Adi-Imlie and "Move On" games - Page 95

Very well said. She do understands to a greater extent. But this time this guy has pushed her so much. He didn’t expect she will leave and go. Imlie has also become emotionally drained very much. On top of these Malini was creating more and more misunderstandings which got piled up over the period of time.

Originally posted by: Goddy2010

Very well said. She do understands to a greater extent. But this time this guy has pushed her so much. He didn’t expect she will leave and go. Imlie has also become emotionally drained very much. On top of these Malini was creating more and more misunderstandings which got piled up over the period of time.

No one is denying that Imlie was pushed to her limits when she decided to leave the house this time. But it is also simultaneously true that Adi didn't ask her to leave, he didn't push her out of his life....he always maintained that he can't live without her. So if Imlie then chose to leave as she claimed cuz she'd had enough of him, then why does she still seek answers only from him? LOL why does she still have expectations only from him to somehow one day magically understand M ka truth and start believing Imlie on that front?

Point is that they are both trapped in a nightmare of situations created by M for various reasons....they have both made mistakes from time to time, both have had bad timing on some things.....so then why is Adi alone being blamed? Yet again the situation has now been set up in such a way that his MU about Arylie is now being considered the only mistake made here, so Adi is the only one that needs to realize where he went wrong. But that still won't fix the basic issue that Imlie doesn't realize his emotional dependency on her....and if she does indeed love him all her heart as she says, that is something that she will need to learn to understand cuz it's part of his personality and his love for her. Abandoning him each time, no matter what the reason - only makes the situation worse cuz inevitably she realizes yet again that she can't live without him either.....lol phir bhi usko and apne aap ko - dono ko torture karna hai by walking out on him.

I slightly vary here. I think she put up with lot of drama from Malini just for the sake of Adi. She even accepted the baby also which is also a big deal. I do agree Imlie could have made the situation better if she would have sent Malini away when Adi gave her the power to decide. Imlie wants to be good to everybody in the world. In that process she has put their relationship under risk by keeping Malini at home. I understand Adi’s emotional dependency on Imlie. If he is so much dependent then he need to see things from her perspective put himself in her shoes and what best can be done. To give him that jhatka she burned MS and sindoor ( though I personally felt she went overboard ). But Adi again disappointed not by introspeting what made her to take this extreme step.I would say Imlie has also contributed to the mess but Adi’s share is slightly more for me.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: THIS exactly. I don't think Imlie still understands that he can't function without her......that he NEEDS her. Is clip mein bhi Rupi ne Imlie ko bola tha ki Bhai ko teri zaroorat hai and I don't think Imlie really understood the full magnitude cuz tab bhi apni pareshaaniyon mein uljhi rehti thi in Didi jaap😆.....tab bhi Adi isko samjhaane ki koshish karta tha ki this is the time to be together as a team and fight for our rishta.....it was pretty implicit then also from his side that he NEEDS her....matlab beemaar hoke bhi toh dikhaa diya and Imlie phir bhi nahin samjhi ki uske jaate hi iske andar se jaan nikal jaati hai? 😆.....isko lagta hai ki bas bolne ko bolta hai Adi? lol

And again, it's not like someone is saying she is "obligated" to be with him cuz he needs her....no, the point is that she loves him but she still doesn't realize the extent of his emotional dependency on her.....she is so worked up vis a vis the point about vishwaas that she doesn't understand ki vishwaas and emotional assurance go hand in hand on both sides. The Adi who can't even mentally/emotionally function without her - yeh usse vishwaas expect kar rahi hai phir? lol you need to get him to a stable baseline for him to be able to grapple with the issues properly. Yeh inka long-standing unresolved issue hai ki Imlie doesn't realize how much he needs her, how much it keeps chipping away at his insecurities each time she abandons him and runs off for some reason or the other on a whim.....yeh most recent case of MS burning bhi toh whim hi nikla since two days later she was again crying and missing him😆.....inki life mein itne jhatke hote rehte hain back to back ki even before they can build that emotional assurance mutually together, Adi keeps feeling more unbalanced ki ab toh aur bhi reasons aa gaye for Imlie to abandon him....lol phir itna back and forth karne ke baad she inevitably does abandon him.....lol toh ab kahaan se bandaa kare apne aap ko stabilize and samjhe kuch? 😆.....capacity toh waise bhi kam hi hai iski on that front to grasp things😆

