Imlie Written Updates and Episode Discussions 25 Nov 2021 - Page 22

Originally posted by: HappyChamper

@bold : You have valid points in ur writeup Khushi ji . 👍🏼

Thank you ji😃 Saach main I am so pissed at this Adi guy I can discuss non stop how insensitive he has been lately.

Read all perspectives but somehow pro Adi ones don’t get in my head... no offense anyone please... I m a person who likes to listen to both sides of the story and try understanding different perspectives.

Are we expecting a 19 year old to keep compromising while the 30 old or so absolutely not giving a damn to his wife’s perspectives? Many of us may be wife’s ourselves here... isn’t Adi’s behavior intolerable? How many of real life women will accept a child from ex wife and let the ex wife stay in their life forever? Doesn’t happen yaa... this is way too complicated. I live in a country where people don’t judge you by the no of marriages and it’s okay to leave each other if not getting along, still haven’t heard ever wife and ex staying together in one house and taking care of responsibility of child together.

For a while, chalo let’s accept his is one of a kind circumstances, how about not trusting your wife at all when it is in context of your ex wife? And ex wife is bullying around and still no action from the husband.

Forget good loving husbands, even a basic decent husbands will not let a wife suffer at this level just because he trusts his friend way too much? Why is so difficult to believe people change with time?

How conveniently she told him it’s either her or Imlie in the house... with great audacity she is sitting on breakfast table and taking nonsense about his wife almost everyday since she left but this guy doesn’t utter a word... acha don’t trust imlie but at least for a moment think why your elder sister who you seem to respect much is also against Malini and her intentions... matlab Saab galat hain baas iski GD sahi hai.... height of ignorance I will say. 

MC room main dinner la rahi hai and says it’s ok if you don’t eat.. banda haath pakadke made her stop and took the food. Didn’t other people also just say they don’t feel like eating? Then some days chai , water and what not. I know they are showing he still hasn’t understood his mistake and thinks Imlie just pati patni ki ladai main ego main chali gaayi hai, but still ek baar check karo- she has money, she has clothes , other necessities? Na ji.. chotu ki mummy ka session bhi important hai isko than anything.

Adi may have loved Imlie but always trusted MC more. Understand the guilt he carries for GD, we all understand it’s complicated, but wasn’t he the one jo Imlie ko haq dena chahta tha jo usne manga bhi nahi... it has to be this way or that way... can’t be both... when you have moved on you have to make arrangements... simply managing MC expectations and saying NO when needed.... patni sadak paar wait kaar rahi hai aur sirji dhaaga band rahe hain MC ke saath... can’t say let me check on Imlie first then we can do this later. or KC paar tell imlie to wrap up quickly or at least tell her before leaving...it was so terrible wife opens eyes to see husband and husband is gone to get GD... Kono patni accept nahi karat hai...How imlie clearly indicated Suddenly ji coming all the time... but bhaisaab dhimaag laga aise kaise ho sakta hai? Pata nahi kya hi article likhta hoga front page paar... 🤪

Originally posted by: Colormenow

Everything 🔴: same page book ji🤗

🔴2: I give that in for argument's sake since people conveniently forget that it was because of Adi that she got closer to Family before him. She freaking gave up on her self respect the day she got married to him until recently. Adi never had to, He conveniently got married to MC because his self respect was "bruised" 

Even after all of this she did accept him as her husband and kept him above all. Whenever she had to make a choice, she always choose Adi over anything and any one.( not gonna add Sk, have a different take on him) while fulfilling all her responsibilities as a wife. 

awww🤗🤗🤗

Yes, I agree and whatever Imlie did was because of Adi’s actions, so I don’t really hold her responsible even if I don’t agree with her, I understand her reasoning.

Same with SK, I don’t agree with what he did, but I can understand that he was manipulated and the one thing people forget is that, he is no ordinary father, he is a father with a gun, and any father if he has a gun at his disposal and hears what he heard, he would shoot first and then stop to think. So, I can understand him even though he was completely in the wrong.

Though Adi saving Malini from the case and with the pregnancy actually proved him right and still Adi wants SK to be jailed

Agreed with you all your points.

