Views on family's reaction towards Anu - Page 2

Originally posted by: Koms9

Keeping my opinion about this adoption sequence aside, I feel sorry for Anu and Anuj, as they do not have a family who is happy in their happiness. When they have forgotten/forgiven/accepted every mistake/crime/misbehavior and are still doing it plus helping every individual in this family with all that they have!

In real life I might have experienced some of it and I felt suffocated. I wonder how these two feel for having to justify every action while they have sacrificed for every individual in the family one way or another.

Also it is not weird at all for Anuj to want a baby at this time. We all evolve with time and we do not seek same things throughout our lives. As Anuj fulfilled his dream to marry Anu, he moved on to seek next thing in his life. A kid, a complete family for himself. I am not saying only a kid completes your family btw.

All of the family members expressed their selfish reasons for not accepting that little kid, that itself shows how true their love is. There is nothing wrong for Anupama to accept adopting Anu for the man who has fulfilled her every dream and loves/respects

and by the way my 5yr old and 7 yr old were much more mature and accepting with the life changes they had to deal with! Anupama's 20+ kids, please grow up! Toshu and Kinjal do not need anyone else but themselves to raise their baby. Off course they will need guidance, but they cannot stop someone else from living their lives just because they did not use protection.

About Baa and Vanraj's reaction, I don't give a hoot as they are not family members per my opinion.

First of all thanks for tagging me. I did not know you are also a mom, I would have tagged you in my other post and would love to read your opinion as well.

When you love someone so much that you even sacrifice yourself for them and in return they don't even think two cents about you hurts a lot, a lot. I understand that for Anupama's kids it would have been an unwanted surprise but the least they could do is trust their mom. That mom who did so much for them. I have a younger brother and I won't lie that even I have felt the jealousy that my mom loves him more because he is a boy 😅. But over time I have realized that she loves both of us equally and since I am elder she expects me to behave rationally. A mom can definitely be little partial towards one of the children but no way she can stop loving any of them.

I wanted the makers to show Anuj's bond evolving with Anupama's children. In my personal experience, I have seen children considering someone else as their father/mother figure because of many reasons. So that is not something uncommon.

About love, I said in my other post that I do not like the way love is portrayed in ITV: claiming ownership of someone's life, having over the top expectations, making someone dependent on yourself etc etc. Mostly people love anyone because of a reason and when that reason cease to exist we get to see the real love. That is what happened in Anuj's/Anupama's case. All of them have their expectations and reasons. They saw their expectations might not be fulfilled hence the reaction. I have always thought love in any form is unconditional but lately I have realized it is not, there always would be a reason.

"Family could be a lot of things, beautiful, strong, helpful, supportive and it could also be choking. The expectations family places on you could be the burden that will ruin you." - Credit to the owner.

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Originally posted by: Koms9

Tagging some more.

Thank you for the tag babe.. feels good to read something that is not "sab anupama ki galti hain" 😆

Reaction of children seeing little anu as child of anupama and anuj is laughable as well irritated too

Little anu ki requirements alag hai according to age and yeh toshu pakhi bache Jo bade ho gaye hai unki requirements alag hai according to age to phir yeh jalan yeh gussa, kis bsat ka when their requirements abd little anu requirements are not same

Matlsb अगर anupama anuj little anu ke liye toys chocolate ice cream use park mein ghumane le jaate hai

To toshu pakhi ko bhi little anu ki tarah toys chocoate chahiye inhe lagta hai अगर little anu aayyegi to mummy hame toys chocoate nahi degi

Matlsb is umre mein yeh bade bache apni mummy se yrh expect kRte ni inhe toddler ki treat kiya jaaye aur yah bade dukhi ho jaayenge ki agar mummy inke liye chocoate toys laakar nahi degi instead little anu ko laakur degi

More over another thi g is so irritated when couple get married then after marriage bache ke bare mein sochna it is natiral