THIS!! And this adds up on him retreating even further..he then just goes jaane xo chodo mode caz he feels even more ke kuch aisa waisa bol dia that she wouldn't like toh chali jaayegi..matlab woh difficulty speech main isne inhi baaton se Zach hoke ek halka sa keh dia ke tum difficult kyon ho rahi ho toh she took that wrong too. The moment adi feels imlie will abandon him again he goes into ahh nah all is fine main kuch kehta hi nahi hopn ..which is not fair..caz imlie is pro at words she is good at articulating her feelings and make sense and damjhao and adi ki woh nahi hai quality and woh seedhi baat jo uske POV se uska poi t hota hai and valid bhi so many times eoh reh jaata hai aise samjhana jaise samjhana or samjhna chahiye caz then adi cuts it short in his Fear ..*sigh* in this whole bharosa issue too he just goes then baat nahi karte ke iss tarah shayad he can prevent disaster as in for him imlie leaving is a disaster end of everything.

Originally posted by: Goddy2010

I slightly vary here. I think she put up with lot of drama from Malini just for the sake of Adi. She even accepted the baby also which is also a big deal. I do agree Imlie could have made the situation better if she would have sent Malini away when Adi gave her the power to decide. Imlie wants to be good to everybody in the world. In that process she has put their relationship under risk by keeping Malini at home. I understand Adi’s emotional dependency on Imlie. If he is so much dependent then he need to see things from her perspective put himself in her shoes and what best can be done. To give him that jhatka she burned MS and sindoor ( though I personally felt she went overboard ). But Adi again disappointed not by introspeting what made her to take this extreme step.I would say Imlie has also contributed to the mess but Adi’s share is slightly more for me.

Really? She only put up with Malini drama for Adi's sake? Not for her "haaye meri bechaari badi behen Malini didi" keeda? 😆 Why is it continuously forgotten here that Imlie has gone out of her way to give regard to M not just cuz of Adi, but also cuz of HERSELF....iska behen prem for the woman who's constantly treated her like shit.....lol let's not forget she STILL calls her DIDI even after ALL THIS......you really think she does THAT for Adi too? 😆

Has it been forgotten what Imlie did after that office party wala dance when it was clear to her that Malini stole the sari and sabotaged her makeup? Uske baad bhi Imlie ON HER OWN wanted to keep talking to Malini and giving her "understanding".....lol so no, she didn't put up with that for Adi's sake....khud ke liye kiya isne cuz isko didi se prem chahiye.

And Imlie was walking out on Adi after that JM kaand.....she came back to fight for his court case - but again he never asked her to fight the court case - she did it out of her personal sense of justice and love for him....so to try and make it sound like she only bore Malini for Adi's sake is not the full picture either.....Imlie this entire time has also done what she personally considered to be the right thing to do....she didn't just blindly bear everything for Adi's sake....she personally thought it was the right thing to do to think about the innocent kid which wasn't at fault in this situation....she personally thought it was the right thing to do to give Malini another chance since she was now pregnant.....no one was forcing her to do these things. All Adi asked of her was that she not leave him....that has always been his only baseline...he never said to her you HAVE to accept this baccha....he only said ki he feels a responsibility towards the kid now and he also simultaneously was unwilling to give up on his love for Imlie. Imlie again was the one to decide that M will stay in the house cuz of the baccha - she didn't do that for Adi, she did it cuz she felt it was the right thing to do. She only started getting agitated later when she realized that M doesn't give a shit about the kid either.....but by then it was too late and the situation was a way bigger mess to suddenly start convincing Adi from that point on ki nahin ab M ko nikaal do, ab woh bahut buri hai......lol

