Was Anu coereced in to adopting?

After living under the shadow of others for 43 years, when Anu finally gathered the courage to start a journey towards self discovery, she got attached to a child. Motherhood is obviously not a roadblock in the journey of self discovery but it definitely is a detour. Would Anu have ever thought of adopting a child if Anuj did not persuade her? She clearly was scared and unwilling to accept this new bond, but her love and respect for Anuj manipulated her in to adopting a kid. She now thinks it's her decision. But is it actually her decision? Only the decision we take just for our happiness is our decision, all other decisions are forced on to us through physical, mental, social or financial needs. She was requested to become a mother on the 5th day of her married life by the person she loves the most. Did she actually have any options other than accepting. Anuj as a human being has every right to want to become a father. You may say parenthood is the next step of marriage, so Anupama should have been prepared to become a mother. But Anu is 45. Maybe she thought it's not possible for her to conceive naturally at this age. So the topic of motherhood never came in to her mind. But Anuj always wanted to adopt a kid. So it would have been better if he had talked about adoption and kids with Anu prior to their marriage. They discussed Bapu Ki ka Dil, Kinjal ka pallu love but did not ever think of discussing the most important thing. Now Anu will have to deal with her biological kids' insecurity, she has to rearrange her priorities. Was she ready for this change? I am not blaming AK. He would never force Anu in to something she does not like. He genuinely does not realize the mental stress Anubis going through. All of us have this pre conceived notion that motherhood is the biggest blessing for a woman and every woman wants it. But there can be some who may like to be child free or some who may want to choose the time to embrace motherhood.

I believe it was her love for Anuj that made her adopt this kid.

He loved anupamaa for 26 years...and didn't want to marry anyone else fair enough but no one stopped him from adopting kid back in U.S

If he was craving so much for a kid he could have adopted back then but just few days into your marriage and speaking to your wife adopting a kid on honeymoon was so wrong.

If he always craved for a kid he could have had a discussion with her before marriage.

To be honest this track itself is so off to me, I am not saying they should not have adopted but I never saw Anuj craving for a kid and all of a sudden during honeymoon he craved for a kid and in 2 months they are fostering this kid.

He didn't force Anupamaa to adopt Choti Anu but what can Anupamaa do when he was speaking so much about a kid in front of her?

AnujKapadia would have respected her decision if she would have not given her nod for this adoption but I think somewhere Anupamaa didn't think logically and went ahead with this adoption for the sake of AnujKapadia...

She was not forced, but she felt emotional for the man she loves and just accepted to his wishes.

After marriage anuj apni family ka khayal

On HM adoption ka khayal

Return to HM maar jaane ka khayal

Ek episode mein anuj said shah family se dur raho anu next day wahan ja kar khud rok jaata hai really

This story is NO LONGER about a woman finding her own identity beyond the shackles of family, marriage and motherhood. This story is now a narrative and a map to how to become a doormat for your ex’s family and take how to take orders from others. Its all about how to ignore your husband and put everyone else above his happiness. It is about how to deliver an hour long pravachans to everyone but never follow a word of it on your own.

Thats the true essence of this story.

This is why I am not interested in this track at all. No amount of fierce Anuj/Anupama can convince me. The root reason for him to think about adoption did not sit right with me. Did he wait for a child to have similarities with his wife to think about adoption? 😒

I agree that after getting married he may want to start a family, may want his kids who would call him dad. But the thing is I have not seen that feeling/emotion of him ever before HM. Makers could have shown him wanting his own family by looking at Anupama's kids with AnuRaj but no they decide to shove it down our throat forcefully.

Originally posted by: strancho

This is why I am not interested in this track at all. No amount of fierce Anuj/Anupama can convince me. The root reason for him to think about adoption did not sit right with me. Did he wait for a child to have similarities with his wife to think about adoption? 😒

I agree that after getting married he may want to start a family, may want his kids who would call him dad. But the thing is I have not seen that feeling/emotion of him ever before HM. Makers could have shown him wanting his own family by looking at Anupama's kids with AnuRaj but no they decide to shove it down our throat forcefully.

The idea to adopt should have come after 2-3 years of marital bliss. Which sane person decides to adopt on the 5th day of his marriage? Anuj's desire to have his own family was never shown. All of a sudden his whole world is revolving around CA. Very unrealistic.

anuj always had fatherly instinct

the way he treated mukku like a child and called her bacchi although shes 30 years

for 30 years mukku was his daughter now mukku left he wanted to flll that void

how long can his sister be his bacchi she has her own life no

so little anu took mukku place in his life again after 30 years

i do not believe that anuj had no fatherly instinct or desire of child

Mukku was his child only for 30 years especially after his parents death

he must have read her stories and sang lories to her as kid for sure

he must have become horse for her played with her as a kid as hes 14 years elder

suddenly he did not have desire to child now

Thetrickyy part is after anupama death whose does her shares in kapadia and sonsgo to toshu samar and pakhi?

Will mukku be fine with her father formed business owner beinganupama kids? after what vanraj did to her? She may oppose and not like it.Neither will mukkus kids like it

No one in world want their parents hard earned company andproperty go to non blood related kids may be step kids but not related to theirfamily

Anuj has no spine wanting to please anupama but malvika may not like kapadia and sons or her dad property being given to anupama and vanrajkids (after anuj death) or even those 3 kids staying at her dad home

To avoid this Mukku versus anupama kids at later stage they kicked mukku out of show i think