Is it necessary? - Page 2

MY TWO CENTS

Because anupama herself believes she is not worthy of a prince Charming sweeping her off a feet.

Even when Anupama was heading to the reunion the conversation was around garba and dhokla thepla. They did not reckon that Anupamas friends could be cool or classy.

Getting Devikas help is a predictable thing.

When the makers choose a male centric theme it revolves around a Quest or adventure or problem solution.

Our sub continent viewers are mostly women. That is why our soaps are rehashed projecting the way they overcome their struggles.

Anuj repeatedly says anupama doesn't need a man to give her an identity. By you definition Rakhee is right as marriage should be between equals. How often to write read of folks giving up their claim to fame for the sake of the soulmate.

When a divorcee man or widower mostly marries a young bride by saying anupama should marry a widower or divorcee who is middle class we are reiterating the thinking of patriarchy.

Originally posted by: musicalstorm

Anju you were in the forum before also...But the forum activity has only increased because of the rich guy. I wonder in real life does any guy wait for the lady love for 26 years? Thats a big question. We learn to move on. I have never seen anyone waiting for so long

To find love is good, second marriages should happen if circumstances demand so. But Anuj waiting for Anupama is a little bit illogical.

Bolded lines: I wanted Anuj to be a this type of guy...Suddenly a prince charming and all. Is something I can't digest.

One side I am loving MaAn and on other side means why the female lead will always marry a rich and a flawless guy. the atmosphere in the forum is completely changed now. Its a romantic forum now🤣. Earlier it was a life hacks forum 🤣🤣

There are some fictional exaggerated figments in the story between Anuj & Anu.

Someone not moving on may be exaggeration. Also, like you pointed out, showing him as rich businessman is a common ingredient in all soaps. Makes me wonder how the story would have turned out "if" Anuj was normal middle class, holding a simple job.

That said, some of it could be true in real world too. It is natural for humans to get drawn towards love and affection. You notice this in little children. They will be more attached to who ever is affectionate towards them than anyone who is strict.

Grown ups are like that too. In Anupama's case, she has not experienced the love & affection from the one who should have been affectionate to her, that is her spouse V. Instead, all she got was being told that she is good for nothing! So, I would not be surprised if she is drawn to someone who is affectionate & caring towards her.

Reg. Anuj still having feelings for her, that is also possible. She must have had quiet an impression on him. I can vouch for this first hand, how someone remembered me after many years oblivious to me ... 😉 my personal story for another day. 😳 But the point is, Anuj having feelings for her is possible. But, not moving is a bit hard to relate to.

Hema malini herself said in one of interview ki ghar pe bhi mujhse agar dhanendra ji pyaar mohabbat baatein karte hain to woh bus 5,6 minute ke liye achi lagti hai but 5 , 6 minute baad pyaar mohabbat ki baatein Boring aur irritating lagne lagti hai

Originally posted by: musicalstorm

Anju you were in the forum before also...But the forum activity has only increased because of the rich guy. I wonder in real life does any guy wait for the lady love for 26 years? Thats a big question. We learn to move on. I have never seen anyone waiting for so long

To find love is good, second marriages should happen if circumstances demand so. But Anuj waiting for Anupama is a little bit illogical.

Bolded lines: I wanted Anuj to be a this type of guy...Suddenly a prince charming and all. Is something I can't digest.

One side I am loving MaAn and on other side means why the female lead will always marry a rich and a flawless guy. the atmosphere in the forum is completely changed now. Its a romantic forum now🤣. Earlier it was a life hacks forum 🤣🤣

In terms of waiting 26 years.... he didn't really wait for her, given that he mentioned he was in relationships in between but none of the girls stuck and none made a lasting impression on his heart, yet he still remembered anu, the girl who he had a big crush on in college but never got a chance with. There's nothing unrealistic about this part. Trust me I've heard some crazy real life stories of people who were in love in their youth but their relationship never culminated into something, they go about their lives, only to come across each other after many many years (some even in middle-age) and past sparks ignite and they give their relationship a chance and it sometimes actually leading to marriage.

I heard from my mother about two people who cheated on their spouses. The woman who cheated was a neighbour who lived on our street before I was born so I don't know either of the cheaters. The cheaters were engaged at one point when in their early 20's and the woman was the one to break it off. Then they both soon married other people. What happened? The woman's ex-fiance who was married with teenage kids himself contacted her after 18 years after getting her number from someone and informed her that he is not happy in his marriage and asked her about her marriage. She wasn't unhappy with her marriage, but somewhere she must have had regrets about breaking her engagement with her fiancé and he was still stuck in her head clearly, that's why she decided to leave her husband and kids to get back together with this fiancé of hers from 18 years ago and he too left his wife and kids. A lot of heartbreak I imagine would have been involved for both those families and I found it ridiculous honestly. My mum one day got to know the area where the cheater duo live and they have been married for 9 years post leaving their families and are very happy together.

