Bade Achhe Lagte hain 2 EDT #38 - Page 61

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

here🤣

Another lollipop 🤔 Disha is looking lovely in this saree though

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Originally posted by: oye_nakhrewaali

i love how the media cares about his kid more than this🤣atleast they got some part about actual reality right🤣

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

🤣🤣🤣 Pura screen play likh di? 🤣 Waise, something of this sort should happen…

I was thinking of the same too, in that way, we are behens from other mothers😆

Remember the Holi song sequence?

After *Aye zindagi, there is *lag jaa gale sequence nah?

For which they should get pri drunk as well…

post that, it will be ram holding pri’s pallu ☺️

and goes hum tum kitne paas hai kitne door hai Chand sitaare… ☺️

Please ab naye gaane lao iss show mein yaar... main thak gayi... pak gayi yeh sun sun kar!

Originally posted by: SummerBorn

no! I have a better idea.

They will sha*k it up before sara vik ki wedding.... have a REAL WEAK MOMENT...

Ghar se niklenge dono ek pair of clothes pehan kar... have a weak moment in some motel or car or jungle, whatever.... come back home in a new pair of clothes reminding nandininof the lie she told ram all those years bacj and applying the same logic to this scenario and then setting out on an agenda to find out the truth... but in the mean time ram being virile leads to the weak moment into priya getting pregnant again... she gets behoshnis sara vik ki shadi... doctor comes and reveals that she is pregnant... kanika questions the legitimacy of the baby... ram gets angry says "enough" and takes priya by her hand to sara viki ka mandap... they'd have been married by then but he asks panditiji to stop and do the rituals for raya ki shadi... panditji khush... double kamai ho gayi do shadi karvake unki.... then they go to nandini to take her ashirwad... and she asks... but ram yeh kab kahan kaise hua... he tells her how it rained, they got stuck in a motel and did gulu gulu... so nandinj asks but how do you know about reproduction when i made sure you dont study that chapter.... so proya intervenes and enlightens her by saying she had ram enrolled in a sex ed crash course five years ago... and also then extends her monologue to reveal that that is how pihu came into being- ram was prqctising what he learnt in the crash course. Nandini behosh.... khane mein khayenge sab roghan gosh... aur badhega sabke dil ka josh...

Originally posted by: ajacob31

Based on today’s precap, there’ll be a change of cllothes by Priya again based on Ram’s dialogue. Another hilarious assumption by Ram would be, Priya like to have sex with Krish when she’s in distress, be it after kidnapping and now she has hurt herself with a vase!! I don’t believe I just said this!!🫢😭🤢

Originally posted by: ajacob31

I hate the fact that Priya somehow feels she has the right to decide for everyone. She doesn’t have the capability to think of the repercussions of her decisions, how it can make or break a person/persons involved! I also have a problem when this is glorified as sacrifice for the greater good. I felt most of her decisions for the greater good were disastrous, be it when MS tried to murder, assuming to slander Ram on national TV based on her assumptions, Shivi murder, her pregnancy. I hope the CVs fix this and make her accountable for her wrongs too along with Ram. Ram has done equally wrong by never trusting or supporting her. She needed his support when she went to jail. He just left her there for the good human he is!! I don’t blame Priya for leaning to Krish more now because that’s where she gets the support and help she needs…..

priya doesn’t just decide things for others, she abandons herself while making others comfortable( in her head, as in what she thinks that it must be comforting to the other person)

there are people who decide for others, like how meera decided for pri to leave km… like how Nandu decided for ram’s marriage to let pri go later… these decisions for others is different, it is making the other person do things with/without their rationale involved.

Self abandon is someone else decided something and makes her see they are comfortable that way… she will do things at the cost of her own rights/comfort/love/ even her own life to give them that… Similar to Ram.

I don’t know if you remember our discussions previously regarding maternal attachment types affecting both ram and pri … that pri has somewhat secure kind of attachment, while ram has insecure kind of attachment…

But maternal attachment is more than that…

As babies we are primed to look for and notice how our Mothers are feeling. We learn to scan her facial expression, tone of voice, eye contact from a very young age. It’s part of our survival mechanism (“if Mum is ok then I’m ok”) . That is why they say “A child needs a Happy Mom” not just any mom!

Now, pri is trying to give that stability to Pihu emotionally and temperamentally and making her conscientious self to seek for her own self and making her own self respect a priority.

Now, compare it to Pri herself, or even Ram… and their attachment with their moms:

if Mother communicated consistently that she wasn’t ok at some fundamental level, it takes it’s toll. If child got the sense that she somehow needed to be looked after, that she needed advice, that her self-esteem was often low, that she struggled to establish and use support, that she couldn’t quite care for herself. All of this is alarming to children (even those that seem ‘resilient’)​​​​​​​​

​​​​​​​​​​The impact is often that you learn to self-abandon. That kid becomes used to focusing on Mother’s needs instead of its own.

