moving on -- it is okay - Page 2

Originally posted by: SundariP

Bro I've never seen such villians in my life who are so majboor... 😥

It's not fun to watch them, i don't even love to hate them 😶😶😐😐

I have an absurd sense of humour which means I am eye rolling, smirking and thinking "what morons!" -- plus it helps that I am watching on hotstar which means I can fast forward if I am bored. 😂

I want to see baby doll + puri aunty clash with the Tripathis. Maybe we can have some long conversation on what cooking is best! 😂

I have a divorced friend who keeps telling me that statistics show that it actually takes a long time for people to move on from a failed marriage. However, many do jump into a real relationship before they are ready or have sorted out their feelings. Lot of times, families are afraid that their kids will just brood themselves into depression and not be able to move on.

In this case, yes, Imlie is not ready but in many ways, she is making that idiotic choice for herself. Till she realizes that an ex means you are not obligated to keep him in your life and bend over backwards for his family, she will always be a pushover. There was zero reason to get married to Aryan. Aditya and his problems are no longer her concern but she is unable to get out of this rhona dhona mindset. This is why she needs a character like Aryan in her life -- he is the wakeup call. Hopefully by fighting with him, she will realize she needs to grow a spine and cut people out. She needs to set boundaries.

Arpana said something interesting to Aryan -- that they have always took from Imlie while she was the one who gave. The moment Imlie writes a better story than him and gets featured on front page, Aditya will see her as a rival and go back to Malini! 😂

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

I have a divorced friend who keeps telling me that statistics show that it actually takes a long time for people to move on from a failed marriage. However, many do jump into a real relationship before they are ready or have sorted out their feelings. Lot of times, families are afraid that their kids will just brood themselves into depression and not be able to move on.

In this case, yes, Imlie is not ready but in many ways, she is making that idiotic choice for herself. Till she realizes that an ex means you are not obligated to keep him in your life and bend over backwards for his family, she will always be a pushover. There was zero reason to get married to Aryan. Aditya and his problems are no longer her concern but she is unable to get out of this rhona dhona mindset. This is why she needs a character like Aryan in her life -- he is the wakeup call. Hopefully by fighting with him, she will realize she needs to grow a spine and cut people out. She needs to set boundaries.

Yes well thanks for pointing this out... I've been saying that for ages...

Imlie has a classic case of Stockholm syndrome and it takes a lot of time to break free...

Though this forced marriage leaves a bad taste for me, i do understand the reasoning for this narrative, expected it somewhere from the start though hoped tooo, that it will be different at the same time 🤷

Originally posted by: komaliyaaa

(BTW, I still believe Aryan is the best. The GOAT.)

Yes well that he is 😈

The reason I have no problem with this forced marriage track is because Aryan clearly gave her an out. He told her that it is a negotiation and if she says no, he was not going to lose sleep over it. He would have just come up with another way to squash Aditya and have his satisfaction. Even now, this marriage does not mean the revenge track is over. Aryan is determined to be the villain till he gets a proper apology for the pain his family experienced.

So, Imlie could have realized:

1. It really isn't her problem anymore what happens to her ex-husband. If she feels bad, maybe cry a few tears and she could have chosen to watch TV 😏

2. People like the Tripathi family do not need her to solve their problems and she could have focused on her goals and her life 🤷

3. She does not have any cards to deal with Aryan. So why beg him? Instead, just accept that it is out of her reach and move on.

So if you choose to butt heads with the goat, then one should be prepared to get a head butt back. He just checkmated her with his suggestion. It was always in her power to say 'no'

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

I have a divorced friend who keeps telling me that statistics show that it actually takes a long time for people to move on from a failed marriage. However, many do jump into a real relationship before they are ready or have sorted out their feelings. Lot of times, families are afraid that their kids will just brood themselves into depression and not be able to move on.

In this case, yes, Imlie is not ready but in many ways, she is making that idiotic choice for herself. Till she realizes that an ex means you are not obligated to keep him in your life and bend over backwards for his family, she will always be a pushover. There was zero reason to get married to Aryan. Aditya and his problems are no longer her concern but she is unable to get out of this rhona dhona mindset. This is why she needs a character like Aryan in her life -- he is the wakeup call. Hopefully by fighting with him, she will realize she needs to grow a spine and cut people out. She needs to set boundaries.

@bold: The only positive thing I can see coming from this marriage.

I hope this marriage forces Imlie to grow up.

Originally posted by: SundariP

Well I've no trust in the words of T fam...

They flip at first opportunity so don't hold your breath for them letting imlie move on.

If that were possible there wouldn't be a forced wedding

Aryan koi mara nahi jaa raha tha usse shadi karne ko but the fam doesn't let imlie live in peace for one fcking second!!

the way aryan put that condition -she had a choice to walk out. why did she accept ?

From asr side it was win-win:

- if imli walks out -means she does NOT care for BS anymore (will focus on own life).

- If she accepts the condition, she can NOT go back to BS

Originally posted by: A4Anjie

the way aryan put that condition -she had a choice to walk out. why did she accepted ?

From asr side it was win-win:

- if imli walks out -means she does NOT care for BS anymore (will focus on own life).

- If she accepts the condition, she can NOT go back to BS

You don't need to justify Aryan to me bro...

I'm like his pseudo-lawyer without a law degree lmao 🤣

Just saying the behaviour of T fam is beyond my understanding 🤷

Exactly!!! It was a win-win regardless of how Imlie answered. More than anything, he really wants her to stop being a victim of Aditya and his family. So he wants her to stand up for herself and get out of their control.

Why did she accept? So I only started watching from Aryan's entry but here are my random thoughts:

1. Imlie did not have a father or a full family bustling with relatives. So when she got a family, regardless of how they treated her, she continues to cling on. Superbly unhealthy. She needs therapy. 📞

2. She has zero understanding that relationships are two way. No matter what type of rishtha it is, both sides need to give and take. Then only it is an equal relationship. She clearly has not experienced any sort of healthy relationship with any relatives growing up. If she did, she would understand that love does not mean loss of dignity or self-respect. Love does not mean that you sacrifice yourself. 🙅

3. She has a negative understanding of marriage.So she got forced at gunpoint to marry this dude and moved to the city. He was tons of years older than her and she was a young girl. She has some idea in her head that marriage means the wife sacrifice all herself, cries a lot and puts up with whatever hubby dear says. 🙄 And if he cries a few tears, then you cry with him because marriage is all about a crying choir. 😆

4. She got used to idiots that she thinks bad behaviour and treatment is normal. As Aryan said, he was the first person who entered her life who was not an idiot. So she has a tough time understanding that when people treat you like ****, you cut them out of your life. ✂️