Culture and hairstyle

OK... This is just a genuine doubt I had for a long time... Nothing to do with the current arc.

Is it common in India that married woman will have a hair bun on all auspicious occasions?

From the part of India, where I come from, hair buns on auspicious occasions are done by widows or really old women.. although now, even old people are saying that they don't want the hair bun.

In Anupama.. almost always they show Kinjal, Kavya in a hair bun when there is some pooja in house. (I am not saying Anupama because that is her hairstyle every next day)

In fact I have seen in many ITV the moment someone becomes a widow they keep their hair open...

First when my mom and I saw that we got confused as we have reverse here, our side, widows never leave their hair open.. I think a generation before actually thought that as a sin...

When Draupadi says she will only tie her hair if she gets Dushasana's blood... we never interpreted as insult her her husbands.. we always just thought that she was just angry at Dushasana. But now, I think.. she was indirectly saying that she no longer acknowledge them as her husbands.. so no tying hair?

And before anyone say... Yes.. times are changing.. there are no strict rules now... I know that... But I am asking from a historical point of view.

Is hair tying a symbol of married woman?

Oh! just another thing..

I thank the writers of Anupama for making her tie her hair in the kitchen..

You don't know How much I suffer when I see anyone knead dough with their open hair in many ITVs..

well from where I come widows aren’t supposed to leave their hair open so maybe a bun makes sense from that pov but I don’t know if it’s cultural and about married women almost everyone makes a bun as it’s convenient

I don't think so it's a culture to tie the hair.

Even we are allowed to do anything. I mean there is no rule or ritual like that.

In the show Anupama is from Gujarat and I am also from Gujarat. I wanted to say we Gujjus are free to do anything. But yeah if any particular family restricted anything then I have no idea otherwise there is no particular rule about it. During occasions also we are allowed to make any hairstyle or to keep hair open as per our convience.

I dont think its related to culture. Its just that normal everyday you just brush your hair and leave them open or make a choti but on special occasions you get ready with hevay clothes and jewellery, makeup so you give extra attention to your hairs too and bun suits with all the hair accessories. It gives rich look to the hairdo

It is cultural because

- Tied hair are considered (and honestly look) more formal. While lose hair look informal. Traditionally Indian women of all ages have had long hair through most of our history. So braids & buns became better suited for formal & public events. Remember Draupadi's lose hair? It was considered a matter of great shame for her husbands. It was her reminder to her husbands for what they allowed to happen to her. She, Bharat's empress, allowed every man in the kingdom to see her with lose hair, how only people who meet her in private should have been allowed to see her.

- IMO it comes from India being a tropical + agrarian/industrial country. Long lose hair are not ideal to work in the sun, rains, & humidity all day. Plus in India, hair are considered a jewel. So leaving home in protective hairstyles makes sense.. Which gave way to it becoming the norm.

I'm a South Indian Tamil Brahmin woman. In our culture, we married woman have to keep our hair tied like a ponytail or as a plait for festival / while performing pooja at home.

Only during someone's marriage esp. reception OR going to office, we can keep our hair open for a limited time..

In my culture, only when a woman becomes a widow, she keep her hair open and weeps for her dead spouse..