That kid then get used to ensuring the people around him/her are ok, before checking in with themselves.

That they settle into a pattern of disconnecting from themselves to make more room for other people. ​​​​​​​​

So, Ram and Pri not prioritising eo/themselves/ their own damn relationship … is not a surprise and the fact that they didn’t sit to decipher what is what together, and let their families make and take advantage of their self abandonment issues….

And it resulted in their biggest, cruelest, rather irrevocable hit on each other’s support systems that they have become to eo in the short amount of time they spent together.

‘Family keliye’ Aad me, they both forgot that they are eo’s Family first.🤷‍♀️

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

this requires a deep psyche dive, but I will shorten it and try to give a gist…

priya doesn’t just decide things for others, she abandons herself while making others comfortable( in her head, as in what she thinks that it must be comforting to the other person)

there are people who decide for others, like how meera decided for pri to leave km… like how Nandu decided for ram’s marriage to let pri go later… these decisions for others is different, it is making the other person do things with/without their rationale involved.

Self abandon is someone else decided something and makes her see they are comfortable that way… she will do things at the cost of her own rights/comfort/love/ even her own life to give them that… Similar to Ram.

I don’t know if you remember our discussions previously regarding maternal attachment types affecting both ram and pri … that pri has somewhat secure kind of attachment, while ram has insecure kind of attachment…

But maternal attachment is more than that…

As babies we are primed to look for and notice how our Mothers are feeling. We learn to scan her facial expression, tone of voice, eye contact from a very young age. It’s part of our survival mechanism (“if Mum is ok then I’m ok”) . That is why they say “A child needs a Happy Mom” not just any mom!

Now, pri is trying to give that stability to Pihu emotionally and temperamentally and making her conscientious self to seek for her own self and making her own self respect a priority.

Now, compare it to Pri herself, or even Ram… and their attachment with their moms:

if Mother communicated consistently that she wasn’t ok at some fundamental level, it takes it’s toll. If child got the sense that she somehow needed to be looked after, that she needed advice, that her self-esteem was often low, that she struggled to establish and use support, that she couldn’t quite care for herself. All of this is alarming to children (even those that seem ‘resilient’)​​​​​​​​

​​​​​​​​​​The impact is often that you learn to self-abandon. That kid becomes used to focusing on Mother’s needs instead of its own.

That kid then get used to ensuring the people around him/her are ok, before checking in with themselves.

That they settle into a pattern of disconnecting from themselves to make more room for other people. ​​​​​​​​

So, Ram and Pri not prioritising eo/themselves/ their own damn relationship … is not a surprise and the fact that they didn’t sit to decipher what is what together, and let their families make and take advantage of their self abandonment issues….

And it resulted in their biggest, cruelest, rather irrevocable hit on each other’s support systems that they have become to eo in the short amount of time they spent together.

‘Family keliye’ Aad me, they both forgot that they are eo’s Family first.🤷‍♀️

It's good to see you back Doc 🤗

You make very good points. Actually I had written an MBTI personality analysis for Ram and Priya in one of the EDTs (probably #36 or #37 or #35) to make a connection between their pre leap and post leap avatars. I couldn't find the link atm, but if I find it I'll post its link for you .

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

this requires a deep psyche dive, but I will shorten it and try to give a gist…

priya doesn’t just decide things for others, she abandons herself while making others comfortable( in her head, as in what she thinks that it must be comforting to the other person)

there are people who decide for others, like how meera decided for pri to leave km… like how Nandu decided for ram’s marriage to let pri go later… these decisions for others is different, it is making the other person do things with/without their rationale involved.

Self abandon is someone else decided something and makes her see they are comfortable that way… she will do things at the cost of her own rights/comfort/love/ even her own life to give them that… Similar to Ram.

I don’t know if you remember our discussions previously regarding maternal attachment types affecting both ram and pri … that pri has somewhat secure kind of attachment, while ram has insecure kind of attachment…

But maternal attachment is more than that…

As babies we are primed to look for and notice how our Mothers are feeling. We learn to scan her facial expression, tone of voice, eye contact from a very young age. It’s part of our survival mechanism (“if Mum is ok then I’m ok”) . That is why they say “A child needs a Happy Mom” not just any mom!

Now, pri is trying to give that stability to Pihu emotionally and temperamentally and making her conscientious self to seek for her own self and making her own self respect a priority.

Now, compare it to Pri herself, or even Ram… and their attachment with their moms:

if Mother communicated consistently that she wasn’t ok at some fundamental level, it takes it’s toll. If child got the sense that she somehow needed to be looked after, that she needed advice, that her self-esteem was often low, that she struggled to establish and use support, that she couldn’t quite care for herself. All of this is alarming to children (even those that seem ‘resilient’)​​​​​​​​

​​​​​​​​​​The impact is often that you learn to self-abandon. That kid becomes used to focusing on Mother’s needs instead of its own.

That kid then get used to ensuring the people around him/her are ok, before checking in with themselves.

