I think I am done with Abhimaniyu - Page 2

I spent a week away from this show just cause I was busy. I did hope things would have moved on by now but it seems to be getting worse in so many ways. The writing is abysmal, the characteristics of Abhira is giving me deja vu - to karthik and naira and I think that is what the writers intended. Funnily enough the UK show synopsis still mentions the show is about karthik and naira!!

They had been dragging this for 2 weeks now and it will definitely go on for another week at the most. With the drama of Mimi, well get ready for cheers, a dhamaka reunion is waiting for Abhira. Then it will be repeat, rinse and spin all over again. S3 is a rehash of Kaira.

I'm not liking Abhi at the moment. I started watching S3 for HC but honestly there is no joy in it now.

Sheesh, as a writer it hurts me to see this two characters digging themselves in deeper when all they need to do is sit down and acknowledge they hurt themselves in the midst of an argument. People in love do and say things that really cut deeper than anything anyone else can say. The fact they are not doing this just means it is dragging on for trps (aka bad writing). Random moments of long lingering looks, tripping and falling, song and dance just doesn't cut it anymore. In fact it makes them look silly and juvenile. I'm not juvenile enough to sit and watch it as well, lol.

Akshu wasn't wrong in saying he is behaving like his father. Read that again. She did not say he is like his father. There is a world of difference but his trauma is making him think the latter when she meant the former. Trauma is a difficult topic and very subjective. People need to have patience with the one undergoing it but here is what I find difficult - Abhi is a doctor, trained in these matters even if not specialising in it. His professional judgement should be to get into therapy. But nope, he is walking with blinders. Again true to life but it is very unpleasant to watch because he gets nasty and very angry. This in itself is a cycle and for that I am glad Akshu went to her parents when she did. You can love someone but take a stand against their abusiveness. yes, Abhi often borders on it by shouting, yelling and forcing someone to bend to his will, whether it is his mother or Akshu. I get it why, when he was raised in a chaotic environment (father abusive, mother submissive) he internalised his anger and helplessness (as a child) to be safe and well. However, this made him as a adult to the same thing but in his mind it is because he has to keep his loved one (mother and akshu) safe. In a nutshell, he can't cope with strong emotions or things that come along to skew his world, so he falls back to what he saw and uses his word and emotions to control events until deep inside he feels safe again. Classic behaviour of trauma and upbringing in an abusive household.

Akshu got triggered by his word. She is shown to never make mistakes and so to be told that one decision of hers - outed out to the world in the worst way possible - is a mistake, her pride and wordlview could not take it. I actually agree with Abhi, their marriage is a mistake. These two should have dated, had sex, travelled the world, made a career and then decide if they want to marry one another. LOL🤣 of course what they do is rush to marry and within the first week have so many issues that they collapse rather than work as a couple.

I just hope they actually decide to work on themselves before rushing back together. We know they well, and once again they will separate. It's in their blood after all!

I'm just interested in the adoption track. Mataji still needs to answer why the hell did she not tell any of the Birla's that Neil is their blood? - that seems to have been swept under the carpet lead by Abhi the biggest bully in this track. Oh, he cannot see his mum being questioned so who gives a fig if a child, then a man, grew up thinking he is just a poor orphan. I really liked abhi but in this track he is tarnished for me. But all is not lost, Neil will demand answers especially the way it is going. He will stand by Harsh and Abhi by Mataji. Then a total face-off will happen and more answers will come spilling out.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

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Akshu wasn't wrong in saying he is behaving like his father. Read that again. She did not say he is like his father. There is a world of difference but his trauma is making him think the latter when she meant the former. Trauma is a difficult topic and very subjective. People need to have patience with the one undergoing it but here is what I find difficult - Abhi is a doctor, trained in these matters even if not specialising in it. His professional judgement should be to get into therapy. But nope, he is walking with blinders. Again true to life but it is very unpleasant to watch because he gets nasty and very angry. This in itself is a cycle and for that I am glad Akshu went to her parents when she did. You can love someone but take a stand against their abusiveness. yes, Abhi often borders on it by shouting, yelling and forcing someone to bend to his will, whether it is his mother or Akshu. I get it why, when he was raised in a chaotic environment (father abusive, mother submissive) he internalised his anger and helplessness (as a child) to be safe and well. However, this made him as a adult to the same thing but in his mind it is because he has to keep his loved one (mother and akshu) safe. In a nutshell, he can't cope with strong emotions or things that come along to skew his world, so he falls back to what he saw and uses his word and emotions to control events until deep inside he feels safe again. Classic behaviour of trauma and upbringing in an abusive household.

