Is a so called EMA always wrong - Page 3

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

I never said her getting belittled was justified. It was not. But its kind of unavoidable when you are getting into an affair wid a fellow married doctor in the hospital.

Even if Suman had not said all dt , someone or the other would hv discovered and news travels very fast in hospitals....trust me on dt. Your reputation is never the same again once people start gossiping abt you behind your back. Its a permanent stain. Serial hai....shayad aisa na ho. But in reality you lose ur dignity.

As for Suman , she is uncouthed and kind of illiterate in a way. So what do you expect of her ?? Its better to keep yourself in a position where such people cannot hurl insults on you. V should hv known dis was bound to happen. I am not blaming Deepika but she should hv kept a distance from Suman and should hv acted like a senior Doc around her....not as Vikrant's ex.

Is anything these days black vs white?

Are humans made like this ? no

We are 50 shades of grey

Like many things in life context matters.

In this show the writing has became so bad that the characters, plot, EMA, etc all feel wrong

Originally posted by: PUMMY5

EmA is wrong in Marriage.

Don't forget that the Story line has been changed to suit the Vikrant - Deepika acceptence.

He was happy in his Marriage and Job, he said when asked to join but it all changed when he saw Deepika.

Than the Story goes that he is not happy, the last 10 years have been hell etc.

But seriously this is stupid, he blamed his Sister, when She tried to stop the Marriage and Aditi to agree to marry him, when he loved someone else.

Reality is that in our Desi ethics etv, Marriage is more than Love but is looking at the whole picture of family dynamics, culture etc.

Which Aditi did successfully, and She is right he is a successfully Surgeon due to her devotion in doing everything for him, enabling him to concentrate on his Career.

She became the Wife that he wanted with her Career planned by him etc. Yes She knew that he loved Deepika but She worked at her Marriage and also her chance of having a baby has been crushed by this affair.

What is wrong in asking Vikrant for 10 years of her life and She also challenged him when she asked him that if She had not arrived than she would have been none the wiser.

Yes Deepika is stupid and has lost her ethics and morals etc.

She is blindly believing everything that Vikrant has spoon fed her about his Marriage, that She believes that the 3 of them are unhappy in this Marriage. He lied to her say that the Landlord kicked him out and Aditi was staying there.

Like what is going on.

Even PC said that this is not the Deepika of the last 10 Years, who gave up everything for her Dream, and that this path is going to be her downfall and she will lose the position that she has and will remember it if only I had regerds.

Deepika was smart enough to see the controlling jerk Vikrant 10 years ago but the mind boggles that she thinks that he is a angle now.

She bought shame and disgrace to her family 10 years ago and is going to do the same now by being the other woman, with the same Vikrant.

Her Father never recovered from the shame but knowing that her Mother will not forgive her for this mess.

Deepika needs to speak to Aditi about her Marriage instead of taking Vikrant word on it.

Point to note that the traditional Indian Marriage is based on Family values, morals service to the Parents and not the glorified Lost love thay is shown to us by Vikrant-Deepika to show his Marriage. There is more to a Marriage than that.

1. After seeing deepika , if vikrant is questioning his marriage then that marriage was a sham atleast from his side. His love for aditi was for mere convenience. He needs to be called out for the selfishness he has dished to aditi and deepika.

2.aditi has given a lot to her Marriage, at the cost of her career , independence . She became the wife that vikrant wanted ,loves him despite his faults. But then that was her choice. Not discrediting her contributions to the Marriage, but after staying with a man for 10 yrs and yet she don't know about his drug addictions or still cannot get acceptance from her husband , she needs to reevaluate herself and understand that she is much more than Mrs vikrant.Also what puts her off as a character is her attitude towards vikrant, her husband dosent love her, cheats her , but still he is kept on a pedestal and easily forgiven , at the same time unethically interfering in deepikas professional matters.it looks cheap and petty.

3. Deepika made a stupid decision at a vulnerable time and she is paying for it alone when her partner goes Scott free. Yes deepika loves vikrant but she is not a home breaker. She is giving the choice to vikrant , to decide what he wants. She is not trying to pull him towards her, when she knows with her one nod he will aditi in an instant. She wants him to break off with aditi only if vikrant feels his marriage is not compatible not because he loves deepika. Deepika wants to know what he will do when she is off the equation.will he stay with aditi or break off. She is not going to play second fiddle to anyone.