That they settle into a pattern of disconnecting from themselves to make more room for other people. ​​​​​​​​

So, Ram and Pri not prioritising eo/themselves/ their own damn relationship … is not a surprise and the fact that they didn’t sit to decipher what is what together, and let their families make and take advantage of their self abandonment issues….

And it resulted in their biggest, cruelest, rather irrevocable hit on each other’s support systems that they have become to eo in the short amount of time they spent together.

‘Family keliye’ Aad me, they both forgot that they are eo’s Family first.🤷‍♀️

Bang on❤️!! Love this psyche analysis of Ram and Priya and what propels them towards negating eo's needs vis-a-vis their families' needs. They are a replica of eo. Its just that both have found different coping mechanisms...Ram in a very emotional/sentimental way and Priya in a more balanced and rational way. He gives in easily and goes with the flow suppressing his true self under the cool demeanour and she builds a wall around her heart and puts on a tough cookie act! And in Ram's case add to that constant gaslighting by Nandini and one can see why he acquiesces to her every wish!

His deep insecurities around Priya also stem from abandonment issues. Added to that is the fact that both have a very different expression of love. Ram is someone who likes to express his love openly, through words through gestures, big and small. Priya mostly expresses her love for Ram through her actions and care. Before leap Ram constantly yearned for her to express it more overtly but the one or two times she finally did it was only under duress or rather when she was really provoked like that day in the cafe. Had they got enough time after that and Priya had learnt to show her love for Ram more overtly he might have grown more confident in her love. But they did not get that time. And Ram loves Priya very passionately and possessively...her love is more calm and balanced. Sometimes when partners have very different love languages, it can cause some insecurities esp in the early years of a relationship. Once you start understanding your partner better you become comfortable in their unique expression of love. And people learn to express in ways that make the other feel special. Ram and Priya got about six- eight months together and out of that the first few were just fire fighting and trying to understand eo. And with all the family baggage around them and the terrible tragedy they both went into their respective survival mode post leap.

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

this requires a deep psyche dive, but I will shorten it and try to give a gist…

priya doesn’t just decide things for others, she abandons herself while making others comfortable( in her head, as in what she thinks that it must be comforting to the other person)

there are people who decide for others, like how meera decided for pri to leave km… like how Nandu decided for ram’s marriage to let pri go later… these decisions for others is different, it is making the other person do things with/without their rationale involved.

Self abandon is someone else decided something and makes her see they are comfortable that way… she will do things at the cost of her own rights/comfort/love/ even her own life to give them that… Similar to Ram.

I don’t know if you remember our discussions previously regarding maternal attachment types affecting both ram and pri … that pri has somewhat secure kind of attachment, while ram has insecure kind of attachment…

But maternal attachment is more than that…

As babies we are primed to look for and notice how our Mothers are feeling. We learn to scan her facial expression, tone of voice, eye contact from a very young age. It’s part of our survival mechanism (“if Mum is ok then I’m ok”) . That is why they say “A child needs a Happy Mom” not just any mom!

Now, pri is trying to give that stability to Pihu emotionally and temperamentally and making her conscientious self to seek for her own self and making her own self respect a priority.

Now, compare it to Pri herself, or even Ram… and their attachment with their moms:

if Mother communicated consistently that she wasn’t ok at some fundamental level, it takes it’s toll. If child got the sense that she somehow needed to be looked after, that she needed advice, that her self-esteem was often low, that she struggled to establish and use support, that she couldn’t quite care for herself. All of this is alarming to children (even those that seem ‘resilient’)​​​​​​​​

​​​​​​​​​​The impact is often that you learn to self-abandon. That kid becomes used to focusing on Mother’s needs instead of its own.

That kid then get used to ensuring the people around him/her are ok, before checking in with themselves.

That they settle into a pattern of disconnecting from themselves to make more room for other people. ​​​​​​​​

So, Ram and Pri not prioritising eo/themselves/ their own damn relationship … is not a surprise and the fact that they didn’t sit to decipher what is what together, and let their families make and take advantage of their self abandonment issues….

And it resulted in their biggest, cruelest, rather irrevocable hit on each other’s support systems that they have become to eo in the short amount of time they spent together.

‘Family keliye’ Aad me, they both forgot that they are eo’s Family first.🤷‍♀️

U explained it really well 👏 If your parent keeps cribbing or crying all the time in front of you, it takes a toll and you will never be able to enjoy a proper childhood bcoz u become the responsible one. I know Nandu manipulated Priya and Priya thought she was acting in Ram's best interests but to deprive him of his biggest joy especially when he came to her, since she kept others above herself - if she could keep Nandu and Shivi upon herself, then going by that logic Ram should have been higher up the ladder. I wish she had spared a thought as to how he will feel. She might be distancing herself to not torture Ram further. Had Priya found out about the pregnancy later after she took the call of leaving Ram, even that would be acceptable. She would still be abandoning herself but without breaking Ram the way she did. That's my only complaint with Priya.