Language Barriers
Sounds like a very usual term. And we understand the meaning of it in quite literal terms.
"Chor" - For those who are not well versed in Hindi it means "Thief". You know what that means in Malayalam? It means "Cooked Rice". Not even remotely related meanings right? We can credit that to different languages. Let's take another example. "Kora" is a word that is used in different context in the same language (Malayalam). In some parts of the state it means "Barking" and in some it means "Cough".
Weird right? Even more weird is why am I blabbering about this here? I'm sure you understood what I wrote about wrt language but you haven't made the connection to what I really mean to say. Why? I'm conversing in a language that is common to us. Then?
That is because I have only expressed the idea that is unique to my mind. A perspective (language) that is only known to me..my mind. Only when I convey the message in its entirety will you understand the connection. Because that is language of my mind, my heart and I need to translate it for anyone else to interpret it correctly.
Our perspectives, our feelings our actions and reactions here are our personal languages. We need to translate them into a common language for others to understand.
So what happens in a relationship? Any relationship, Friend, lover, spouse, siblings, parents...A mother knowing exactly what that naughty giggle of her baby means, the lover decoding a lone tear that did not escape the eye of his/her partner, a husband reading that it is not all right when wife says that all is well. In a relationship we try to learn this personal language of the other person. It is more about understanding the meaning of those seeming "Nothings, than the other person revealing that what that "Nothing" really meant. There lies the essence and success of a relationship.
Now let’s apply this in Sai-V relationship. They were at loggerheads for the longest time, despite the liking/love simmering within. Why? Not because they didn’t communicate. But because they did not understand each other's language. And I mean the same about V's "Jalebis".Because that's his language. MiMo track was all about them learning each other's language. But Shruti happened before they graduated! Unfortunately for them one speaks Greek and other Latin. Their languages are very complex. V doesn’t talk straight, his actions don’t match his words, and avoids "Real" talk. Sai on the other hand never really shows her pain, never expresses her sufferings. But I would say Sai is the actual topper from the two. She did for the longest time hold on to what she learnt. This was the surrogacy track. It was this very belief in her understanding of V's language that she held onto him despite him going against her. She stuck to him, because she knew where he was actually operating from.However wrong the approach was. However, V didn’t. He didn’t understand her language during miscarriage and neither did he understand her language during pregnancy. He only took what he saw more evidently. Not her personal language. And that is why separation happened. By the end of it Sai started to believe all that she learnt about him was incorrect.
And that is why she didn’t understand his "Poochon na". She doesn't see that longing and jealousy. Though she does try to go back and forth, which is why she keeps melting, but his actions make her believe she was wrong. "Main jitni baar sochti hoon ki aap isse nahi gir sakte aap aur zyada neeche gir jaate hain"
V has been a slow learner. I always say "Yeh banda cheating karke pass hua hai". He never really understood Sai's language. Never went beyond what she expressed. Which rarely had her true feelings. And that is why he didn’t understand the generic accusations and social issues around woman that Sai spoke about. He didn't connect them with Sai. What did he really take from their entire conversation. "The Slap" and "You are nobody to me". Words and actions that were loud and clear! Rest have no recollection value for him. They were ramblings of an overly self obsessed and egoist woman.
So what do we do when the other person does not understand our language? We "Translate". But that is not happening. If V had directly told her what happened, how he suffered and why he married, things would have sorted. And if Sai had retorted to every accusation personal context, the slow head would have understood.
But then they will not.
What next? There has to be someone else who understand their language or someone to whom they have "Translated" their feelings. JM! Sai's breakdown on the phone was just that. And this has made it easier for JM to understand her outburst today. Because he got her words. He just needs to form the sentences.
So I will slightly change my stand. Sai-V communicate, but in two different languages, which the other does not understand.
I said this before. Sai once said, P is herself pushing V towards Sai. Today Sai is doing the same. Unknowingly. But neither is she interested.
I'm not sure if the spoiler around police complaint was only a threat or a real one. Because the threat has already been delivered today. The revenge is left, which should be the result of the revelation.
Contrary to what I believed, the revenge game of V will not be that empty either. Because with all that Sai said today, he will compare P to her (his fav game) and he will try to work around his relationship with P. That is not his revenge from Sai. But a revenge from himself, for loving Sai. A mistake that he believes he committed and he needs to rectify. Though I have a different perspective to that too.
Something similar to what Sadhika has been saying. V is furious that she is having an affair with JM and has forgotten that he killed KJ and Sam. And Sai today clearly told JM that she has not for a moment forgotten that he killed them. This clears any confusion that she has forgiven him.
Now apply the same V. Because V-P and JM-Sai are parallels. Both are being associated with criminals. They have cleared Sai's side.
But do you think they are hiding V's version?
This also bring me to something Moor has been saying. There is something connecting JM to Savi and why Sai allowed JM to be close to Savi. I feel that JM got UM to Sai, knowing that she is alone and will not take his help. But much before, either during her pregnancy or post pregnancy, something happened where JM stepped in to save Sai-Savi. And hence she gave him this compensation. It could also be that he helped her to the hospital when she was she was due for delivery.
The real P is coming out now. Iska makeup sasta wala tha. Not waterproof/smudge proof. It is coming off. And the insecure P is coming out.
Are you happy today Sadhika? Renewed hopes with this side of P which has certain vibrations? But today she was not just giving the vibes of an insecure wife who is scared. Her overall demeanour had an evil edge to it. The one which says that she will play dirty if she is at risk of losing something he has so painstakingly acquired.
I'm hoping that either I was able to translate correctly or you have learnt the language of my mind by now 😉
Edited by Sherry24 - 2 years ago
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