moving on -- it is okay

so I was laughing that Imlie is having her rituals from Tripathi's house. However, there was one scene that I liked -- when Arpana said she was gifting Imlie freedom and it is no longer her responsibility to worry about Aditya and care. While it is rather unrealistic that ex-in-laws would bless the bahu, I liked the theme that is being conveyed -- It is okay to move on and be happy. You don't have to be stuck in a toxic yo-yo relationship and even something like marriage can come to an end. However, it does not mean that you have to be stuck there as a woman -- you do have the right to seek a new life for yourself.

Realistically, it can be difficult to move on. One of my friend told me that during her divorce proceedings, her lawyer yelled at her when she expressed worry for her ex -- "he left you, remember? why are you worried for him? worry for yourself and what you need to get to move on."

Imlie is in some ways is stuck -- she has full freedom to walk away from this marriage if she wishes. Aryan will find other ways to complete his revenge on Aditya. She is the one who jumped in the middle and insisted that he don't proceed with the case. Why not walk away? Why should she try to fix something when it is her ex's problem and his family's responsibility and fight? It was her choice to get involved because she has trouble drawing healthy boundaries and letting go. She cannot accept that sometimes relationships end and it is time to let go. Sometimes, you just need to watch from the boundary if it isn't your place to get involved.

While I can't comment on much of the series as I only started watching from Aryan's entry, I like that more and more serials in ITV are exploring the dynamics of moving away from a broken relationship and marriage and showing that it is okay. Instead of having women pine away for the rest of their lives or accepting the ex just because he cries a few times, it is fun to see new love interests. Life happens and sometimes the road splits. But the journey can still be fun and surprising.

While it may not happen, I wish that Imlie creatives would explore in a fun TV-ish way about how not to repeat the mistakes from a past relationship and to acknowledge the mistakes that she made (not just in words but in actions). One of my relatives is a psychiatrist and she counsels many who are looking at a second marriage. One of their concerns is how to not repeat the past and to do that, they have to look at their actions and the role they played in the marriage. While it may not be their fault, they still have to acknowledge how they could have handled the situation better and taken better care of themselves as well as their others. Otherwise, many people end up repeating the same relationship mistakes over and over and wonder why they have a tough time with relationships. Also, you can't let your past define your present. Your past can shape you as a person and change you but you can't let it determine your future.

So I love that we have the drama exploring that it is okay to move on. It is okay to find happiness again. Yes, it is. ❤️

I agree with you so much. It's important to move on. The arc of marrying ASR wouldn't have arrived if she had just given a blind eye to everything happening around her. I don't understand her urge of carrying the duty. Aditya don't feed her, Inflicts pain mentally whenever things are not in his way and insults using his journalist position. I mean that's a Full fledged TOXIC Relationship.

now she is just 19 not even 21 which is the legal marrying age. But Aryan bent to this extent only to get her guardian status as a husband so that she won't give the naïve extra efforts which would lead her back to that fricking narcissist guy who is just very sure she won't move on coz he made codependency a factor between their relationship.

It will end for Imlie only if she realizes who is the well wisher and it happens when Realization Strikes from inside. Till that day good luck to us seeing her blasting like Volcano as she herself said to ASR that the lava inside her bursts out when she see him.☢️

Originally posted by: MiuniS

I agree with you so much. It's important to move on. The arc of marrying ASR wouldn't have arrived if she had just given a blind eye to everything happening around her. I don't understand her urge of carrying the duty. Aditya don't feed her, Inflicts pain mentally whenever things are not in his way and insults using his journalist position. I mean that's a Full fledged TOXIC Relationship.

now she is just 19 not even 21 which is the legal marrying age. But Aryan bent to this extent only to get her guardian status as a husband so that she won't give the naïve extra efforts which would lead her back to that fricking narcissist guy who is just very sure she won't move on coz he made codependency a factor between their relationship.

