Originally posted by: CoffeeCake
He had never dictated his terms on Asamara. He had never asked her to compromise with anything, he had just asked her to grow up with time. He was kind of practical person. Asamara was just wasting her time hanging around with friends when she should be making career after university or go for higher education. With your logic, Asamara and Kashaf both were aware that Zaroon was a flirt, Kashaf had even memorised the name of his girlfriends, and still accepted him which means she should not have any objection if Zaroon had continued to have affairs after marriage because that was his lifestyle before marriage and she accepted him with that lifestyle. You can't keep behaving same at every stage of your life because you were like that once upon a time.
Zaroon had never asked Asamara to not hang out with friends when he himself used do that. He asked her to do something productive after university when he himself had stopped flirting or hanging around with friends. Asamara had no goal in life except living luxaries life with father's money first and husband's money later just hanging around with friends and doing parties. That was Zaroon's concern with almost every woman in his life.
Hanging out with friends or going out or not having career goals isn't same as flirting with multiple girls. It's about loyalty and it was never shown that Asmara was disloyal towards zaroon.
If Asmara don't want to have a career and wants to be a housewife there is nothing wrong in it. Even ushna don't seems to have much career goals and might be a housewife. Zaroor clearly knew Asmara wasn't his ideal type and still went on with the engagement simply because he though she will become like how he wants her to be. Zaroor had a problem that Asmara don't have a career goal and he also had a problem that his mother is too career oriented. The point is he don't have a right to tell how a woman should be. His father accepted the fact that his wife is career oriented and made sure he is their for the kids when his wife is not. It's not like zaroon never had any parental guidence in life but he wanted his mother to be there because that's what patriarchy says. It's the mother's job to look after the children and he grew up seeing other mother's being involved with every single thing of their children like naeema naagin or raeesa. So he thought thats how his mother should be as well. He never looked at the brighter side. His mother gave him space to make his own decisions and made him an independent guy. Even though she had a dislike towards kasaf she never tried to interfere in their marriage.
If it was his father that was career oriented zaroon would have never called him out. Because one don't expect father's to be there for everything. It's the mother's duty.
If women around him was partying or spending their dad's money it's not his concern. If he don't want girls like that in his life it's totally fine but saying those women are wrong to live like that and should live how he thinks a good woman should live like is the problem.
He wants women to balance their career and personal life perfectly and if they have to choose b/w the both he wants them to choose the latter. Some women won't be able to do it and there is nothing wrong with it. They are human beings as well. Saying that those women are wrong is unacceptable. Like not every man can handle their professional and personal life women with a career won't be able to do it as well.