Originally posted by: Azured
Oh indeed! Being 20 or 35 is no excuse to be so rude, especially when it is uncalled for!
She is angry with him, understandably so. Doubts his every rescue moment - alright. The why - she certainly has a right to question, and should have done it earlier too, when he kept insisting on the no friends. But nonetheless, the fact remains that he did rescue her, time and time again. And she just had a flash back the day before. So it's not so far from mind.
And for that simple act of reaching out and helping or rescuing her during her time of need - be it through a place to stay, means to earn honorably, standing up for her (definitely revenge plans didn't require him to in front of senior Mrs C) and rescuing her life -- those demand simple human courtesy - modicum of respect, appreciation and gratitude. His motives do not take away his acts of kindness.
When the ex and sis were showering wonderful words of appreciation, she didn't squeek. The max retort was an oh you disrespected me publicly, but I didn't react and cry.
And here it's so easy to call into question another person's honor/ character. Did she try saying no first? Did it go unheard? Just jumped to baseless almost accusatory ?
Also @JJ:
Just because this is the one person before whom she can speak any which thing? That's not right neither should she nor he be consciously spiteful! She should call him out on his actions too, just without being too insulting!
There's is this scene after the wedding when he's sympathetic to her amazing return gift of take back you overflowing love gesture. He says words have more potential to hurt?
And they are in this mess coz someone was too careless with his words, and then was even more careless in cleaning that mess up and got sloshed instead. So words - yes, that she uses soooooo carefully under any stressful situation with everyone else.. can't just get vitriolic in one equation alone. That's not haq, that's not oh I can with you just because.
Too many traits picked up from the sis and ex -- the I am hurt, I am angry, and I have a right to vent any way I see fit. That is just not done. Getting insulting and disrespectful and throwing a tantrum is not how you fight your battle.
Even if it is a stranger, or someone you absolutely disrespect, or can't stand, gratitude for their good deed is a must in my book. Don't overdo on the gratitude, sure, but don't forget either.
Being called demon, is still understandable form her point of view -- all her problems are because of him, not the chilling in my suit and working again Mr.
But he did correct her there. Here I hope she is atleast a tad more mindful of her words henceforth , regardless of being 20, or being in pain, self-inflicted at that.
@mahi @Jj