Are anu own children not seeing that maam are married and for married couple it is natural to extend their families . Sabhi married couple apni family ko extend karne ki sichte है chahe adipt karke ya khud paida karke to isme itna shock hone ki kya baat hai. Jo yeh anupama ke own children aise angry reaction de rahe hai

Yeh baat to khud samjane wali baat shaadi ke baad har married couple apni family ke extend karna chah fi hai diffrence koi jaldi family extend karna chahta koi khuch ywar baad karna chahta hai

Mujhe bahut odd laga in sub ka reaction

Originally posted by: strancho

First of all thanks for tagging me. I did not know you are also a mom, I would have tagged you in my other post and would love to read your opinion as well.

When you love someone so much that you even sacrifice yourself for them and in return they don't even think two cents about you hurts a lot, a lot. I understand that for Anupama's kids it would have been an unwanted surprise but the least they could do is trust their mom. That mom who did so much for them. I have a younger brother and I won't lie that even I have felt the jealousy that my mom loves him more because he is a boy 😅. But over time I have realized that she loves both of us equally and since I am elder she expects me to behave rationally. A mom can definitely be little partial towards one of the children but no way she can stop loving any of them.

I wanted the makers to show Anuj's bond evolving with Anupama's children. In my personal experience, I have seen children considering someone else as their father/mother figure because of many reasons. So that is not something uncommon.

About love, I said in my other post that I do not like the way love is portrayed in ITV: claiming ownership of someone's life, having over the top expectations, making someone dependent on yourself etc etc. Mostly people love anyone because of a reason and when that reason cease to exist we get to see the real love. That is what happened in Anuj's/Anupama's case. All of them have their expectations and reasons. They saw their expectations might not be fulfilled hence the reaction. I have always thought love in any form is unconditional but lately I have realized it is not, there always would be a reason.

"Family could be a lot of things, beautiful, strong, helpful, supportive and it could also be choking. The expectations family places on you could be the burden that will ruin you." - Credit to the owner.

As a kid you are jealous of siblings because of favoritism played by parents

Mothers usually favourite is son and fathers favourite are girls

But once kids become big fathers tend to spend more time with sons as they inheritance like business or home

Girls do not inherit business or house usually as they marry and leave in asia atleast

Anuj cannot bomd easily with anupama kids because Baa and vanraj do not like him neither does toshu and pakhi

Toshu and pakhi have compromised because anuj is wealthy rich man and they may get benefits n future

No real love for step father

otherwise hes their mom age they call him buddy treat him like own age

we call our parents college mates also uncle aunty

In india who calls mothers age men as buddy its uncle only no if not chotte papa

Asian families tend to be forcing their expectation on mothers and kids and want them to follow family orders and commands

Whoever does not follow it is an enemy and banisjhed or treated as outsider or enemy by family be it own kids especially girls as maryada burden placed on them

Anupama brooke one family expectation by marrying anuj now shes adopted so such reactions are common

Making family member who do not obey family like criminals and emotional blackmail is common in asian family

That is what Baa vanraj and 3 kids doing to anupama and anuj now

If anuj writes 50% of his property to toshu pakhi and samar they will all be hugging and kissing little anus feet(anuj ass rather)

In this world only 2% in world may respect you based on your character and truly love you rest all are after some benefits only (apart from parents and grand parents and childhood friends and some siblings like mukku may be or some caretaker like GK)

Originally posted by: myviewprem

As a kid you are jealous of siblings because of favoritism played by parents

Mothers usually favourite is son and fathers favourite are girls

I disagree with this. My mom never did any favoritism. It was the need of the time where she had to give more attention to my brother as he was younger to me. I do agree that I was unable to understand that or my mom did not do a good job in making me understand that. But I completely disagree that parents do favoritism. Also, the saying that a son is usually mom's ladla and daughter is of dad's, I do not agree with that as well.

