Priya's Anger is Completely justified.

I find so many people complaining why is Priya so negative, grumpy all the time especially when all her family members seem so normal .So here are my views on it.

1)That is because Priya is the only person to have some self-respect in that otherwise doormat house. The fact that the man has the audacity to wrong them all, to leave them and still barge into their house anytime any day, insult/body shame Priya and still the mother can’t speak one word against that man, infact reprimands Priya for not addressing him with respect .I mean is she for real….?? Plus she treats the son inlaw who cheated on priya as if he is some king..How embarassing it must be for Priya.

Either the mother has no self respect or is too scared of him.

2) Coming to the point ,why no one else is bitter. They don’t have to be bitter because Priya shields the family so strongly, taking all the problems on herself. All the family members taunt her for being bitter and negative ,but from their side what have they done to assuage her pain? I don’t think Priya’s mom is working ,would love to know in what way she contributed to the family financially…

Priya’s elder sister is not working professional as well. She takes care of the bakery but in no way can handle it without Priya. When the father threatens to not pay EMI, she is so helpless. In spite of being the elder sister who should shield the younger ones, she doesn’t even have the courage to question that man.. And Priya want’s to fight for their rights but she stops her. Then how on earth will the problem solve.. ( Had it not been Priya fighting with the bank , the bakery would have been seized by the bank)

3)And the funniest part here is, her sister would be onroads because Priya mentioned in one episode that (bakery se hi unka ghar chaltahai because husband is not working as well).So it should be the sister who should be taking late night tuitions to compensate ,but Priya after finishing the college takes tuition ,so that the bakery is not seized. Although this sister is not evil or selfish , she definitely is either irresponsible or too gullible and naive.

So Priya is bearing the brunt of 2 failed marriages ,her mother and also her elder sisters. Had she been a selfish girl like Maitreyi ,she could have left her elder sister on her own state ,her salary as a college lecturer must be self sufficient to feed her stomach ,but that is what makes Priya special. She may look tough on the exterior ,but is the most caring and sensible person in the family. The family would collapsed without her.

4)Coming to Maitreyi , father leaving them did not make her rude as Priya, but has clearly made her selfish . All she cares for is her life and her happiness. This could be because of troubled childhood. She clearly married priya’s ex boyfriend for money.. . A troubled childhood impacts every individual differently . It gave Priya the courage to fight, made her responsible, independent while Maitreyi got corrupted..

Would like to point here that Maitreyi is also not a working women. She is simple enjoying husbands wealth.

5)Last sister seems sensible, must have been very young when those things happened. And being the last she would have been pampered and well shielded and protected. But even she cannot speak a word against her father. Though I am glad that she is looking for internship which may finally reduce some financial burden on Priya.

6) Added to all these problems is this Akki, a struggling acting aspirant, so all his money must be wasted in running from pillar to post for Auditions. The way he actually swiped Priya’s card during the gymn drama because didi to sabh sambhal hi legi… itself shows Priya is his caretaker as well.

Even yesterday episode when he lost his audition,he is so unbothered .. Does not even attempt to fight against this injustice. Again it is Priya who has to fight his battle as well..

7)So in conclusion Priya is the man of the family. SIRF APNE LIYE NAHI LADTI, APNO KE LIYE BHI LADTI HAI. And how easily people point out her being grumpy and bitter .

What has life given her till now ,for her to smile be cheerful? Infinite battles to fight everyday , house , bakery , taunts of society ,stigma of being unmarried, taunts of spoilt college boys, taunts of not looking good and the list goes on( Note that the father taunts Priya’s looks alone because she is the one who fights ,who stands up against him).

Last but not the least car me peeche baithkar bolna bohut asaan hai, ki gadi aise drive karo,vaise drive karo,jo chalata hai wahi janta hai ki raasta kitna kharab hai.

It is Priya who is directly exposed to the harsh reality of the outside world and not her family members.

This post is very well explained 👍🏼

Different people cope with difficulties in different ways and not every person, especially a woman, needs to be happy and chirpy everytime.

I am making a few guesses here, but Raj, Mr Sood's son seems to be barely younger than the youngest sister- I am guessing the father left just after the fourth daughter was born.

So the mom probably took care of four daughters, by working at the bakery and possibly doing odd jobs. Once the elder daughters were old enough, I am sure they forced her to retire. Also, she is probably of the generation where marriages and husbands were high up in the totem pole and being woke was not really a thing. There were women who rebelled but they had to pay a high price for their independence.

