accountability. I think there’s certain amount of trust that has to go into a marriage for it to work. These two are not there yet!
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