AnupaMaa's misplaced priorities - Page 3

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Just only one day if anupama is staying with kinjal that means she is not giving priority to anuj?? I did not know that too give priority to her husband that mother in law can't even meet her daughter in law even for 1 day

Maine to kahin aisa nahin dekha

Delivery kara li , bacche ka mooh dekh liya itna kafi hota hai jab khud ka pati wheelchair par ho tab! Kinjal ki seva ke liye rukna, name ceremony attend karna yeh sab shobha nahi deta jab khud ka husband wheelchair par ghar mai ho.

Thoda compromise karna sikhna chahiye jab itna accha husband wheelchair par ho tab !

Pehli shaddi mai sasuralwale Anupama ko ek tang par khada rakhte the and uss shaddi mai agar vanraj wheelchair par hota toh anupama kahi nikal nahi paati. Dusri shaddi mai itna accha pati mila hai toh anupama ko khud he mann se compromise kar ke kinjal ki seva, name ceremony sab skip karna chahiye.

Originally posted by: TheSunShine

I agree that everyone is first an individual before any other relation be it wife, mother or daughter, or why just women, a man is an individual first as well and has the right to choose what they do. Here the question is not about Anupamaa being an individual but her priorities in her relationships. She has two people in her life right now that need her attention, her husband who almost died, was in coma and has just regained consciousnes. The other person is her daughter in law who is healthy after child birth and has no complications.

Anuj is still wheelchair bound and requires assistance to even move or lift his hand to do minor things. He is surrounded by an almost octogenarian and a 5 year old who can keep him company but definitely can’t lift him if he falls. There are 3 other people in his house who piss him off and have caused him to have a panic attack already. Yes he is wealthy, then Anupama/ Kapadia’s should have the forethought to hire nurse and help. Don’t forget it’s a festive day and the compassionate man that he is Anuj has given the nurse and help holiday to celebrate with their family.

Compared to that Kinjal has 8 other people from family and doctors at the hospital to care for her. Rakhi, whatever she maybe, she loves Kinjal, is a mother herself that she understand postpartum care and again is wealthy to hire nurses.

I don’t understand Anupama’s batna when its not being forced on her. It is her choice here to stay with Kinjal than go visit Anuj who doesn’t demand her attention but is restless and shows her his impatience. He said “ aaram se par jaldi aana”. Even here Anuj is not forcing her to leave Kinjal and her daadi banne ki khushi. But Anupamaa ignoring him comes about as being insensitive.

Beautifully said. It's not like that Anuj and Kinjal are both drowning and she can only save one. She is in an easy spot. Kinjal is absolutely healthy and Anuj is paralyzed. Even a 2 years old can say who needs Anuj more.

Why should anupama skip her daughter in law ceremony matlab agar anuj agar 1 year tuk theek nahin hoga to anupama kahin bhi function nahin attend kar sakti for 1 year

And paralyzed mein to doctor khud kehte hai ki apna haath pair khud bhi chalane ki koshish karni chahiye chahiye

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Delivery kara li , bacche ka mooh dekh liya itna kafi hota hai jab khud ka pati wheelchair par ho tab! Kinjal ki seva ke liye rukna, name ceremony attend karna yeh sab shobha nahi deta jab khud ka husband wheelchair par ghar mai ho.

Thoda compromise karna sikhna chahiye jab itna accha husband wheelchair par ho tab !

Pehli shaddi mai sasuralwale Anupama ko ek tang par khada rakhte the and uss shaddi mai agar vanraj wheelchair par hota toh anupama kahi nikal nahi paati. Dusri shaddi mai itna accha pati mila hai toh anupama ko khud he mann se compromise kar ke kinjal ki seva, name ceremony sab skip karna chahiye.

Life is not heaven. You can not have everything. You have to choose. And Anupama is very lucky. She just have to take care of an extra ordinary human being who has just loved and respected her. Many women are taking care of abusive husbands while also earning for the family. The only thing Anupama requires is staying with Anuj for few days. She does not have to worry about cooking, cleaning, earning. I understand she loves Kinjal way more than Anuj but sometimes love needs to take a back seat and humanity needs to come first. Volunteering to stay with Kinjal in night when she very well knows her husband can not even go to washroom by himself is not only apathetic but also cruel.

