Have you ever been in love in your life? - Page 3

Originally posted by: SteFanSalvaTor

I wish I can help you, there is no permanent damage unless you think that he is the end to all your miseries. I am not sure how far he is from you (geographically), but stop meeting him, and contacting him, if possible just date someone else (casually) for time being, you need a major distraction and things shall be fine.

For me, my motivation was, he pissed me off, too much, to an extent I was like i would slap him if he would be nearby, best thing was we were living in different states and we did not meet much, and i stopped responding to him slowly and that agitated him, then i gave him a shut up call, and then he behaved like a loser and i blocked him permanently from all my contact access.

I am a he/him. It's the same city forget the state. But wouldn't dating someone else right now just be a rebound and unfair to this new person? I can't do casual now I think. Don't have the courage. Nothing is actually working. No distractions. Nothing. I have been listening to sad songs and tearing up inside. There is support from friends but they have their own lives and I can't bother them daily. If this is going to take three years, I am basically screwed. I have a lot to achieve in life.

You are your greatest priority. You have to live with yourself so try being the happiest person. Learn a new skill, nurture your personality and try becoming a better person than you are. It's important that before you fall into love affairs, you establish your self worth. Once you realise your importance, dare anyone rattle you.

Lay off relationships for a while and just concentrate on yourself. There's so much in life other than all this love nonsense.

You're only feeling the ache because you're giving undue importance to this feeling residing within you.

Yes I have, My very first heart fluttering romance like in the movies lol. I thought I would get married with him but life had some other plans and we broke up 🥺

Been in love. Had my heart broken a couple of times. Broken couple other hearts, also. In the end, all of it was worth is because it led me to where I am today. I can genuinely say I am happy. I have no regrets. I hold no grudges against any of my exes. I don’t stay in touch with exes after a break up but I wish them all well wherever they are.

I’m too self absorbed to have been in love.

Originally posted by: Supari_khala

Been in love. Had my heart broken a couple of times. Broken couple other hearts, also. In the end, all of it was worth is because it led me to where I am today. I can genuinely say I am happy. I have no regrets. I hold no grudges against any of my exes. I don’t stay in touch with exes after a break up but I wish them all well wherever they are.

i really liked how you have said ‘I’ve no regrets’ .. I wish I could say too, I really regret being so crazily in love with someone to lose my self respect and take shot for three years. And I was always independent and self made but still. Now I’m in a better place and happy too but his memories will always be so toxic

Originally posted by: SteFanSalvaTor

i really liked how you have said ‘I’ve no regrets’ .. I wish I could say too, I really regret being so crazily in love with someone to lose my self respect and take shot for three years. And I was always independent and self made but still. Now I’m in a better place and happy too but his memories will always be so toxic

Thank you.

Do not wish for anything. When the time is right, forgiveness will come to you on it’s own. You will not wish for it or ask for it. It will arrive without any noise and just like that you will feel light and airy. You will not forgive them for them but for yourself. Forgiving yourself and them is the only way to erase any toxic attachments of the past. Right now, You’re doing the best you can. Give yourself grace to struggle. All you can do right now is work on your emotional health. One day you’ll fall in love with your own existence to such an extent that none of the earthly, toxic relationships of the past will even cross your thoughts. It may seem far away now but that day will come. It took me 3 years. It may take you less.

Originally posted by: Supari_khala

Thank you.

Do not wish for anything. When the time is right, forgiveness will come to you on it’s own. You will not wish for it or ask for it. It will arrive without any noise and just like that you will feel light and airy. You will not forgive them for them but for yourself. Forgiving yourself and them is the only way to erase any toxic attachments of the past. Right now, You’re doing the best you can. Give yourself grace to struggle. All you can do right now is work on your emotional health. One day you’ll fall in love with your own existence to such an extent that none of the earthly, toxic relationships of the past will even cross your thoughts. It may seem far away now but that day will come. It took me 3 years. It may take you less.

Thank You so much for these kind words. Yes maybe forgiving your own self is more difficult and more important than forgiving the other one. I really wish him best and all, and I hope I’ve never to see his face ever again. I’m happy with myself now, I think being single is much more fun and relaxing 🤣

Love is a very special and unique feeling. It's quite rare and not something to take lightly. I've only been in love a few times - about 36-37 times and that's it.

Yes.

It was a teenage love.

I nearly destroyed my life and career. It started my depression and horrendous life.

I forgot falling in love is only for rich or extremely pretty people. It's not a person like me.