Originally posted by: Khushi1003

Thank you ji😃 Saach main I am so pissed at this Adi guy I can discuss non stop how insensitive he has been lately.

Read all perspectives but somehow pro Adi ones don’t get in my head... no offense anyone please... I m a person who likes to listen to both sides of the story and try understanding different perspectives.

Are we expecting a 19 year old to keep compromising while the 30 old or so absolutely not giving a damn to his wife’s perspectives? Many of us may be wife’s ourselves here... isn’t Adi’s behavior intolerable? How many of real life women will accept a child from ex wife and let the ex wife stay in their life forever? Doesn’t happen yaa... this is way too complicated. I live in a country where people don’t judge you by the no of marriages and it’s okay to leave each other if not getting along, still haven’t heard ever wife and ex staying together in one house and taking care of responsibility of child together.

For a while, chalo let’s accept his is one of a kind circumstances, how about not trusting your wife at all when it is in context of your ex wife? And ex wife is bullying around and still no action from the husband.

Forget good loving husbands, even a basic decent husbands will not let a wife suffer at this level just because he trusts his friend way too much? Why is so difficult to believe people change with time?

How conveniently she told him it’s either her or Imlie in the house... with great audacity she is sitting on breakfast table and taking nonsense about his wife almost everyday since she left but this guy doesn’t utter a word... acha don’t trust imlie but at least for a moment think why your elder sister who you seem to respect much is also against Malini and her intentions... matlab Saab galat hain baas iski GD sahi hai.... height of ignorance I will say. 

MC room main dinner la rahi hai and says it’s ok if you don’t eat.. banda haath pakadke made her stop and took the food. Didn’t other people also just say they don’t feel like eating? Then some days chai , water and what not. I know they are showing he still hasn’t understood his mistake and thinks Imlie just pati patni ki ladai main ego main chali gaayi hai, but still ek baar check karo- she has money, she has clothes , other necessities? Na ji.. chotu ki mummy ka session bhi important hai isko than anything.

Adi may have loved Imlie but always trusted MC more. Understand the guilt he carries for GD, we all understand it’s complicated, but wasn’t he the one jo Imlie ko haq dena chahta tha jo usne manga bhi nahi... it has to be this way or that way... can’t be both... when you have moved on you have to make arrangements... simply managing MC expectations and saying NO when needed.... patni sadak paar wait kaar rahi hai aur sirji dhaaga band rahe hain MC ke saath... can’t say let me check on Imlie first then we can do this later. or KC paar tell imlie to wrap up quickly or at least tell her before leaving...it was so terrible wife opens eyes to see husband and husband is gone to get GD... Kono patni accept nahi karat hai...How imlie clearly indicated Suddenly ji coming all the time... but bhaisaab dhimaag laga aise kaise ho sakta hai? Pata nahi kya hi article likhta hoga front page paar... 🤪

agree to every point you raised👍🏼

Originally posted by: zubaidah

Imlie have supported him especially after Janmastani , 

But what he did ? Deleted the video . Did he discussed with her before deleting it .

That itself already show where is his priorities. He rather save Malini from public  humiliation rather  than appreciating Imlie standing by him. 

By repeating, l love you and you are only my wife is nothing without action.

His logic on Malini staying there , doesn’t not  make sense . So what happened after giving birth ? Still staying there ? In my thinking, he will said I can’t separate child and mother . I also as a father need to take responsibilities  and welfare’s of the child so I need to be with child. So where it will put Imlie  ? He need to clear all this mess by himself 

Imlie did a right thing by walking out , as it’s worthless to stay and fight for a relationship which consider as one sided effort .

With Imlie moving out, Aditya still not making any effort correcting his mistakes and to bring back his wife instead he is allowing Malini roaming around and behaving like GB and his wife .’

Why must she wait for him , offering tea , taking control of his life , example saying he don’t eat this and that . 

Lastly everything happened for a reason, God plan better than our plan . Whatever meant for you it will be yours if it’s not yours then it’s not yours. 

Aditya need to make a decision ,on what he want 

Pyar ya zimindari? come first 

@bold : In this case think about Malini too this man doesn’t want her as his wife ok got it but then you are tieing her too for your love for child not letting her move ahead in life … he can co-parent but then need not be in the same house to do tht .. 