It will end for Imlie only if she realizes who is the well wisher and it happens when Realization Strikes from inside. Till that day good luck to us seeing her blasting like Volcano as she herself said to ASR that the lava inside her bursts out when she see him.☢️

Imlie is a great example of why there was so much debate on the legal marrying age. Many young women on TV in interviews said they need time to get to know themselves and also experience the freedom of working or studying. What does that do? Several things -- when a woman learns to stand on her own feet and experiences making decisions for herself, then she understand how to value herself and set boundaries. It means that when she will get married, there is more emphasis on self and asking for things she needs. It also hopefully results in healthier marriages where there is better communication and a team approach decision making.

The reason she is so mad at Aryan is because she is disappointed in him. Lets not forget how much she much cried like a river when he got stuck under the tree and was in hospital. She was sobbing like her heart couldn't take it. He means a great deal to her. However, she now sees him as manipulative and using her. He clearly stated that he will never use anyone to achieve his goals including revenge. That's not how he operates. But because she thinks she is being used, she is getting mad.

What she doesn't realize is that Aryan is a really capable man and he is very patient and calculative when it comes to revenge. There are a 1000 ways he can choose to exact revenge and frankly he is right to do so. Every word in a sentence matters. The tenses, the punctuation, the way you frame your questions -- everything can give a slant and a different direction for a news story. So Aditya does hold some responsibility in how he chose the portray the brother-in-law as some rich irresponsible factor owner monster.

Aryan's protective instincts are on real high alert when it comes to Imlie -- he can clearly see that she is being used and she has zero sense of healthy boundaries. So if she is not going to set them, then he feels like he has to be her shield and set it for her. Like he said, he is not a demon. Imlie needs to realize that life is not black and white and there are shades to people and their decisions. So unless she gets out of this kiddish way of seeing life and see that people are complicated, then she will appreciate Aryan for who he is. ❤️

so true... i understand when the serial started they kept her age 18 coz 18 was the legal age that time. But now times changed and 21 is legal. The point is she isn't understanding that her Aditya babu sees himself as such a perfect character that he keeps on conveying the morally perfect words to everyone about himself. Like there's a line which he seems to be repeating, something like I always stand with truth and right things. When a person conveys such strong words anyone tries to believe that person rather considering their actions.

If Imlie had come out a little of her trance she literally could see how he played to be the good guy and made Malini a villain. He is actually the reason for the death of a person. He is also a character who wants to portray a likable image to every single person. His actions are to be honest very twistable in nature. He gives fuel to others to be a villain trying to be in good books.

Aryan on the other hand doesn't care for his image for every single person. He just needs to make sure that his loved ones are okay. He is still not using her coz we get see his pov behind his every actions. I understand that he is making up the excuse of using her coz if he comes as I want the best for you, Imlie who is a teenager will not understand anything above her emotions and after she passes this phase she would end up with heavy regrets and no return. After all she don't have a safe space to return.

I genuinely believe Tripathis can never be the safe space. The love they are showing as spare mayka only coz the who last year she spent proving how much of a great asset she would be to them. But coming to Rathore's they are genuine with their emotions and the love here she didn't need to earn hundreds of time proving it.

The Tripathi family are utter users. If they knew that there is no one for this girl in a big city like Delhi, why did they allow her to walk out of the house? Why not set her up in a hostel or an apartment and ensure she can be independent? They didn't take a single step towards ensuring her safety. Same for Aditya. Why do we have alimony in a divorce settlement? It is to ensure that women and children have sufficient financial resources to take care of themselves for the remaining stage of their life. Therefore, alimony is a right and legal responsibility. What did Aditya do? Did he make sure that his ex was financially secure when she left the house? If he was a genuine person, then at least make sure your ex is taken care of financially. Basically it is all about his ego and whichever woman makes him feel good gets to be his wife for the day/month/year. 😂 -- that seemed to be the jist of his character. kekeke...

Aryan and his family on the other hand opened their home to a stranger because they understood she was in trouble. They let her keep her dignity by allowing her to pay rent. They gave her respect as a person, as a woman and they don't see status or geography or any factors. At no point is it mentioned that Imlie is unsuitable as a bride because she is a divorcee. Instead, they accept that she has a past but don't really make a big deal of it either.

