I am tired of this regressive, backward, oppressive patriarchy from older women! It very much exists in real life. Just because they had no choice in whom they could marry, they think they can impose that on independent, young women which they never were. Imlie is already socially conditioned to accept her fate with whoever puts sindoor on her and we know how well that served her. Her mother respects her choice more than Aparna and wants her to live on her own terms. Why is Aparna such a nosy monster-in-law? Aryan's mother is more tolerable by comparison because she "hopes" and asks for Imlie's "will."
It is none of Aparna's business who Imlie lives with or what she does. Aparna does not pay Imlie's bills and neither can she or her son afford to do so (they are soon going to be homeless and probably end up in Malini's home). Imlie is not an adopted daughter just because Aparna says so, just the other day, Aparna was throwing water on her because she was a "naukrani" who married their son.
If Adi has the option to play marriage and baby ping pong between two sisters, why can’t Imlie, who is not Aparna's business, choose her own path!? Imlie’s mother encouraged her to live her own life and Aparna here is trying to have a say in pushing Imlie before she is ready into another marriage - thereby forcing things between Aryan and Imlie! Why can’t a young woman, who can make her own living, not stay single for five minutes!!!!? In desi societies, a lot of them don't even believe in giving the girl her privacy, there was a piece about it in a YT post that I saw.
I am so sick of these shows promoting disgusting entitlement of older women who are a kalic on their own gender - to say nothing of the men. They all masquerade entitlement as concern for the young women's wellbeing (tick tock on babymaking!) while saying nothing to their boys using and abusing women.
Many women have tried to have an opinion on my life and I am not even desi, so this whole thing hits close to home. It is an endemic issue internationally. I am so fishing sick of it. A relative of mine once said that because I was going for more education after an elite BA, that I will become too educated for the eligible male pool if I don't marry before my graduate degree. Um, hello!? Your sons being less educated than me is not my responsibility and I am not going to dim myself so they can feel superior to me. I will forever relish being my own competition. You don’t get to have an opinion on my life if you don’t pay my bills. Save your unsolicited advice and get your son to study harder.
Girls, never compromise on your wish for love or a good mate under societal pressure. If the pressure is unbearable, remove yourself physically - as soon as you can. Your mother will get used to it and learn to respect your stance. If she doesn't, ban that topic for conversations permanently like I did. She knows that to have a good relationship with me, she needs to not tell me how to live my life. I have been interested in two men on my own terms who pursued me in life. I have no regrets that these did not work out because I saw them move on to women who were low-achievement, dependent types who fawned over them. It made me realize that my no-nonsense independence was interpreted as unattractive by them. These were Western men btw, this is just how a lot of men need to feel superior in relationships and I refuse to play fangirl to mediocrity. I am not dimming my ways to play second fiddle for these types though I am looking for a mentally secure type who can be an equal partner. If it works out, great. If not, I don't care as my life is interesting enough without any insecure type who doesn't excite me. I live on my own in a major city and I am never lonely or bored because there's so much going on. I am also a solo-world traveler and need no man to show me how to travel. It sounds very hard to do, but there is nothing as satisfying as living on your own terms. You are all worth it. Just get an education and get out from any societal double standards that hinder your flight. People who talk about you only wish they were you. Don't let them make you feel bad.
Rant over.
