Have you ever been in love in your life? - Page 10

Originally posted by: Supari_khala

You are literally, legitimately the male version of me. I know exactly what you are talking about! Is your birthday anytime between July 22 to August 22 or January 20 to February 18, by chance? I have a theory.

Also, good to see you back, Provoking!

It is 22nd April. Doesn't fit the bill.

But I am very much interested in the theory.

Thank you ! 😊

Originally posted by: --Pro.vo.King--

It is 22nd April. Doesn't fit the bill.

But I am very much interested in the theory.

Thank you ! 😊

You don't recognize me, do you? Its Dexter. I don't blame you. I am not who I used to be.

Anyway, have a second theory, still. Is it out of sight out of mind for you with just romantic interests or does that happen to hobbies, interests etc. too?

Originally posted by: --Pro.vo.King--

This is like reading about myself.

I can't speak for this guy but then again I can't speak for myself either.

I just don't have it in me to keep texting incessantly - i struggle to be in touch. I click in person and when I am in the moment , I love getting to know other person. I am sure in that moment they think they mean the world to me ( I am a good listener too ) and truth is - in that moment they do mean a lot to me. But once that interaction ends , I struggle to keep the flame alive ( especially if they are also really into me ). Even as I am typing this , I have several unresponded texts waiting ( hey what happened, please reply , I don't know what went wrong , please tell me and then I won't disturb you) - I just don't know what to tell them.

Sometimes I get anxious about how this affects my Karma. It is not like I am going out of my way to hurt people's feelings but I end up doing it regardless. I try to make it clear in the beginning itself that I am not looking for anything serious but the initial high ( when I am at my utmost romantic best ) gives the wrong impression and I end up hurting feelings. Besides, my parents are getting impatient with me now , they want me settle down , get married and have kids - I don't want any of it. Human beings are so complicated. I think I am gonna be single forever.

Sh!t I can relate

Originally posted by: Supari_khala

You don't recognize me, do you? Its Dexter. I don't blame you. I am not who I used to be.

Anyway, have a second theory, still. Is it out of sight out of mind for you with just romantic interests or does that happen to hobbies, interests etc. too?

Hey I do recognize you. Dexterkiliala. Ofcourse! I love reading your posts. On certain topics it is just easier to hit like on your posts rather than writing it myself -they resonate with my opinions . And I know that you disagree with me on certain geo political topics ( although that was only a facade i put up at the time to piss off certain members 😆 ).

You have become more calm in your posts- happens to us all. We grow up. I feel the same way. Looking back at my time here , I was so "Quixotic" and "Provoking" - it seems a bit silly to me now. I am laughing at my username and DP.

I was away but not not gone. I have "submarined" here . 😁

Out of sight , out of mind - happens with most things that you listed , not just romantic interests.

I am still keen on both theories.

Originally posted by: --Pro.vo.King--

Submarining - never heard of this before. But it describes it perfectly.

For introverts this should be an option without judgment pls. We don't want commitment and relationship drama. But even we need "supply" sometimes. The hand gets boring after a while.

In her case she even got gifts and stuffs from that guy and she stated in her earlier comment that they practically dated, so at least in her situation she didn’t get any sort of wrong impression. That guy just outright ghosted her and dumped her, so she has a strong base for being disappointed from that guy and no doubt he was an absolute jerk to her.

Now regarding the description about yourself, if you also do the same....like giving girls gifts, lifting their hopes us and then all on a sudden dump them, then my opinion would be the same about you, no offense. My judgement is neutral here. Even I had a crush on an introvert guy for a long time and he would chase me once every while for attention only, but he didn’t cross his limits by being cozy or giving gifts. If someone gives a girl gifts within a short time after knowing her and with no intention of dating her, then yes it's limit-crossing.

Originally posted by: ffkhan

In her case she even got gifts and stuffs from that guy and she stated in her earlier comment that they practically dated, so at least in her situation she didn’t get any sort of wrong impression. That guy just outright ghosted her and dumped her, so she has a strong base for being disappointed from that guy and no doubt he was an absolute jerk to her.

Now regarding the description about yourself, if you also do the same....like giving girls gifts, lifting their hopes us and then all on a sudden dump them, then my opinion would be the same about you, no offense. My judgement is neutral here. Even I had a crush on an introvert guy for a long time and he would chase me once every while for attention only, but he didn’t cross his limits by being cozy or giving gifts. If someone gives a girl gifts within a short time after knowing her and with no intention of dating her, then yes it's limit-crossing.

