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Originally posted by: ishan2003
I guess you have never lived in a joint family and know how the dynamics work. This used to be the norm in most households just that people are living in more nuclear households nowadays.
Interference and care are different things, and it is subjective - so it's good that they are showing both sides of the perspective.

I am going to disagree here.

In a non-dysfunctional joint family, couple solve their problems between themselves, and generally, no one interferes between other couples. The solve house issues together, but they also have individual lives as couples. Generally, there is some sort of balance, despite the lack of some private that nuclear households offer, but the support system is different. Sure, daughters-in-law may discuss arguments, so may the sons, but I'm pretty sure if anyone behaved like Dhara, nobody would like it & it is interference.

Similarly, if a husband behaves like Shiva or Dev, very few would put up with it. Your husband is your tie to that house; for him to constantly belittle you in front of others is not acceptable.

And a mother-in-law like Suman, who treats her daughters-in-law differently because of the support they may or may not have is degrading. She treats Dhara the way she does because Dhara has the entire house to support her. She treats Rishita the way she does because Rishita shuts her up. She treats Raavi like that because Raavi has no support, in Pandya Niwas or outside, and because Raavi treats her with respect, even though she can shut her up (as they've shown).

And yes, interference and care are two different things. When Raavi asks for help from her sisters-in-law (like the advice scene or Rishita scaring Shiva), and they offer her good advice from their experience, that is care. Dhara, post-danda kaand, was just interfering. Not forgetting, she's emotionally manipulative to everyone in the family who would listen to her.