Who is wrong? - Page 3

You are right. Everyone was wrong but the one who is wrong now is Anupama. She is married to a wonderful man who respects her but still she wants to go to a house where she was betrayed by the man because of whom this family is hers in the first place.

Now all her struggles, injustice looks nothing. How can a woman who divorced her husband for unimaginable wrong doings still wants to go back. This is very insulting and the reason why her children don't respect her. Remember children learn from what you do not what you say

What's that dialogue about Mom will forgive anything??? Pls we mom are also human being and have enough self respect not to run behind someone if they don't wait you in their life.

Anupama be a woman who respect herself. You teach others how to treat you. If you don't then Anuj and choti Anu might do the same. Pls teach your loved ones what is right and wrong that's the best form of love. Not what this character Anupama does. It encourages everybody's animal instinct to come out.

If she wants to keep in touch with her children, Baa, Papuji then she can invite them to her house? I know those is a drama but then don't call it a progressive one.

PS. I hated the scene where they showed choti Anu and Anupama doing that morning ritual🤢 she is a child.. Talk about regressive content...

Originally posted by: saito

After reading all the post here I would like to say that the writers are wrong because of the way they shape the story.

Especially the last few episodes it showed that the writers are wrong because when there is a need for a dialogue the writers don't add it.

Anupama is wrong because she expects a lot from her children and everyone. She should let them be on their own now.

Vanraj is forever wrong so don't want to add anything here.

Baa and Babuji. Baa is blind in her love for her son and Babuji was always quiet. no more to add here.

Coming to the kids the way Paakhi and Toshu are lashing on Anu is totally wrong. What is her fault in all this

Was her fault that she was not the type of girl Vanraj had wanted. He said he only saw her as a wife and nothing else and he made sure she stays as a wife and nothing else and later cries that she was forced on him. Why he could have said that he dont want her even if it was a choice by his grand mother. He should have said it at that time after all his life was about to get destroyed. But he stayed quiet so he cannot blame her at this point.

Was Vanraj's Affair also Anupama's fault and if it was then why was it Kavya and not Ritika. Why wait 8 years to start it with Kavya and not continue it with Ritika. Anupama did not change in the first 10 years would she change in the next 8 years after Paakhi is born.

I do not think anupama expects a lot from her kids. Else she would force them to join dance and sports competitions and to get 90% like todays parents etc. She never forced them for anything unlike the parents of today.

Anupama wants love and care from her kids. From 27 years she is trying to get love and respect for her in her 3 kids and baa bapuji vanraj mind. But only samar and bapuji accepted her. Baa never accepted her as bahu or daughter even now. Vanraj never accepted as his wife and soulmate. Wife is not only giving heirs to man is it? What respect and love vanraj gave anupama in 26 years of wedding none. The way he treated her reminds me of those slaves in 15th century at a emperors palace. They have to work free of cost at 16 hours because they are slave. They cannot marry no family no kids nothing only live and die as slaves. They cannot go out of palace. They just work and work all life like a slave for some food. Anupama was same in shah house. Atleast did her kids give some respect no. Some love and care no. Did they fight for her rights with vanraj and baa? No not even samar till dads affair is found out.

Better than such kids is souten kavya she said let anupama go and work for anuj to vanraj when he was objecting tooth and nail. She supported in anupama wedding and now when pakhi attacked her. She supports kinjal too. When enemy also supporting but your own loved ones betray you that feeling is something. It should be anupama who should have got stroke and paralysis taking so much abuse not anuj in first place.

Pakhi and toshu being fine with fathers affair and wedding and angry at maans is oblivious in a patriarchal society. In patriarchal society a man or boy can do anything its not wrong actually. But anupama is a woman or girl how dare she lives independent away from hubby and kids or parents home. How dare she love a man after first marraige? In all bollywood movies have they shown any heroine marry second after hubby gets second wife. No they alll wait wait cry and die a herat broken death or finally 2nd wife betray hubby and he returns. Which is not reality of world actually. Once a husband leaves first wife they never return to first wife they may go to 3rd wife if 2nd wife leaves.

But in movies and serials they romanticize betrayal by man or husband. Have you ever seen a tulsi or parvati leave her hubby and marry another man? But hubby marries two three in movie and serial and first wife will keep crying and sobbing till she die alone. But thought of another man never should come in her mind or shes a bad woman. That is how asian society is hubby marry 10 also, wife cannot think of marrying another man. Anupama broke this tradition so Pakhi and Toshu are in shock.

In asian society no one will get anuj even a 45 year old man marries a 25 year old wife only not a 45 year old divorce mom of 3 kids who is beyond age of reproducing or giving heirs. So anuj is a rare man. Anupama is not super rich than may be for wealth a man will marry 45 year old divroce 3 moms in asia. But anupama is not educated not rich lower middle class yet anuj married her. Shahs cannot digest that ok

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I do not think anupama expects a lot from her kids. Else she would force them to join dance and sports competitions and to get 90% like todays parents etc. She never forced them for anything unlike the parents of today.