Originally posted by: book.worm

hahahah she is telling everyone except Adi that she will go back the moment he accepts the truth. The only person who doesn’t know that is Adi, good thing he doesn’t know otherwise Banda would go back to his overconfident self😆

Originally posted by: Khushi1003

Thank you ji😃 Saach main I am so pissed at this Adi guy I can discuss non stop how insensitive he has been lately.

Read all perspectives but somehow pro Adi ones don’t get in my head... no offense anyone please... I m a person who likes to listen to both sides of the story and try understanding different perspectives.

Are we expecting a 19 year old to keep compromising while the 30 old or so absolutely not giving a damn to his wife’s perspectives? Many of us may be wife’s ourselves here... isn’t Adi’s behavior intolerable? How many of real life women will accept a child from ex wife and let the ex wife stay in their life forever? Doesn’t happen yaa... this is way too complicated. I live in a country where people don’t judge you by the no of marriages and it’s okay to leave each other if not getting along, still haven’t heard ever wife and ex staying together in one house and taking care of responsibility of child together.

For a while, chalo let’s accept his is one of a kind circumstances, how about not trusting your wife at all when it is in context of your ex wife? And ex wife is bullying around and still no action from the husband.

Forget good loving husbands, even a basic decent husbands will not let a wife suffer at this level just because he trusts his friend way too much? Why is so difficult to believe people change with time?

How conveniently she told him it’s either her or Imlie in the house... with great audacity she is sitting on breakfast table and taking nonsense about his wife almost everyday since she left but this guy doesn’t utter a word... acha don’t trust imlie but at least for a moment think why your elder sister who you seem to respect much is also against Malini and her intentions... matlab Saab galat hain baas iski GD sahi hai.... height of ignorance I will say. 

MC room main dinner la rahi hai and says it’s ok if you don’t eat.. banda haath pakadke made her stop and took the food. Didn’t other people also just say they don’t feel like eating? Then some days chai , water and what not. I know they are showing he still hasn’t understood his mistake and thinks Imlie just pati patni ki ladai main ego main chali gaayi hai, but still ek baar check karo- she has money, she has clothes , other necessities? Na ji.. chotu ki mummy ka session bhi important hai isko than anything.

Adi may have loved Imlie but always trusted MC more. Understand the guilt he carries for GD, we all understand it’s complicated, but wasn’t he the one jo Imlie ko haq dena chahta tha jo usne manga bhi nahi... it has to be this way or that way... can’t be both... when you have moved on you have to make arrangements... simply managing MC expectations and saying NO when needed.... patni sadak paar wait kaar rahi hai aur sirji dhaaga band rahe hain MC ke saath... can’t say let me check on Imlie first then we can do this later. or KC paar tell imlie to wrap up quickly or at least tell her before leaving...it was so terrible wife opens eyes to see husband and husband is gone to get GD... Kono patni accept nahi karat hai...How imlie clearly indicated Suddenly ji coming all the time... but bhaisaab dhimaag laga aise kaise ho sakta hai? Pata nahi kya hi article likhta hoga front page paar... 🤪

Totally agree with all your points. Lihaaz ki bhi hadh hoti hain.. He can't say no to M, token pushback karega n he's all hers the next moment. But if imlie asks something, ooo paranoid hojata hain bandha🤢

Dear friends I have opened the new thread and stickied it ,

Please feel free to do the live updates and discuss away .

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/topic/5264614

Originally posted by: zubaidah

Imlie have supported him especially after Janmastani , 

But what he did ? Deleted the video . Did he discussed with her before deleting it .

That itself already show where is his priorities. He rather save Malini from public  humiliation rather  than appreciating Imlie standing by him. 

By repeating, l love you and you are only my wife is nothing without action.

His logic on Malini staying there , doesn’t not  make sense . So what happened after giving birth ? Still staying there ? In my thinking, he will said I can’t separate child and mother . I also as a father need to take responsibilities  and welfare’s of the child so I need to be with child. So where it will put Imlie  ? He need to clear all this mess by himself 

Imlie did a right thing by walking out , as it’s worthless to stay and fight for a relationship which consider as one sided effort .

With Imlie moving out, Aditya still not making any effort correcting his mistakes and to bring back his wife instead he is allowing Malini roaming around and behaving like GB and his wife .’