Originally posted by: rupsii

this!! I agree the adoption came into early. But.. in all this.. I feel like crying for Anu and Anuj. The irony of life for both of them.. all throughout their lives, all they have craved is for family, family love.. and all they have are selfish nincompoops around them.. barring a few of course..

Thank you for the tag babe.. feels good to read something that is not "sab anupama ki galti hain" 😆

Originally posted by: Koms9

"Sab Anupama ki galti hai". If she didn't take Anuj and little Anu to Shah house, I wouldn't need to make a topic.lol.. just kidding girl

Uh oh..no.. yeah right.. "sab Anupama ki galti hain.. jo ho raha hain, jo honewala hain, jo aagey hoga, jo nahi hua.. Sab sab sab "? 🤪🤣😆

Me butting in though I don't watch or have not much idea on what exactly is happening 😆

Firstly I think Anu and Anuj have the right to decide whether they want to adopt or not a child.

Secondly Anuj is in no way wrong to want a child adopted or biological with Anu now or at any point in life.

What I missed is this.

I wanted Anuj to talk... to talk openly to Anu not on his honeymoon but before the wedding about having a child... I wanted a discussion on this and then they could have gone ahead and adopted a child. It was all too rushed up and totally out of his character. Maybe because of the sudden plot change and the necessity to add whitewashing.

Next the kids. I don't know what exactly they said so I cannot comment correctly but just my pov is that they should have sat and talked to the children about the arrival of the kid before the kid actually came in. You see even if we are having a second child biologically the doctors advise us to prepare the first kid well in advance. Throughout the 9 months of pregnancy we keep mentioning about the new addition to the family preparing them and involving them in everything. If the child is very young we train them to be a bit more independent. Nowadays gynecologists ask us to bring the other kid to all scans etc so that the kid is involved and many doctors provide counseling also. During adoption process in India if there is another child in the family, there is a mandatory counseling session where the child will be prepared for the addition of the new kid. I would have wanted the couple to let the kids know. They needn't ask their permission but they should have prepared them. I know they are adults yet they just now got used to the idea that their mother can't be available for them and this would be a shock.

Now if they talked about property or nonsense like that I really don't support them... I was just talking from a realistic perspective. Again I don't know what happened in the show... so all this is a real life perspective.

I am disappointed with this track only because it came at this point of time. I wanted the couple to be explored more... something like let me kiss... vulnerabilities etc etc... they could have waited for this... oh well... we can't do anything

BTW I liked this topic😆

I don't understand ki anupama और anuj pehle se little anu ke baare mein bata ke kya karte

In teeno bachon mein to kisi ko bhi little anu ki paalne ka kisi bhi prakar koi kharchs n nahi uthana

Paalne posne ka kaam to anupama और anuj hi karenge to kis baat ke lite prepared karte in teen bachon

Ab little anu ke saath 1ghanta khelne ke liyeliye aur thodi bahut padhaai help meinn karni ke liye isme kya mentaly prepare karne ki jaroorat ह

Little anu ke saath khelna yeh kaun si bahut bhaari responsibility hai jo anupama aur anuj ke pehle se bata kur rakhna chahiye

Bol to aise rahe hai ki pehle se bataya nahi jaise in ke teen bachon ko little anu ki padhai likhai aur baad mein shaadi ka kharcha uthana hai

And supposs agar pehle se अगर inform kar bhi dete ki bacha adopt karna jaa rage to bhi kya farak padta hai yeh pakhi toshu tub bhi complained karte apni mummy se tabhi bad mouth karte ki mummy kitni selfish ho gayi

So there was no use even if anuj and anupama inform three children before adopting child

Pakhi toshu and vanraj love to blame they will find fault in anupama any how

Inhe hamessha apni maa se complain rahegi and keep blaming on anupama maa tumne aise kyon kiya waise kyon. These children specially pakhi toshu can never be satisfied they can never compromise and welcome new things