I'm just interested in the adoption track. Mataji still needs to answer why the hell did she not tell any of the Birla's that Neil is their blood? -

Pehle toh mataji won't answer any question now. The matter is done and dusted . She told parth that she did what she thought was best in everybody's Interest , if it's a mistake then be it. She didn't even give a proper reasoning behind not signing the divorce papers. They will play a lot of ye rishta kya kehlata hais on harsh and manjari mata bec like akshu said in their world , relationships are mended , not broken.

Reg abhi, I like your perspective and I agree with it ..however , his anger never spilled onto his professional life . Under the most stressful situations , he has managed well , plus , he is pleasant with his team, with his staff and his patients . This , Inspite of having so many problems at a personal level , is quite a feet. As a doctor he performed his duties well .

Trauma I agree is subjective , and mostly it's not handled well in TV shows, coz thychage everything for trps , but specifically abhimanyus character has been very to the point about it , to us , the audience, his wife and his mother ..bec he normally pours his heart out to these 2 women only....we know exactly what troubles him .

There is a basic diff between him and akshu. He cannot pretend / play mind games / lie to keep family happy... He has seen his mom doing it all her life and now akshu,it's a major trigger for him . From the first day he has been saying that he is pure hearted.... Akshu is totally the opposite . She can endure any amount of pain / hurt coming from the family , lie for them to protect them . He finds himself helpless with manjari now when akshu also acts like manjari , he loses it completely.

Suppose If he doesn't protest against harsh openly, how will the Birla family be? Harsh and manjari will be like akshu aroo , worse than them....abhimanyu the mute spectator will be like , bhaad mein jaaye sab main chala hospital.. Is it really the good way to be ? Any child who witnesses his mother being abused will hate his father and try his best to protect his mom but when he tries to , she shut him up bec it's her life and apni life ko koi jhand kare kisi ko kya ? He is damned if he speaks damned if he doesn't.

We need to understand the context behind his anger, his shouting and yelling , which akshu also fails to.... not sure about therapy but he needs love and support from the 2 very imp people in his life . Sad. He loves 2 women who will never support him...should he become like manjari and akshu ? Quietly take abuses and wait for that one fine day when the family will shower their love back ? That will be unbearable.

Naira.also tried to push kartik towards goenkas , which backfired on her badly. The same family never supported her and praised her only after her death😆

Originally posted by: _charu_

Pehle toh mataji won't answer any question now. The matter is done and dusted . She told parth that she did what she thought was best in everybody's Interest , if it's a mistake then be it. She didn't even give a proper reasoning behind not signing the divorce papers. They will play a lot of ye rishta kya kehlata hais on harsh and manjari mata bec like akshu said in their world , relationships are mended , not broken.

Reg abhi, I like your perspective and I agree with it ..however , his anger never spilled onto his professional life . Under the most stressful situations , he has managed well , plus , he is pleasant with his team, with his staff and his patients . This , Inspite of having so many problems at a personal level , is quite a feet. As a doctor he performed his duties well .

Trauma I agree is subjective , and mostly it's not handled well in TV shows, coz thychage everything for trps , but specifically abhimanyus character has been very to the point about it , to us , the audience, his wife and his mother ..bec he normally pours his heart out to these 2 women only....we know exactly what troubles him .

There is a basic diff between him and akshu. He cannot pretend / play mind games / lie to keep family happy... He has seen his mom doing it all her life and now akshu,it's a major trigger for him . From the first day he has been saying that he is pure hearted.... Akshu is totally the opposite . She can endure any amount of pain / hurt coming from the family , lie for them to protect them . He finds himself helpless with manjari now when akshu also acts like manjari , he loses it completely.

Suppose If he doesn't protest against harsh openly, how will the Birla family be? Harsh and manjari will be like akshu aroo , worse than them....abhimanyu the mute spectator will be like , bhaad mein jaaye sab main chala hospital.. Is it really the good way to be ? Any child who witnesses his mother being abused will hate his father and try his best to protect his mom but when he tries to , she shut him up bec it's her life and apni life ko koi jhand kare kisi ko kya ? He is damned if he speaks damned if he doesn't.

We need to understand the context behind his anger, his shouting and yelling , which akshu also fails to.... not sure about therapy but he needs love and support from the 2 very imp people in his life . Sad. He loves 2 women who will never support him...should he become like manjari and akshu ? Quietly take abuses and wait for that one fine day when the family will shower their love back ? That will be unbearable.