I understand many people here are extremely disappointed with Adi.....that's fine....but I also feel that there is a lot of lopsided selective memory here about just how long Imlie has mismanaged the Malini problem as well....and she has always had a lot of power to dictate things on the Malini front before....but right now she feels trapped on that front too cuz iska bass nahin chalaa when it really mattered vis a vis exposing Malini, isliye bhi isko zyada gussa hai.....lol sab log Malini didi se haare huye hain, isliye gusse mein hain😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Oh man, Aparna for once is not flipping? *rubs eyes in disbelief*.....yeh miracle kaise hogaya? And more importantly....kitni der last karega?

But Rupi and all were in blue for that jagraata function toh yeh kaisa boycott hai jahaan they are still dressed up for the functions? .....is this going to be like their "boycott" of Imlie ke post shaadi functions? lol ki dress up hokar aa gaye the even though they were against it?

TRULY A MIRACLE it will be a victory if they can stick to their resolve even for one epi but I guess dodi will BM them by giving baby ki Duhaai kr am not loved nor FAVORITE even whe I have the baby too easy to flip everyone .dekhte hain and yes baaki sajh dajh ke aa jaayenge and loser R's ko bhi bula lenge ya Wait ASR is didi a Personal and MVP hai na only special guest for shaadi as she told QC yesterday toh wohi bula legi lol

Originally posted by: RaitaPhailGaya1

THIS!! And this adds up on him retreating even further..he then just goes jaane xo chodo mode caz he feels even more ke kuch aisa waisa bol dia that she wouldn't like toh chali jaayegi..matlab woh difficulty speech main isne inhi baaton se Zach hoke ek halka sa keh dia ke tum difficult kyon ho rahi ho toh she took that wrong too. The moment adi feels imlie will abandon him again he goes into ahh nah all is fine main kuch kehta hi nahi hopn ..which is not fair..caz imlie is pro at words she is good at articulating her feelings and make sense and samjhao and adi ki woh nahi hai quality and woh seedhi baat jo uske POV se uska poi t hota hai and valid bhi so many times eoh reh jaata hai aise samjhana jaise samjhana or samjhna chahiye caz then adi cuts it short in his Fear ..*sigh* in this whole bharosa issue too he just goes then baat nahi karte ke iss tarah shayad he can prevent disaster as in for him imlie leaving is a disaster end of everything.

Adi can be quite good at samjhaaoing too if given a chance....lol but haalaat iske kaafi khilaaf hain na ab. And yes, Imlie basically maaroing dabka to him on any general thing he would say also basically made him retreat further into a shell. Ki kuch bolo hi nahin cuz Imlie har cheez ka ulta matlab nikaal ke isko aur lamba lecture jhaad degi😆.....so yeah that contributed to the communication breakdown and now here we are at the point we are.

Imlie had already made up her mind that he is supposedly jealous of her professional success toh uske aage yeh kuch bhi bole/soche, point hi kya hai? LLOL usi baat ko ab escalate karke yahaan tak le aaye hain ki taano mein abhi bhi swirl kar rahi hai.....and abhi bhi aur galat hi samjhi jaayegi aur bhi cuz whatever he's saying in his general anger/hurt will also be interpreted as him supposedly being jealous of her being at a higher post than him.....lol jabki real issue yehi hai ki he feels abandoned by her - woh distance, woh connection ka tootna is killing him.

