What is a cultured family or person?

Anupama keeps harping Shahs are cultured family my kids are greatest cultured. Baa and bapuji are greatest cultured parents. Anupama says she herself is greatest cultured human.

And they look down on all others in relatives and surroundiing saying they are bad they are crass they have no culture they dress moodern they do not celebrate festivals grandly as us.

So what exactly as per you is a cultured human being or cultured family?

Is it Shahs who celebrate every festivval grandly with grand dresses and do every morning puja and speak very cultured language (as per them) and give respect to elders(even when wrong)

Or is cultured family like Dave and Kapadias?

Now lets see kapaias - only anuj kapadia and Malvika Kapadia and their parent GK. Rest i do not consider real Kapadia family they are relatives

Lets look at anuj and Malvika(before anupama married anuj)

- they wore modern dress costly dress

- roamed world (alone as girl Malvika, in our asia if grl roams alone like that they consider as bad and cast aspersions on woman)

- did not do daily puja

- do not celebrate festivals grandly calling 50 relatives and family friends

-fight or have arguments but do not ensure full moholla gathers like shahs

Daves are similar to Kapadias (before anuj married anupama)

So who actually is more sanskari Malvika who disagrees with anuj and says no to take vanraj and toshu back in company or Rakhi who talks loudly and crudely but does not go scheming to snatch others business like vanraj and toshu or Devika who talks truth no filters to Shahs

or is it pakhi and kinjal who are rude to their mothers and anupama who never cares for her real mayka

I stopped considering Kinjal as a dave after all her misbhaviour to Rakhi dave shes more Shahs character now than a Dave so added her to Shahs

Also i feel nowadays festival in any regilion has become more of show off the wealth of people and networking than real faith in GOD. Wear costlies and most beautiful dress to show off to relatives neighbours and family friends see how rich we are how cultured we are. Its never about God or bakthi like 90s when we were born. That time there was real faith grand dress costliest never really mattered its like celebrating God birthday like janmasthmi or celebrating a new year by taking God blessing and meetting all relatives and neighbours and giving them sweets and wishes. It was never the show off its become now like Shahs do every festival grand dress, dance, songs etc where is God in all that?

Nowadays its like who wears costliest saree in family or neigbour hood who gets attention who uploads photos on FB and instagram first its terribly commercial and not at all the simple happiness of celebrating God that it was in 90s or may be before that when our parents must be kids . And festival parties are about networking making friends who will benefit in future like Shahs benefit from Kapadias. There is no real love for relatives or family or friends all big show off

I do not even feel any real bakthi in anupama or Baa(Shahs) everyday prayer when they are so hypocrites in real life and when their kids are going around snatching others business and targeting others daughters etc. Its more like daily task praying to God than follow God advice or any real respect and love ffor God that anupama and Baa do daily.

We were thought as kids do not lie, do not snatch others things, be happy in what you have, do not cheat, do not betray, do not be jealous of others, do not snatch others property and wealth none of which Shahs follow.

Will simply to show outside world you do puja of God is bakthi and do all against Lords teaching is bakthi for anupama and Shahs?

Anupama is blind to shahs wrongdoing. I don't know what she has, stockholm Syndrome Or co dependence. Deep down she knows shahs are not good people, but she will find any means to defend them. "Oh it wasn't that bad... No they did have some reason.. No it must have been my mistake.... ".... She is a classic case of a person who has trauma bonded with her abusers.

Anupama is very good struggler but it couldn’t change that she and her maaykawala are extremely uncultured people.

She is extremely uncultured and she feels entire world and every family are uncultured like her and her maaykawala so she gives moral gyan on every next topic to the audience.

Anupama lives in bubble that she carries very high morals and her bhakts are nourishing it more and more.