Naira.also tried to push kartik towards goenkas , which backfired on her badly. The same family never supported her and praised her only after her death😆

@ red, yeah agree. However, it is done to extreme by both of them. Akshu pretending to be happy, singing like she is in the sound of music had me cringing. The fact is, Akshu also has trauma and this is her way of coping with it. It's actually very unhealthy, one day she will just start screaming and never stop!

I just wish Indian shows will do these topics justice but as we know they won't. Both of them have very complex and dark childhood, I would have loved to see them bonding over it, deciding to get therapy and then living their life. Now that would have been a better S3.

Neil adoption revelation is not over. It looks like it, but it isn't. The anger in him is boiling, nicely spiced by Arohi - their track will come to life due to their bonding over this - and soon he and Abhi will face off and then Mataji has to give some answers. Perhaps she will run away for couple of years a la Naira!😆

When you have people with trauma, therapy/counselling is always needed. No matter how much of a loving tribe you have around you the inner child needs healing and only an expert can help with that. But yes, first the person needing it needs to want that help. This is why I wasn't annoyed with Akshu interfering with Mataji's divorce. The fact was Abhi, driven by his trauma, was steamrolling his mother. He could not see he was behaving exactly like his father. Akshu is right, mataji has to make that decision. After her sudden lightbulb moment on Saturday I am thinking, could it be that we will see a divorce in S3 between parents?...then nah, what they will show is Harsh being whitewashed, the credit will go to Akshu of course.

Abhi can't expect Akshu to read his mind. He needs to spell it out to her and then he will get the support. This is true to life. Many of us think our partners can read our mind, get upset when they don't. Duh, it's because they can't,everything needs to be verbalised. Abhi isn't there but I think umpteen time of yelling, shouting and separating he will eventually say what he needs from her. As for his mother, the time for protecting is over but I understand it is hard for him to stop. She is an adult and making her decision, he needs to step back. Honestly the best thing will be for him to move out so he is not triggered by seeing his parents. They are too set in their ways to change, he will become mentally ill trying to get his mother to see from his POV. It is hard but that's the reality.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

When you have people with trauma, therapy/counselling is always needed. No matter how much of a loving tribe you have around you the inner child needs healing and only an expert can help with that. But yes, first the person needing it needs to want that help. This is why I wasn't annoyed with Akshu interfering with Mataji's divorce. The fact was Abhi, driven by his trauma, was steamrolling his mother. He could not see he was behaving exactly like his father. Akshu is right, mataji has to make that decision. After her sudden lightbulb moment on Saturday I am thinking, could it be that we will see a divorce in S3 between parents?...then nah, what they will show is Harsh being whitewashed, the credit will go to Akshu of course.

Abhi can't expect Akshu to read his mind. He needs to spell it out to her and then he will get the support. This is true to life. Many of us think our partners can read our mind, get upset when they don't. Duh, it's because they can't,everything needs to be verbalised.

As for his mother, the time for protecting is over but I understand it is hard for him to stop. She is an adult and making her decision, he needs to step back. Honestly the best thing will be for him to move out so he is not triggered by seeing his parents. They are too set in their ways to change, he will become mentally ill trying to get his mother to see from his POV. It is hard but that's the reality.

they won't go the therapy route , we all know this . 😆 And then he chose his personal music therapist.

Jokes apart , he has been very clear , he has always spelt out what's exactly troubling him since the beginning ..there is no confusion abt reading his mind ..I dunno what akshu wants..that he does what she and manjari tells him ? Or to keep quiet and let them take abuses , and wait for spring ? He won't as he is his own person , likewise manju and akshu won't change. Abhi also needs to understand. Dono pagal hai family ke peeche. 😅

Abt the divorce , abhi steamrolling his mother, we have diff views on that ..although his intention is correct but may be this wasn't the right time , plus , knowing his idhar udhar mata , he should have figured it out by now that she won't leave harsh no matter what .....Exactly what you said , anyone will turn mentally ill

Akshu got involved uselessly , she need to understand that she can help everyone more by not directly involving herself in every matter. Manjari wouldn't have signed , akshu or no akshu . If akshu didn't stand in between them that day, may be she would have got the chance to calm abhimanyu down and explain him that thy need to give manjari time.

Now if akshu believes that divorce idea is wrong in totality, she is truly thinking like manjari which is wrong as per me but it's subjective. This is the best way to punish harsh. Like we saw , he is back to his own devious ways , worse than that probably .

Neil can try his best bringing out fatherly love from harsh 😆 max he will allow harsh for pagdi rasm. We have another fool standing in queue for harshs affection. If neil supports harsh, he will have abhimanyus wrath ..another one in queue after manju and akshu 😆 everything for a worthless man like harsh , this is what pains me. What r they fighting for 🤢