Arylie Discussion Thread 32 - DT NT Pg 2 - Page 10

Furthermore, absolutely love the fact that Aryan never took up the role of being her teacher. That's a power differential that is built-in to that equation. You can contractually negate the power relations between a boss and an employee, but a teacher always has mental, emotional, and social power over you

He does 'teach' her skills/mentors her where he knows that he's more experienced. Reversely, he allows her to 'teach' him things where she can take the lead. Love a non-toxic masculine man

Originally posted by: chotoranii

Totally true and fair! Mangst is the most frustrating thing about TV across languages. Hollywood LOVES manpain and the ML's soap operas or not are just, so cursed. I guess we'll find out soon enough re: wedding shenanigans. (also sent you a twitter dm!)

(when i say two or three i mean i fast forwarded through them and went "NO")

It bugs me to no end. We're supposed to cut the guy slack on straight up criminal behavior because of usually vague past trauma, while literally the girl is getting traumatized right in front of eyes, on our screen, every day? Puh-lease.

I'm a psychologist by education, and I remember one of the first things we were taught in counseling 101- "Patients with mental health struggles should be empathized with, but mental health struggles are not an excuse for despicable behavior. Bad behavior should, and must, be called and not excused, even when it's resulting from trauma."

Trauma isn't a carte blanche for doing whatever you want without consequences 🤷🏻‍♀️

Originally posted by: mltr16

As long as you don't attach any alphabets to the word boi 😂😂 Hey, I am just using logic ....

ABCDEF...GHI JKLM

hum saath saath hain

Imagine saare characters living in a house like one big happy family. ❤️😃

Originally posted by: SnowLove

Are ise apna hi ghr smjho.. Jaise maine smjh liya 😁 #Welcome to the club..

Great its my 2nd home then👍🏼😆

And thank u for the welcome❤️

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

It bugs me to no end. We're supposed to cut the guy slack on straight up criminal behavior because of usually vague past trauma, while literally the girl is getting traumatized right in front of eyes, on our screen, every day? Puh-lease.

I'm a psychologist by education, and I remember one of the first things we were taught in counseling 101- "Patients with mental health struggles should be empathized with, but mental health struggles are not an excuse for despicable behavior. Bad behavior should, and must, be called and not excused, even when it's resulting from trauma."

Trauma isn't a carte blanche for doing whatever you want without consequences 🤷🏻‍♀️

So many times- THIIIIS!!!

So much TV (not just Indian) uses a flawed reasoning to excuse absolutely terrible behavior by the male leads.

Aryan is a breath of fresh air in that regard. His trauma has never been used as a reason to act like a little s**t towards others, especially Imlie.

Just want to voice my opinion dont really care for the Ts and that is all i will say while rest is history🤣

Otherwise enjoying just for Aryan & AryLie☺️

Originally posted by: Bea1

Just here to appreciate, because it's an appreciation thread and appreciate is all I can do here.😕

I appreciate your reason for being here in this appreciation thread doing your best to appreciate all the appreciable items.

To sum it up, appreciate.

Originally posted by: Deltablues

Furthermore, absolutely love the fact that Aryan never took up the role of being her teacher. That's a power differential that is built-in to that equation. You can contractually negate the power relations between a boss and an employee, but a teacher always has mental, emotional, and social power over you

He does 'teach' her skills/mentors her where he knows that he's more experienced. Reversely, he allows her to 'teach' him things where she can take the lead. Love a non-toxic masculine man

Yesss 100 agree!!

I love that he has legit ceded all power to Imlie in their dynamic.

Because here's the thing- they aren't equals in life. He's significantly older. Far more experienced. Exorbitantly rich. Influential. Powerful. Hell, he's even both her boss and her landlord.

Them together, would make for an EXTREMELY unbalanced power dynamic, but that's cut away extremely well by the fact that while he holds all these upper hands, he still affords her the respect of an equal. He listens to and gives a fair try to her madcap plans and ideas instead of rubbishing them. He lets her take the lead on their personal dynamic.

That brings them on a level playing field, and prevents the relationship getting creepy.

Same with the mentoring as you pointed out- he has NO SHAME admitting to her and others that she inspires him. Again, it balances their otherwise easily disbalanced division of power.

Originally posted by: egle

ABCDEF...GHI JKLM

hum saath saath hain

Imagine saare characters living in a house like one big happy family. ❤️😃

Define saArE character

Originally posted by: egle

So many times- THIIIIS!!!

So much TV (not just Indian) uses a flawed reasoning to excuse absolutely terrible behavior by the male leads.

Aryan is a breath of fresh air in that regard. His trauma has never been used as a reason to act like a little s**t towards others, especially Imlie.

In fact, his initial protectiveness for Imlie came from recognizing her as another victim of the person he holds responsible for his pain, instead of the more cliched path of hating on her because he hates her husband and using her as a punching bag for the bad blood between the men. TBH, I was anticipating that, and was pleasantly surprised by where if went.