This is an interesting perspective. I have never paid much attention to gift aspect before. I stay away from gifts in general - probably bcoz subconsciously I am aware that gifts aren't free for both parties involved , they come with certain strings attached which in itself is against my basic nature of "no strings attached".

Originally posted by: --Pro.vo.King--

Hey I do recognize you. Dexterkiliala. Ofcourse! I love reading your posts. On certain topics it is just easier to hit like on your posts rather than writing it myself -they resonate with my opinions . And I know that you disagree with me on certain geo political topics ( although that was only a facade i put up at the time to piss off certain members 😆 ).

You have become more calm in your posts- happens to us all. We grow up. I feel the same way. Looking back at my time here , I was so "Quixotic" and "Provoking" - it seems a bit silly to me now. I am laughing at my username and DP.

I was away but not not gone. I have "submarined" here . 😁

Out of sight , out of mind - happens with most things that you listed , not just romantic interests.

I am still keen on both theories.

I used to post on geopolitical threads? I can’t remember. I only remember us almost always being on the same team when arguing with other people? Anyway, maybe it’s best I don’t remember.

Oh I have two theories, metaphysical and scientific.

The first thing that popped into my head when I read your post is you must have some Leo placement in your moon or venus which makes you like the high of a relationship when things are shiny and new (just like me) but a Leo needs constant attention or it will lose interest quick (just like me).

Then, I thought you could have Aquarius placements too which just makes you adopt a general IDGAF attitude towards romantic interests after a while.

But you said you feel that way about hobbies and interests too (just like me). Hyperfixation followed by inattention is quite common in adults who do not realize they may have ADHD. Most adults are undiagnosed (including myself) or do not realize it if it doesn’t affect their career. I hyperfixate over a certain interest whether that is an activity or a person really quickly and deeply but lose interest very quickly too and never look back. People at the receiving end do not get it. So how do I make them comprehend that I did find them interesting at some point and it was truly genuine and honest but now I simply don’t feel that way? I can’t. It’s a waste of time.

Originally posted by: Supari_khala

I used to post on geopolitical threads? I can’t remember. I only remember us almost always being on the same team when arguing with other people? Anyway, maybe it’s best I don’t remember.

Oh I have two theories, metaphysical and scientific.

The first thing that popped into my head when I read your post is you must have some Leo placement in your moon or venus which makes you like the high of a relationship when things are shiny and new (just like me) but a Leo needs constant attention or it will lose interest quick (just like me).

Then, I thought you could have Aquarius placements too which just makes you adopt a general IDGAF attitude towards romantic interests after a while.

But you said you feel that way about hobbies and interests too (just like me). Hyperfixation followed by inattention is quite common in adults who do not realize they may have ADHD. Most adults are undiagnosed (including myself) or do not realize it if it doesn’t affect their career. I hyperfixate over a certain interest whether that is an activity or a person really quickly and deeply but lose interest very quickly too and never look back. People at the receiving end do not get it. So how do I make them comprehend that I did find them interesting at some point and it was truly genuine and honest but now I simply don’t feel that way? I can’t. It’s a waste of time.

Given me a lot to think about. 🤔

Most people have some or the other issues I suppose if managed properly we still stand a chance to lead a "normal" life . Come to think of it , I can't even stick to my Netflix/Amazon/Disney watch list , I will be anticipating their arrivals and when it comes I will start it and leave it mid way. 😅

Originally posted by: --Pro.vo.King--

Given me a lot to think about. 🤔

Most people have some or the other issues I suppose if managed properly we still stand a chance to lead a "normal" life . Come to think of it , I can't even stick to my Netflix/Amazon/Disney watch list , I will be anticipating their arrivals and when it comes I will start it and leave it mid way. 😅

😱

I am speechless.

I have an entire queue of Hulu and Netflix movies and series that have been left midstream, mid season, mid episode because I lost interest half way through it. I totally get you. How long have you noticed this about yourself? For me, it’s only been a couple years. I wish I had known sooner though so I could have had some control over my actions.

^^^^^^This is just a small snippet of my hyperfixation followed by inattention. I just lost interest and they’re still waiting for to continue watching.