What is your take on this? - Page 2

Never lead him on EVER. He behaved with me as if his feelings disappeared in last 2 years but later He told me it never really went.

Originally posted by: S_H_Y

Stop leading him on , breakup with friendship , no need to be friend with a person who is crushing on you, block him from your life.

Yes I agree with what you just said. And We are no longer in talking terms. Its better that way.

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

Of course it’s okay. If you’ve already rejected him and he still doesn’t get the message, then you have no obligation to hear shit all from him. I can empathise with him. Unreciprocated love sucks. But you can’t force someone to feel the same way.

Also, if he’s your friend then I’d distance myself from him if I were you. He’s clearly struggling to move on and remaining in contact is not going to help the situation. Do both of yourselves a favour and avoid further heartbreak from both ends.

You may not have much of an obligation towards him but if you consider him a friend and still are friends, there is nothing wrong in giving him 5 mins of your time so he can get his closure (if that's what he intends on doing)!

I do know there are certain girls out there who love *constant attention* from guys they have rejected (not specifically talking about you), but yes many girls do indulge in stringing guys along in the name of friendship. If you don't care enough, like other suggested break off the friendship and be done with!

But if you do care, then yes as a friend, you should care enough about his feelings if he simply wants a closure. And he should too if you explain it in plain words it is making you *uncomfortable* - I can't really take any side here cuz clearly the dynamics you share only you two are aware and only you two can decide how to wrap it up.

Won't provide any unilateral support here unless we can hear both sides equally. But that's just me!

^^ yes I completely understand what you are trying to say. And as you said that I should give him closure, which is correct. I did give him a chance. But as soon as he started sharing his feelings by reading the letter, it just made me uncomfortable. And I asked him to stop and said I don’t want to disrespect your feelings but I can’t hear all these things.

But yeah as everyone mentioned to break-off the friendship, that has been done. As there is no point in keeping it if its going to affect him.

Human likes to turn non issue into big issues, though i cant understand what is reading letter, are you two talking face to face? It is always better to talk than play mind games and let the other guessing. Most like dropping signs and play dumb charades

Let him read and then say no..if it gives him closure he won't bother u again ..hopefully

Originally posted by: Anamikakhanna

Hi I need an opinion on something. Not related to Bollywood but..

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Is it okay to stop your guy friend in the middle while he is expressing his feelings for you (reading a big letter), while you’re uncomfortable hearing those words from him?

[ In spite of rejecting him TWICE, 2 yrs ago and also knowing there is no possibility of future ]

And he expects you to keep your “uncomfortable-ness” aside and listen to him as it is really important for him, otherwise it is an insult and disrespectful..

if you've already rejected him twice, he's imposing with his unnecessary and tiresome love confessions time and again. It's time to draw a line and tell him to either cut it out and stay in the friend zone or take a clean break till he's over it and finds some else.

Nothing irritates me more than a guy who can't take no for an answer. 😵 That itself is a huge red flag if you've already conveyed your lack of interest.

I forgot to mention it was face to face, my bad..and some issues might be big for someone whereas it
May be nothing for some :)

Originally posted by: Lalakhun1

Human likes to turn non issue into big issues, though i cant understand what is reading letter, are you two talking face to face? It is always better to talk than play mind games and let the other guessing. Most like dropping signs and play dumb charades

Yes took a break before.. been there done that. But after being back to friends ( he was supposedly over it ) after 2 years he wants to express his feelings which he might not did earlier :/

Originally posted by: SmittenKitten

if you've already rejected him twice, he's imposing with his unnecessary and tiresome love confessions time and again. It's time to draw a line and tell him to either cut it out and stay in the friend zone or take a clean break till he's over it and finds some else.

Nothing irritates me more than a guy who can't take no for an answer. 😵 That itself is a huge red flag if you've already conveyed your lack of interest.

Originally posted by: Anamikakhanna

Yes took a break before.. been there done that. But after being back to friends ( he was supposedly over it ) after 2 years he wants to express his feelings which he might not did earlier :/

Don't give him that room to pour his feelings again and again. Once is enough for the message to hit home -- you got the message that he has feelings for you. What more does he want?! Getting over you and the rest of the work for closure is something he has to walk himself through, no one else can provide that to him. Unless he wants you to be his object of affection plus a therapist at the same time? Again, sounds like a hot mess to me. I would create lots of space, both physical and mental till he finds someone else.

Also, if a guy has feelings for you and insists on being friends with you, don't buy that. He obviously wants to be more that just friends and was just biding his time to make a move..... and looks like he did, again! Don't fall for men who want to be just friends after you turn them down .... cuz they're lying!

somehow i feel like you like his attention too.... do you? quit being a heartbreaker and let the poor guy be!