@bold: so therein lies the difference. You are talking about a situation where both parties are mature and have moved on, so that’s why the friendship can work. One side isn’t still trying to gain the other’s love and urging them to leave their spouse. Whereas, in this case, Rohail has not moved on and he has made this plain to her at the restaurant. He is also urging her to leave her spouse. Even before the whiteboard/ car stopping incident, he refused to stop calling her when she asked.
So Meerab asks her husband not to sleep with her and he respects that. She asks Rohail to stop contacting her, she’s married, but he doesn’t respect that. He keeps calling her. Despite her saying no. That in itself should be a big red flag, because no means no right, if we are talking about her marzi? We are expecting that of Murtasim, but then she is giving Rohail a pass to not respect her wishes? She knows how her shohar feels about this guy too. Otherwise, she could have had him come to the house like a respectable friend. Him and saba, coming together.
The writer said that Meerab was aware of Rohail’s interest in her from the beginning. So, I guess that’s the lense I see this through; according to her, she’s not naive about Rohail even before the restaurant.
Originally posted by: Gundamwing
She has known R for a few years we have to assume, he is her friend and given her naivety it is understandable that she keeps giving him chance after chance after chance. We always see Meerab through Murtasim eyes and she almost always is in a standoffish badtameez confrontational mode. So we forget what she is like to others. She is a good, kind, warm hearted person. She is only cut throat with Murtasim and not with others. If I start going into detail about explaining why that is, this will become another essay.
Falling in love with her isn't a crime, so she doesn't see the need to treat him like he has the plague. Perhaps this is liberal vs. conservative thinking, but I have girl friends who are still besties with boys who had fallen in love with them, it depends on the guy and how mature both parities are, it is about accepting and moving on. R we know is a pathetic loser and he doesn't deserve Meeru's chances, but Meeru doesn't know this yet but she will soon find out. She will make mistakes and learn from them, that is life.
She doesn't realize what she did when she shared intimate details of her marriage with a male friend, especially one that is obsessed with you and what trouble she is going to be in now because of this. She was wrong, just as Murtasim is wrong to indulge Harpie because she is his cousin. They are both duffods and let third parties interfere in their marriage. This isn't a competition of who is doing the bigger mistake. They both screwed up and hopefully will learn from them. When will Murtasim finally quit on Harpie, she tried to kill your beloved wile, the one you can't without you DUFFOD. Meeru you need to wisen up, no one is more important than you not even your ideals. And just like Murtasim demands keep yourself safe first, and don't put yourself in harms way.
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