Why must she wait for him , offering tea , taking control of his life , example saying he don’t eat this and that . 

Lastly everything happened for a reason, God plan better than our plan . Whatever meant for you it will be yours if it’s not yours then it’s not yours. 

Aditya need to make a decision ,on what he want 

Pyar ya zimindari? come first 

Agree with all your points.

Bold - exactly my question when he said Imlie should decide if she should stay or not. Why did the thought of her staying come to his mind in the first place?

And imlie also wants her to stay after that - the infamous threesome dialogue.

But she realised that and asked him to send her away. Matlab your patni the sabse bada sach in your life, your "sirf-imlie" patni, your so-called phephada, is asking you the thing you should've done much earlier - send away with woman you slept with cuz I'm not comfortable, the bed reminds me of the night you slept with her, par nahi gussa aagaya bandhe ko that their rishta is not so kamzor ki kisi M se rehne se kuch hoga, well boy kisi M se rehne se you slept with her and aaj tumhara nanhi si jaan paida honewala hain.

He actually stopped her from leaving before the night. Tab bhi usko nahi laga ki I should've let her go, ye sab nahi hua hota tab.. Par nahi. "Tumne kya socha hain imlie?" Sochna my foot, the baby is not even out yet kya ukhaadlega ye bachhe keliye? At least delivery time tak usko ghar bhejdeta.. Like every pregnant woman - let her stay at her mother's place. Iski ati-zimmedaari towards malini and the baby, and pati responsibilities jaaye bhaad mein because my wife is used to compromise and adjustments. She hides all her feelings and tolerates all my actions so I don't have to worry! Tada!

Originally posted by: book.worm

awww🤗🤗🤗

Yes, I agree and whatever Imlie did was because of Adi’s actions, so I don’t really hold her responsible even if I don’t agree with her, I understand her reasoning.

Same with SK, I don’t agree with what he did, but I can understand that he was manipulated and the one thing people forget is that, he is no ordinary father, he is a father with a gun, and any father if he has a gun at his disposal and hears what he heard, he would shoot first and then stop to think. So, I can understand him even though he was completely in the wrong.

Though Adi saving Malini from the case and with the pregnancy actually proved him right and still Adi wants SK to be jailed

Completely agree with you Book ji, 

@bold: Sk was wrong and Imlie was wrong too. In the whole scenario she shouldn't have let him go but she did. Here I did not mind her letting him go as much as I minded her not consulting Adi before. Same was my stand with video deletion, didn't mind the deletion as much as I minded him not involving Imlie in that decision, when he knew Imlie shook heaven and earth for the proof. Fine, he deleted it but what about Anu? she did confess of her crimes. Why not punish her? 

There are some who don't agree that SK was manipulated he was the one with the gun but what about Anu and Adi's own family who have inflicted more pain to Imlie that no human can endure. Because Imlie's wounds were not visible? how can people think that it was any less than what Adi went through. Imlie still is the one struggling on roads while Adi is moping around, why? Why do we not see Adi on streets? 

Sk's action came from a place of love and care for his daughter. What excuse to Anu and Ts have? 

However stupid Sk behaved, he did see a man cheating his daughter. Who claimed to love only his daughter( Adi never claimed to love MC, then why her mother's actions are never taken into account). I feel it was easier for Adi to punish SK because he comes from Imlie's family, a family who is ready to "adjust" 

And like classic Adi, who wouldn't mind berating the one who is ready to be punished but won't say a word to the woman who orchestrated his "suhaagraat" Without his knowledge and let's not forget the Adi's family was equally responsible for MC's pregnancy and whatever the situation was that before JM night. 

In all of this Adi does find Imlie and her family to be the one who will compromise with whatever twisted Situation he throws at them. 

I agree with you on Sk's concerns and whatever the case maybe. Directly or indirectly Adi did betray Imlie. Why does Adi feel entitled to heard everytime. Why does he feel that people should just "understand" and adjust with him. Sk felt something, that is his take on the matter why does Adi have to shove his thinking and his throat too. He is living with two wives why does he expect SK to just understand and move on ( it's like tumhara kuta tommy aur mera kuta, kuta😂)