Originally posted by: saito

That's Why Devika warned Anu not to adopt CA if she was not ready and even if Anuj just accidently told her his wish he did not force it on her. She gave him her word twice when he asked her if she was not ready then she should have not agreed the second time he asked her. But she agreed. So it is solely her fault. And the makers fault for not knowing how to write a story.

Marriage se pehle toh faaltu bakwaas, ball dance, date, mera pyaar radha ji ka pyaar. Aloo, mixer grinder, burger day. anuj should also have cleared that he wanted a child. bus tab toh yahoo yahhoo. bus shaadi ho jaaye kisi tarah se. Youngster mei bhi isse jaada hi maturity hogi

With marriage comes responsibilities also, sirf crores ki property, 80 lac ka haar, banglow , love, care hi nahi aate. Mam ko free hi rehna tha ya Shah families ki responsibilities hi nibhani thi toh shaadi nahi karni thi.

Anuj had not any child, so he is right on his part; his yearning for his own, and feeling the joy of parenthood is justified But after raising 3 children, nobody would want to take responsibility of the other child. so Anu is also right on her part. But what if she gets pregnant with anuj's baby then.... .

Not every point can be discussed or does not come into mind before marriage but at least imp. point or priority should be discussed.

My 2 colleagues took divorce bcoz before marriage, their husbands were in a metropolitan city but after marriage, they decided to go back to their hometown, wanted to live with their families and pursue family business. Wives did not want to go there due to fewer career options.

IMO, at least a few points must be cleared before marriage.

romeo-juliet, laila-majnu ne bhi shaadi kar li hoti toh aaj unke example nahi diye jaate.🤪😆

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Why should anupama skip her daughter in law ceremony matlab agar anuj agar 1 year tuk theek nahin hoga to anupama kahin bhi function nahin attend kar sakti for 1 year

And paralyzed mein to doctor khud kehte hai ki apna haath pair khud bhi chalane ki koshish karni chahiye chahiye

Anuj ain't paralyzed for a year. It's only a month. With time Anuj will slowly adjust with his condition. But now Anuj is in an extremely vulnerable state mentally. He may not express it but during sickness people desires for safety and security the most. At least Anu can skip some occasions for the next few months as a gesture of basic decency. She can continue celebrating after few months.

Yes I know just because he is paralyzed then anu should not go anywhere for time being anupama koto kaid karke rakhna chahiye ki jub tuk main theek nahin ho jaata u r not allow to go anywhere even for 1 hr

Sub khuch barbaad ho jaayega

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Why should anupama skip her daughter in law ceremony matlab agar anuj agar 1 year tuk theek nahin hoga to anupama kahin bhi function nahin attend kar sakti for 1 year

And paralyzed mein to doctor khud kehte hai ki apna haath pair khud bhi chalane ki koshish karni chahiye chahiye

Seems like you haven’t experienced married life ! That’s why you can easily say things which I can’t even imagine.Nothing personal, sharing just inner voice.

Jee haaaaaaaaaa agar 5 saal bhi husband ko emotional/mental/physical support dene ki zarurat pade toh biwi apne mann se he yeh sab compromise haste haste kar leti hai ! Yeh toh fir bhi kuch nahi hai sirf daughter in law /grand child ki ceremony hai !

As I said anupama ki pehli shaddi mai sasuralwale anupama ko ek tang par khada rakhte the uss shaddi mai vanraj wheelchair par hota toh anupama kahi kisi function mai jaa nahi paati. Dusri shaddi mai itna accha pati mila hai toh Anupama ko compromise karna chahiye.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Yes I know just because he is paralyzed then anu should not go anywhere for time being anupama koto kaid karke rakhna chahiye ki jub tuk main theek nahin ho jaata u r not allow to go anywhere even for 1 hr

Sub khuch barbaad ho jaayega

Ofcourse anupama ko uska social life pause kar dena chahiye.

Koi third class biwi khud ko kaid mai mehsus karegi but true companion bina jataye apne husband ki emotional/physical well being ke liye apni 100% social life pause kar degi.

Kal ke uthe, coma se nikle paralysed husband ko kaun 1 hour ke liye bhi akela chodega! 🤮🤮🤮🤮

Mujhe yeh nahi pata shahs ke pass has dusre hafte functions aur celebrations ke paise kahaan se aate hai. Koi kaam toh karta nahi us family main. Kavya has just got a job uski salary aane mein bhi 1-2 mahine lagenge.