Words or action - what to choose? [ft. Pallavi & Raghav]

I am bit confused really. Let me tell I haven't watched the episode or even the prior episodes. But I gauged from the forum discussion that Raghav apparantly tells Pallavi that money matters more to him than her.

Now that's incredibly hurtful and undeniably demeaning. Pallavi has a right to be upset and hurt and mad at him for telling so. But would it be prudent for her to believe it? I mean when we say sweet things to people in love... like I can die for you. I'll cross the thirteen rives and seven seas and climb mountains for you. I'll hang the sun, moon and the stars in your ceiling and other cringeworthy stuff do we actually mean it?

Just how many times have we seen people actually going through with their promises? How many times have we seen people act according to their words. I have seen people having the utmost respect and love for their parteners in their words yet no move is made to that effect in terms of physical action.

And here comes a guy who had no qualms about suffering through humiliation day in and day out from his in laws, getting hit by them and his wife not once, or twice but several times, tolerating his wife's demands and actions to be with her ex husband for her humanity, dressing up as a bloody cook to serve the people who leave no stone unturned to insult him, literally acquising to be in life imprisonment so that his wife doesn't have to suffer through hand burns and would have blown his brains out for her safety.

And the same guy also doesn't think once before spitting hurtful things to her in a fit of rage and temper.

He deliberately hits her where it hurts to win an argument probably. Knows her pressure points and hurts her incessantly in his impulsiveness and acerbic tongue.

What should Pallavi do in this case? I am genuinely out of my depth. What kind of inconsistency is this writers? Is ot your ever increasing dementia or...

Is it deliberate? Are you guys cooking something up to launch at us later unannounced? Or is it just how you have crafted Raghav Rao and Pallavi Deshmukh? If that is the case then kudos to you! This is absolutely amazing. I have probably for the first time in ITV seen a heroine, a female lead being as flawed as the male lead. She is beautiful no doubt, kind no doubt, generous no doubt, loving no doubt... but has her own faults. The flaws which makes her look human.

Stubbornness, selective justice and somewhat deliberate blindness towards her family. The typical faults shown in the ITV male leads whereas the fls are the self sacrificing type.

Kudos and cheers! If that is what you all are trying to portray. 👏

Raghav hasn’t said that money matters to him more than Pallavi yet. It’s in precap and sluggishly edited. I will reserve my judgements till episode airs and I actually get to see what Raghav says and how Pallavi reacts .

Till now he hasn’t said it and she hasn’t believed it either.

Free ki suggestion - watch episodes before reading reviews online ,this helps me might help someone else ❤️ episodes and show past 1-3 days aren’t that problematic or disappointing.

Originally posted by: AnushkhaA

I am bit confused really. Let me tell I haven't watched the episode or even the prior episodes. But I gauged from the forum discussion that Raghav apparantly tells Pallavi that money matters more to him than her.

Now that's incredibly hurtful and undeniably demeaning. Pallavi has a right to be upset and hurt and mad at him for telling so. But would it be prudent for her to believe it? I mean when we say sweet things to people in love... like I can die for you. I'll cross the thirteen rives and seven seas and climb mountains for you. I'll hang the sun, moon and the stars in your ceiling and other cringeworthy stuff do we actually mean it?

Just how many times have we seen people actually going through with their promises? How many times have we seen people act according to their words. I have seen people having the utmost respect and love for their parteners in their words yet no move is made to that effect in terms of physical action.

And here comes a guy who had no qualms about suffering through humiliation day in and day out from his in laws, getting hit by them and his wife not once, or twice but several times, tolerating his wife's demands and actions to be with her ex husband for her humanity, dressing up as a bloody cook to serve the people who leave no stone unturned to insult him, literally acquising to be in life imprisonment so that his wife doesn't have to suffer through hand burns and would have blown his brains out for her safety.

And the same guy also doesn't think once before spitting hurtful things to her in a fit of rage and temper.

He deliberately hits her where it hurts to win an argument probably. Knows her pressure points and hurts her incessantly in his impulsiveness and acerbic tongue.

What should Pallavi do in this case? I am genuinely out of my depth. What kind of inconsistency is this writers? Is ot your ever increasing dementia or...

Is it deliberate? Are you guys cooking something up to launch at us later unannounced? Or is it just how you have crafted Raghav Rao and Pallavi Deshmukh? If that is the case then kudos to you! This is absolutely amazing. I have probably for the first time in ITV seen a heroine, a female lead being as flawed as the male lead. She is beautiful no doubt, kind no doubt, generous no doubt, loving no doubt... but has her own faults. The flaws which makes her look human.

Stubbornness, selective justice and somewhat deliberate blindness towards her family. The typical faults shown in the ITV male leads whereas the fls are the self sacrificing type.

Kudos and cheers! If that is what you all are trying to portray. 👏

Wonderful Anushka 👏 you said it all 👍🏼

As per the precap, she's the one who already assumes that he only cares about money.

Sahi socha tha maine, tumhaare liye sirf paisa hi matter karta hai. Matlab kal ko agar paison aur mujhme kuch choose karna pade to tum paison ko choose karoge.

He says, main paison ko itna value karta hai... but then they don't show what happens after that.

Also, having such a 'conversation' with a seriously drunk guy is pointless.