Sara, being the eldest, actually makes sense to me based on what she is doing 🤷‍♀️ It might seem counterintuitive, but as the eldest, she is trying to maintain stability in their chaotic family lives. She probably was responsible for her siblings from a young age and the best thing she could provide her confused and helpless sisters was a sense of security and normalcy(even if it is not real). She is personifying the "don't rock the boat" philosophy. Even in her current married life, she is probably trying to project a sense of normaly for her son. If she were to also leave her husband, her son will face the same childhood she did, whilst giving her father, and society at large, ammunition against her mother- about how a single mother cannot raise competent children.

(I am not saying this is right or wrong- People take decisions for different reasons. While breaking away for your self respect is good, choosing your battles and working around your problems is also ok.)

Priya being the second eldest seems to be most affected by her sister's helplessness and jumps in to help wherever she can. It does not help that there is not a single good male in their life to support them 😕 Leading a hard life and repeatedly facing abandonment and rejection will make you cynical. But in a way she is much more practical than her sisters. She is beyond maintaining a facade for the society- she realizes that it all does not matter in the end.

Maitreyi is honestly the most confusing character for me. Initially I thought that she is driven by jealousy for Priya, but now I feel it is selfishness only. She just wanted a comfortable life, so she married a well settled guy, even if he was Priya's ex. Now she wants her family to stop riding her a**, so she is helping out with Priya's match making. I don't see any genuine concern or interest for anyone or anything. I guess she saw a lot of hardship and comprimising growing up, and never wants to be poor again, no matter what the cost.

The last sister(what is her name?) was probably just a baby when her father left. While she has had to live with the effects of her father leaving and his occasional visits to taunt them, I don't think she has seen the full extent of his toxicity and bitterness, which Sara and Priya have probably witnessed first hand(they were probably old enough to understand the fights between their parents). I also think that Sara and Priya have shielded her from the more horrible aspects of life, so while she understands the financial difficulties, she has a more cheerful and positive outlook to life.

Akki is also a bit of a question mark- I have a feeling he might have not grown up with them in the same house. He probably grew up as a cousin- he visited during holidays and had a good idea of the family dynamics. But he also probably had a stable home. We don't know how he ended up living with the Soods(maybe his dad takes Priya's family in?), but he did not face, first hand, the same bitterness as Priya did. So it is reasonable that he has his head in the clouds, and is a bit happy-go-lucky.

(sorry for the rambling 🙈 If you know me from other forums, I tend to ramble a lot)

Your post made a lot of sense to me about the family dynamics.👍🏼

I guess it's because first of all... She has seen many things happening around right from childhood. Things no one should have to go through... Her own father leaves no stone unturned to insult her and show her low infront of anyone.

Then her own love sorted to leave her and marry her friend instead...

Idk her family looks shallow... Everyone is depending on her for everything and still won't think about her. About her future n all that..

So many ways she has to be always on her defensive mode... For she does want anyone to hurt her again... She wants to be prepared and may be that's why she is somehow scared to get happy so she stays sullen so that she doesn't have to go through any thing more problematic than she already have...

Thank god someone said this, even I don't think priya is being over. Her anger and bitterness is justified, she has grown up facing so many difficulties and was cheated by the man she loved. How does one expect her to behave, anyone would've given up on life

Even I agree

It's difficult not be to bitter

I feel she's more pragmatic and real

As matter of fact she handled when Ram proposed shows her maturity and tact.

Sara seems bogged down by life , but seems supportive and not selfish as such

Maitreyi seems very selfish

Last one. Seems decent

Akki he seems to be fond of her but seems to be laid-back

So she has no choice but to be in the driver's seat 🙄

But what happens when she marries ?

Shivina I don't know if she has a job ?? In season 1 nats was a designer and was financially supportive of her in-laws

Very well explained👍🏼

I love how Priya is and she is one of the few FL's that has impressed me (just like mauli from silsila). The thing I'm scared of is she'll be made into a sacrificing dumb doormat as soon as she falls in love with Ram😔

Wonderful post👏

I completely agree with your post. Priya's anger is justified. She has gone a lot through in her life. So it's naturally that person sounds negative. But no one tries to understand her pain.

But yeah Ram will be definitely understand her and her pain.

I agree! I think for Priya after everything that she has been through, her anger is all she has left. She's aware that she's angry and negative, she uses it as a coping mechanism to protect herself, we've seen it first hand with her first encounter with Mahendra and how if she let herself feel anything but anger, it wouldn't have taken much for her to break down.