Definitely individual perspective and how they choose to live. Finding happiness in what they hv is positive life approach. But dixits were way too negative to find any positivity in their life.
I cannot relate to their cribbing bcoz, I hv seen my 2 to 3 maids(over the period). All were struggling hard to meet their family requirement. Their husbands were not working, 2 to 3 children. Children school fees, food, rent n husband drinks all they used to provide. They had hardship, but still they had happy things to share. They used to forget their hardship when they were seeing their children growing up. Never giving up attitude n never expect in return. They just happy that they able to earn n provide to their family. Looking at their struggle i know what woman can b. Really really hats off to them.
Our one of family friend lost parents at very young age. Neighbours look after them. He did part time jobs for his studies n all. Now he is in very good position. But I never saw him cribbing. Infact he was thankful to god giving him best neighbours. That is positive approach.
My point is not denying their hardship. Everyone goes through something or other. But don't make it like they only faced problem n they lived in hell. Be positive n try to be happy.
But everyone deals with things differently right? Two of my friends lost one of their parents recently. One of them got over it within a month & moved on. Not necessarily happy but she never cries (at least not before other ppl) & keeps herself occupied & distracted. The one hasn't moved on for months now, has shut herself off & cries about it till date. Both their losses are the same but both dealt with it differently. Both loved their parents but both reacted to the grief differently. Same way every individual is different. Yes it's great if someone is positive despite everything they go through in life but if someone is bitter & remembers their past struggles later on, you can't necessarily fault them. IMO, it's easier to say how to deal with stuff and give examples as a third person. I don't know how I will react if I were in a similar situation. And to each their own :)