The fact that she even has to ask him this when he was going to spend his whole life in jail after shooting Mandaar to protect her is beyond me.

I personally don't see her behavior as being surprising. She was like this from day 1, so why her fans are blaming the writers for messing up her characterization is beyond me. I always found that she was more relatable from the initial days because she was shown to have her flaws, which she still does. The only problem is the CVs don't address it - boy does she need to work on those as well. I think this is the imbalance that bothers viewers and makes their love story seem lopsided most of the time.

Originally posted by: AnushkhaA

I am bit confused really. Let me tell I haven't watched the episode or even the prior episodes. But I gauged from the forum discussion that Raghav apparantly tells Pallavi that money matters more to him than her.

Now that's incredibly hurtful and undeniably demeaning. Pallavi has a right to be upset and hurt and mad at him for telling so. But would it be prudent for her to believe it? I mean when we say sweet things to people in love... like I can die for you. I'll cross the thirteen rives and seven seas and climb mountains for you. I'll hang the sun, moon and the stars in your ceiling and other cringeworthy stuff do we actually mean it?

Just how many times have we seen people actually going through with their promises? How many times have we seen people act according to their words. I have seen people having the utmost respect and love for their parteners in their words yet no move is made to that effect in terms of physical action.

And here comes a guy who had no qualms about suffering through humiliation day in and day out from his in laws, getting hit by them and his wife not once, or twice but several times, tolerating his wife's demands and actions to be with her ex husband for her humanity, dressing up as a bloody cook to serve the people who leave no stone unturned to insult him, literally acquising to be in life imprisonment so that his wife doesn't have to suffer through hand burns and would have blown his brains out for her safety.

And the same guy also doesn't think once before spitting hurtful things to her in a fit of rage and temper.

He deliberately hits her where it hurts to win an argument probably. Knows her pressure points and hurts her incessantly in his impulsiveness and acerbic tongue.

What should Pallavi do in this case? I am genuinely out of my depth. What kind of inconsistency is this writers? Is ot your ever increasing dementia or...

Is it deliberate? Are you guys cooking something up to launch at us later unannounced? Or is it just how you have crafted Raghav Rao and Pallavi Deshmukh? If that is the case then kudos to you! This is absolutely amazing. I have probably for the first time in ITV seen a heroine, a female lead being as flawed as the male lead. She is beautiful no doubt, kind no doubt, generous no doubt, loving no doubt... but has her own faults. The flaws which makes her look human.

Stubbornness, selective justice and somewhat deliberate blindness towards her family. The typical faults shown in the ITV male leads whereas the fls are the self sacrificing type.

Kudos and cheers! If that is what you all are trying to portray. 👏

Only after watching tomorrows episode ,we can know the actual conversation between them.

Till then no judgement.

I don't have much time right now so I'll try to keep it brief:

When people who love each other fight, it can get below the belt. The people you love the most in the world are the same people that can hurt you the most and know where to hurt you the most. It doesn't surprise me that Raghav would retaliate by saying that.

The dialogue you mentioned is from a precap, so it's too early to gage how/why Raghav says that. So I'd refrain from being too speculative until we see the scene at play. I have a feeling it could go in a lot of different ways.

As for what would Pallavi do, it's a toss up. To me, it seems like it's not necessarily that she'll believe him but I think she would be upset that he would even have the cajones to say that out loud to her. More of a "how dare you say that to me" instead of a "oh my god, you think that of me?" However, that statement could also be what fuels her to get a job and earn her own money, just to prove him wrong.

We don't know yet but those are probably her more common/expected reactions IMO.

Precap for tomorrow’s episode is confusing for sure, Why is Raghav manhandling Pallavi in a low-key manner in precap ? He wasn't that kind of husband, even when he was inebriated, he never acted like way. I wonder what pushed him to this extent.

I think you should watch the episodes before judging. There are quite a lot of people who loved the epi while quite a lot didn't.

As far as the precap goes, the exact dialogues need to be seen to understand what he said and why he said it. He also sort of manhandles her as well so I'm holding my reservation on both.

As far as actions vs words go, Pallavi knows that Raghav is a good man and hence is willing to give up her ethics for him. She didn't go to the police to get him arrested as everyone believed, she wants him to change because that is the right thing to do.

hey , i have not watched the episode or the precap , if Pallavi has said that then she should know better as she fell in love with Raghav knowing his flaws , the kind of work he does and above all his large heart ,

Originally posted by: Couch.Potato

Precap for tomorrow’s episode is confusing for sure, Why is Raghav manhandling Pallavi in a low-key manner in precap ? He wasn't that kind of husband, even when he was inebriated, he never acted like way. I wonder what pushed him to this extent.

Yes it seems like he's gripping her tightly to the point where it hurts and that threw me off because as you said he wasn't shown to be that kind of husband. Even when he unintentionally gripped her arm too hard early in the show and left marks, he put ointment and apologized to her. It might be to further show his 'dark' side to justify the Raghav ko sudharo mission.

Anyway, this behavior of Raghav's is totally unacceptable. Ugh... domestic violence... it better not be treated lightly or overlooked in the show if indeed we're interpreting the scene that way. I'll wait to see it tomorrow and if he's shown to be manhandling her then I'll call that behavior out. Also, should Pallavi really stay with a man who is/might be physically abusive?