LIke you @MiuniS, I don't really understand why Imlie feels inclined to protect Aditya and his family. It is a trance -- maybe the fallacy of youth or some misgotten notion that being a wife means an utter pushover and sacrifical bakra. Aryan clearly tells her that it is a negotiation and it is her choice -- she can say 'no'. He has 100s chess moves in his head to bring Aditya down. As an ex, it is not her job to do anything. While she can feel sadness, there is no need to sacrifice oneself like an idiot. If she does not want to get married, then why say 'yes'. So yea, Imlie is really an idiot but hopefully she matures. Right now, she justifies everything Aditya does or did because he was her husband. Well, any human being is bound to make mistakes and we need to be able to accept and see them as who they are. We can't be blind to their fault because of the relationship. Aryan refuses to create any image for any person and is only interested in making his actions speak.

Well I've no trust in the words of T fam...

They flip at first opportunity so don't hold your breath for them letting imlie move on.

If that were possible there wouldn't be a forced wedding

Aryan koi mara nahi jaa raha tha usse shadi karne ko but the fam doesn't let imlie live in peace for one fcking second!!

Originally posted by: SundariP

Well I've no trust in the words of T fam...

They flip at first opportunity so don't hold your breath for them letting imlie move on.

If that were possible there wouldn't be a forced wedding

Aryan koi mara nahi jaa raha tha usse shadi karne ko but the fam doesn't let imlie live in peace for one fcking second!!

Well until we are told these actors are leaving the drama, we know the tripathi family will keep creating problems with their emotional antics, hahahahah 😂.... The moment Imlie starts putting boundaries and says that she can't do something, they will turn on her. Then she will know that all her attachment and struggles for them were really in vain. I am going to enjoy seeing Aryan wreck havoc on them. :D Some people need villains in order to see their flaws.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

Well until we are told these actors are leaving the drama, we know the tripathi family will keep creating problems with their emotional antics, hahahahah 😂.... The moment Imlie starts putting boundaries and says that she can't do something, they will turn on her. Then she will know that all her attachment and struggles for them were really in vain. I am going to enjoy seeing Aryan wreck havoc on them. :D Some people need villains in order to see their flaws.

Bro I've never seen such villians in my life who are so majboor... 😥

It's not fun to watch them, i don't even love to hate them 😶😶😐😐

I wish Imlie moves on too.

I just hate the fact that it's being potrayed that to move on from one marriage, she needs to get married again.

I know there is no way this girl is ready to move on from T's, but she's not ready to get married at all.

I hope the makers try to do justice by Imlie just this once and she gets whats right for her.

(BTW, I still believe Aryan is the best. The GOAT.)

Originally posted by: MiuniS

so true... i understand when the serial started they kept her age 18 coz 18 was the legal age that time. But now times changed and 21 is legal. The point is she isn't understanding that her Aditya babu sees himself as such a perfect character that he keeps on conveying the morally perfect words to everyone about himself. Like there's a line which he seems to be repeating, something like I always stand with truth and right things. When a person conveys such strong words anyone tries to believe that person rather considering their actions.

If Imlie had come out a little of her trance she literally could see how he played to be the good guy and made Malini a villain. He is actually the reason for the death of a person. He is also a character who wants to portray a likable image to every single person. His actions are to be honest very twistable in nature. He gives fuel to others to be a villain trying to be in good books.

Aryan on the other hand doesn't care for his image for every single person. He just needs to make sure that his loved ones are okay. He is still not using her coz we get see his pov behind his every actions. I understand that he is making up the excuse of using her coz if he comes as I want the best for you, Imlie who is a teenager will not understand anything above her emotions and after she passes this phase she would end up with heavy regrets and no return. After all she don't have a safe space to return.

I genuinely believe Tripathis can never be the safe space. The love they are showing as spare mayka only coz the who last year she spent proving how much of a great asset she would be to them. But coming to Rathore's they are genuine with their emotions and the love here she didn't need to earn hundreds of time proving it.