What is your take on this?

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Hi I need an opinion on something. Not related to Bollywood but..

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Is it okay to stop your guy friend in the middle while he is expressing his feelings for you (reading a big letter), while you’re uncomfortable hearing those words from him?

[ In spite of rejecting him TWICE, 2 yrs ago and also knowing there is no possibility of future ]

And he expects you to keep your “uncomfortable-ness” aside and listen to him as it is really important for him, otherwise it is an insult and disrespectful..

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Posted: 4 years ago
#2

Of course, it's okay to stop him. Why do you have to respect his wishes when he doesn't respect your wish of not wanting to be with him? He is also disrespecting you by not caring about your comfort.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Yes correct. But he is well aware of the fact that there is no future. Still he wants to read the letter just for closure. He thinks that we had enough level of comfort for him to share his feelings🙄


Originally posted by: bollyqueen0

Of course, it's okay to stop him. Why do you have to respect his wishes when he doesn't respect your wish of not wanting to be with him? He is also disrespecting you by not caring about your comfort.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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It's absolutely fine to stop him. Such an irony that someone doesn't want to acknowledge your feelings but wants you to prioritize their feelings.

I'm suffering a similar tough situation bro and I can safely say that these boys just don't get in their thick head that when someone doesn't feel anything for them you cannot change it.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Anamikakhanna

Yes correct. But he is well aware of the fact that there is no future. Still he wants to read the letter just for closure. He thinks that we had enough level of comfort for him to share his feelings🙄



Do you think he will actually be saying anything new in this letter? Something you haven't heard the last two years?

Posted: 4 years ago
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Stop leading him on , breakup with friendship , no need to be friend with a person who is crushing on you, block him from your life.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Exactlyyy..but here toh this guy is well aware of the fact there is no possibility of future still he wants to read the letter as he couldn’t say it earlier.
but seriously I feel some guys really don’t know how to talk to girls.


Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

It's absolutely fine to stop him. Such an irony that someone doesn't want to acknowledge your feelings but wants you to prioritize their feelings.

I'm suffering a similar tough situation bro and I can safely say that these boys just don't get in their thick head that when someone doesn't feel anything for them you cannot change it.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Let the poor guy nikalo his dil ki bhadas. Then calmly sit him down and tell him you can no longer be his friend.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Of course it’s okay. If you’ve already rejected him and he still doesn’t get the message, then you have no obligation to hear shit all from him. I can empathise with him. Unreciprocated love sucks. But you can’t force someone to feel the same way.

Also, if he’s your friend then I’d distance myself from him if I were you. He’s clearly struggling to move on and remaining in contact is not going to help the situation. Do both of yourselves a favour and avoid further heartbreak from both ends.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Actually he just shared his feelings in general earlier. This one was much more in depth..

Originally posted by: bollyqueen0


Do you think he will actually be saying anything new in this letter? Something you haven't heard the last two years?

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