Anupama wants love and care from her kids. From 27 years she is trying to get love and respect for her in her 3 kids and baa bapuji vanraj mind. But only samar and bapuji accepted her. Baa never accepted her as bahu or daughter even now. Vanraj never accepted as his wife and soulmate. Wife is not only giving heirs to man is it? What respect and love vanraj gave anupama in 26 years of wedding none. The way he treated her reminds me of those slaves in 15th century at a emperors palace. They have to work free of cost at 16 hours because they are slave. They cannot marry no family no kids nothing only live and die as slaves. They cannot go out of palace. They just work and work all life like a slave for some food. Anupama was same in shah house. Atleast did her kids give some respect no. Some love and care no. Did they fight for her rights with vanraj and baa? No not even samar till dads affair is found out.

Better than such kids is souten kavya she said let anupama go and work for anuj to vanraj when he was objecting tooth and nail. She supported in anupama wedding and now when pakhi attacked her. She supports kinjal too. When enemy also supporting but your own loved ones betray you that feeling is something. It should be anupama who should have got stroke and paralysis taking so much abuse not anuj in first place.

Pakhi and toshu being fine with fathers affair and wedding and angry at maans is oblivious in a patriarchal society. In patriarchal society a man or boy can do anything its not wrong actually. But anupama is a woman or girl how dare she lives independent away from hubby and kids or parents home. How dare she love a man after first marraige? In all bollywood movies have they shown any heroine marry second after hubby gets second wife. No they alll wait wait cry and die a herat broken death or finally 2nd wife betray hubby and he returns. Which is not reality of world actually. Once a husband leaves first wife they never return to first wife they may go to 3rd wife if 2nd wife leaves.

But in movies and serials they romanticize betrayal by man or husband. Have you ever seen a tulsi or parvati leave her hubby and marry another man? But hubby marries two three in movie and serial and first wife will keep crying and sobbing till she die alone. But thought of another man never should come in her mind or shes a bad woman. That is how asian society is hubby marry 10 also, wife cannot think of marrying another man. Anupama broke this tradition so Pakhi and Toshu are in shock.

In asian society no one will get anuj even a 45 year old man marries a 25 year old wife only not a 45 year old divorce mom of 3 kids who is beyond age of reproducing or giving heirs. So anuj is a rare man. Anupama is not super rich than may be for wealth a man will marry 45 year old divroce 3 moms in asia. But anupama is not educated not rich lower middle class yet anuj married her. Shahs cannot digest that ok

I agree with all that you said

I just forgot to add one very important line in my previous post. That was when they all said that a man has a right to do anything he wants. Then Anuj too is right in his choice to marry Anu because he loves her and what would Paakhi and Toshu do if Anuj Married Anu on that Diwali Night

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Anupama wants love and care from her kids. From 27 years she is trying to get love and respect for her in her 3 kids and baa bapuji vanraj mind.

@ Bold. This is the issue here. The love that she expects from them is wrong. The long lecture that she gave to them after the dance competition holds no value after the recent episodes. That episode clearly showed that Anu had had enough of them all but the recent episodes became a repeat of that.

And this was not the first or second time but dont know which no of times that these kids were rude to her and yet she keeps forgiving and yearning for their love. Why. When you showed them the mirror that night, stand by it and dont go telling them that you need them for whatever reason be it because she is their mother or they are her kids or even to Baa too.

And always Anu's reason is she is a mother so she should have a very big heart to forgive. Why. I agree that mothers are more emotional towards their kids but when these same kids dont value your love, sacrifices then you too should not care for their everyday little needs. Show them too that you are hurt by them.

When she can give Mukku all that lecture for Anuj then why cant she give it to her two kids, whom she has more rights over them.

Better than such kids is souten kavya she said let anupama go and work for anuj to vanraj when he was objecting tooth and nail. She supported in anupama wedding and now when pakhi attacked her. She supports kinjal too.

I agree and that's why Kavya is the best.

When enemy also supporting but your own loved ones betray you that feeling is something. It should be anupama who should have got stroke and paralysis taking so much abuse not anuj in first place.

This I completely agree and I have too seen this in my life because this happened with my father too. And it was my mother who stood by him and not letting him break no matter what. She was just like Anuj and even better than him too.

I agree that it was a completely wrong move by the makers to make Anuj go through this illness instead of Anupama. I even mentioned this in other topic yesterday. Anu going through this track would change the dynamics of the whole show. Her going through this will only open those kids eyes completely and Anuj making them yearn for her just like how she yearned for them would have been a must watch for all.

If the makers want to show that Anu will do everything and even make Anuj better then this is a very silly move according to me. Because this would have been a perfect parallel for Anuj here so that he could repay that nights deed to her.

I still don't know who gave that idea to them. Did they take it from somewhere or did they think that since Gaurav did this paralysis track once before so it will be easy for him to do it again. And if Anu makes Anuj better will it be the end with the Shah for her. I dont think so by seeing the track record of the show.

This same paralysis track that Gaurav did in his old show made all the fans hate the FL Character of that show so if Anu still goes to Shah house After this track the same hatred will happen here too for her.

Anupama is an overindulgent mother and it has consequences . It makes the children rebellious and stubborn ..

And what exactly will anupama teach her children when she can't tell the difference between right and wrong ? It's good that her children are different from her but she keeps confusing them with her life lessons. When they will have a great fall they will automatically learn ....Anuj and choti anu will only see suffering through anupama , they won't learn any values other than how to be a perfect doormat.

Ye sab phamily ko saath rakhna is crap if one person is always giving and others are always taking.