Agreed. But I didn’t understand why Adi was not able to ponder even a bit on the fact the girl who worshipped Malini and who was so much in guilt in taking her place suddenly started talking otherwise. I don’t want Adi to trust blindly. May be he could have sat with her and ask her to narrate the things and get the kids nformation and he could have monitored Malini’s actions. But Adi brushed aside her claims without giving a second thought was not a nice thing.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Really? She only put up with Malini drama for Adi's sake? Not for her "haaye meri bechaari badi behen Malini didi" keeda? 😆 Why is it continuously forgotten here that Imlie has gone out of her way to give regard to M not just cuz of Adi, but also cuz of HERSELF....iska behen prem for the woman who's constantly treated her like shit.....lol let's not forget she STILL calls her DIDI even after ALL THIS......you really think she does THAT for Adi too? 😆

Has it been forgotten what Imlie did after that office party wala dance when it was clear to her that Malini stole the sari and sabotaged her makeup? Uske baad bhi Imlie ON HER OWN wanted to keep talking to Malini and giving her "understanding".....lol so no, she didn't put up with that for Adi's sake....khud ke liye kiya isne cuz isko didi se prem chahiye.

And Imlie was walking out on Adi after that JM kaand.....she came back to fight for his court case - but again he never asked her to fight the court case - she did it out of her personal sense of justice and love for him....so to try and make it sound like she only bore Malini for Adi's sake is not the full picture either.....Imlie this entire time has also done what she personally considered to be the right thing to do....she didn't just blindly bear everything for Adi's sake....she personally thought it was the right thing to do to think about the innocent kid which wasn't at fault in this situation....she personally thought it was the right thing to do to give Malini another chance since she was now pregnant.....no one was forcing her to do these things. All Adi asked of her was that she not leave him....that has always been his only baseline...he never said to her you HAVE to accept this baccha....he only said ki he feels a responsibility towards the kid now and he also simultaneously was unwilling to give up on his love for Imlie. Imlie again was the one to decide that M will stay in the house cuz of the baccha - she didn't do that for Adi, she did it cuz she felt it was the right thing to do. She only started getting agitated later when she realized that M doesn't give a shit about the kid either.....but by then it was too late and the situation was a way bigger mess to suddenly start convincing Adi from that point on ki nahin ab M ko nikaal do, ab woh bahut buri hai......lol

I understand many people here are extremely disappointed with Adi.....that's fine....but I also feel that there is a lot of lopsided selective memory here about just how long Imlie has mismanaged the Malini problem as well....and she has always had a lot of power to dictate things on the Malini front before....but right now she feels trapped on that front too cuz iska bass nahin chalaa when it really mattered vis a vis exposing Malini, isliye bhi isko zyada gussa hai.....lol sab log Malini didi se haare huye hain, isliye gusse mein hain😆

+ 1 again. And yes baatein toh phor bhi purani ho gayi hai. Was that out of love for adi too when after a this and rhe demand she was calling Amma and being hum bas xhahte hain humari badi behan ke dil se humare liye nagrat khatam hi jaaye and humara Double rishta hai..sure Adi must've told her that to.. or after knowing everything straight out if her mouth when imlie kept going SM meri behan ke dil main pyaar aur Mamta jaga do. Ya after knowing she raped adi she was making food for her and khilaooijg her badaam by doing jahaaz aaya jahaaz aaya tab didi buti nahi thi..ab lhud ka mannn bhar gaya seva se toh sab ado ki galti hai wah wah kya baat hai..and Not to forget in all this time adi still never said or showed any love concern or expected imlie to do any of that nonsense she was doing lol

Originally posted by: RaitaPhailGaya1

TRULY A MIRACLE it will be a victory if they can stick to their resolve even for one epi but I guess dodi will BM them by giving baby ki Duhaai kr am not loved nor FAVORITE even whe I have the baby too easy to flip everyone .dekhte hain and yes baaki sajh dajh ke aa jaayenge and loser R's ko bhi bula lenge ya Wait ASR is didi a Personal and MVP hai na only special guest for shaadi as she told QC yesterday toh wohi bula legi lol

Oh LMAO achha toh aaj aayegi baari to play the baby card? 😆.....Cool cool....we are ready for flips either ways😆

And haha yeah Didi is the mastermind of everything toh sure, usne hi bol diya hoga ASR ko ki please invite your whole family to my shaadi😆.....probably part of her plan to convince Adi all the more ki Arylie shaadi preps are on too.....koi aapas mein baat nahin karega and presumptions ke basis pe MU chalaate raho....😆