About deepika shaming family , sorry its vice versa.its her family who left her just because she understood that Marriage at that time will compromise her career. She was not secure enough in vikrants love to leave her aspirations because she understood how selfish he can become . At that time her family should have stood with her, her father should have questioned vikrants decision to become a surgeon compromising his daughters career .

Family values are supposed to be followed by everyone , including the elders . If deepika is selfish in breaking off her Marriage, then so is her parents disowning her to save their faces .

Marriage is more than Love, many of the marriages are compromises.But ultimately one should be happy in Marriage, if not its just a facade to appease the society , its cheating yourself.

Also just to mention EMA is wrong but not uncommon, infact very common.when a person indulge In a morally un acceptable act , first thing they do is try to paint themselves as victim and shift the blame to others.

Deepika : she wants some sort of attachment figure In her life and when vikrant comes back and declares his love , she considers herself as a victim , shunned by parents , always alone and justifies her act by assuming that aditi might be also unhappy in aditi vikrant marriage. She uses this assumption to validate her feelings and when she finds out aditi is going to fight for the marriage, she is in a soup.

Vikrant: victim of fiancee breaking off marriage, victim of loveless marriage, victim of unrequited love😆😆 victim of societal pressure.. So for him deepika has wronged him so she should make everything correct by loving him back.

Aditi wronged him by expecting more from him than he is capable off, so she should just go.

Coming to aditi :upto a level she is a real victim but conveniently forgets her part in this whole fiasco and shifts the entire blame to deepika , while vikrant her husband is allowed to do what he wishes. Her way of getting justice by degrading another woman and trying to cling to her husband wil not work.

Society will always support aditi and shun deepika. Both the ladies has made decisions by themselves 10 years back, for their future. Both were adamant and to an extend selfish in their decisions. But since aditis decisions were abiding the societal rules of ideal woman , she will be celebrated .

EMA is right or wrong , none can say , but is certainly part of life.

It depends on the situation.

IF it were absolutely wrong , why polygamy is allowed by some religion and why Radha Krishna's love-story is worshipped by other?

BTW, you do not have to go further than Bollywood to witness plethora of EMAs and how they are dealt with !!

We can ask - are Deepika and Vikrant wrong loving each other ?

Vikrant has made it clear that he loves Deepika and wants a divorce from Aditi. I would not have supported him had he tried to keep his relationship with Deepika a secret from Aditi

Deepika has understood now that she still loves Vikrant. She would not and could not break Vikrant's marriage unless Vikrant himself wanted.

What they are showing as hospital scenario after Suman's verbal warfare is all rubbish and for the drama's sake .

What I know is

Dr. Aditi is wrong playing with patient's life for her personal reasons.

Suman is wrong interfering with Vikrant-Aditi's life and marriage.

What they actually want to show in this serial - how male and female are treated differently in workplace, specially in India .

In Aditi's case , I feel like she has bottled up her frustration of 10 years being second in Vikrant life. She is his legally wedded wife but did not get his required love an attention as per her expectations or may be she had expected more from vikrant. Since she was aware of his past and had seen his love for deepika so in her own subconscious mind she always wanted to have that vikrant for herself but couldn't get.

Comparing her love life with deepikas built up frustration and insecurity. she detest deepika to the core without her physical presence in her life. That's feeling is quite natural and happens with people and that's why from the day one she was intentionally competing (unhealthy) with her at work, otherwise aditi wouldn't have reacted and blamed deepika that much without knowing her side.

That's just how we are trained to always pounce on other women instead of actually questioning the person responsible for your plight!

Originally posted by: Veruthe

That's just how we are trained to always pounce on other women instead of actually questioning the person responsible for your plight!

absolutely right!!!!

We are conditioned in a wrong way, we have never been taught the right way of dealing with situation instead we always pounce on weaker person and held others responsible for our miseries. Same is with Aditi she can't question her own husband the way she did to deepika coz she want him at any cost. He can commit thousand sins but she will keep clinging to him till her death due to her saat janmo ka sath mentality🤪

They always show patient stories for lessons. So in that guy with second wife the first wife admits that there was no point to have grudge on the other lady. It's her husband who loved and supported her! So was the only guy responsible. The FW can't hold SW responsible for the failed marriages only H & W are responsible!