In anuj's case it is a once-sided college crush that stuck, and despite trying to have relationships with other women he still remembered that college crush and must have tried to find out about her out of curiosity to know what she is up to in life.

This show has had so many unrealistic stances from beginning. Who lives in the same house as their ex-husband and his new wife? Which family celebrates every festival possible with pomp and show even after facing a huge financial crisis like that? Who doesn’t file a complaint against the scammer who stole a big amount of money from them?
Anupama is unbelievably mahaan and still explaining why she did this and that to her cheater ex.

All that said, a fiction is a fiction afterall!
Lets enjoy the ride of fresh air Anuj has brought with him after long tracks of just seeing V and Kavya’s romance, shaadi, gharpravesh and what not😆

Frankly, when predictions of Anuj were happening, his Bengali version had the most battered storyline going on. Rohit sacrificing everything possible to save Sreemoyee from trouble and she will constantly reject him because it doesn't "suit" and elderly lady to remarry. Rohit would teach all those pestering Sreemoyee a lesson, be it June, Kia, Aniruddha (Jumbo) or Patralekha and the she would conveniently forgive them and treat Rohit like an outsider, asking him to leave whenever his words made her "real" family uncomfortable.

Yes they are now married but only because Rohit is terminally ill and Sreemoyee has suddenly woken from her slumber that her sacrifices for the fake Senguptas is meaningless.

Seeing that all versions have a similar broad storyline with only some details changed, I didn't want another battered character. I really didn't want Anuj introduced!

When Advait was the introduced as an inspiration for Anu and then exited from the show, I hoped they don't show a romantic lead for Anu and have her achieve professional growth with help of Hasmukh, Samar and Kinjal.

But No... NO NO NO...

They did have to show that Anupamaa is stupid enough to get herself in a mess, she cannot get out of, and needs a MAN to help her. Teens watch this show too, what is it teaching them? That unless you have a man, you cannot "make it"?

While I get that the message to be okay with remarriage at an older age is a good one, it will take more than a year before we get there. Till then we will have plenty of people judging Anupamaa, and to pacify them, her treating Anuj like dirt!

And while Anuj will be strong before everyone, he will be as much of a doormat to Anupamaa, as she has been to Vanraj and Leela!

Two very pathetic and toxic tracks, too much for me to handle. Which is why I have reduced posting here these days and just fast forward while watching the show to know the gist.

Thanks Kosha 🤗

I really want ke pehle Anupama stable hojaye apni life mai fir wo kuch aur soche👍🏼 uska dil auski life bahot buri tarah tuti hai abhi uske romantic angle to Jane do wo kisi par trust bhi nahi karegi wo Anuj ke sath baat karne mai comfortable ho rahi hai kyu ke usne Samar ko bachaya hai aur duniya ki koe bhi ma uss insan ke liye soft hogi hi hogi chahe wo human ho ya animals bache ko bachanewale ke liye maa soft hoti hai (experience 😆) abhi Anupama cordial hai dost bhi nahi..GK and Anuj apni baato se usse comfort feel karwa rahe hai aur Anupama ki khoyi mushkurahat aur old Anupama ki memory usse vapas de rahe hai abhi to dosti ki shuruat hote mai time lagega jolis trauma se Anupama guzari hai usse bharne mai vakt lagega

I hope you dont mind me posting here? 😅

I have been a frequent visitor to the forum since possibly the beginning of the show but never was an active member earlier. Bad experiences on other forums you see 😆

I do understand what you mean when yiu say that the forum has been in general a lot more active now than it has ever been before.

A woman absolutely does not NEED a man in her life to be a knight in shining armour for her. To pull her out of her problems. But humans are by nature social creatures and need love and affection to thrive. Anupama is not receiving the unconditional love and affection she deserves not only for a happy fulfilled life but also for her own personal growth.

We have seen anupama getting through the WORST of her life without the support of a man. Be it the revelation of vanraj's adultery or her own cancer track. She has been rock solid through everything that life has thrown at her. But even the strongest of humans need some time off and to be able to regain their strength from the people they love and those that support them back in turn.

Anuj here in all honesty NEEDED to be a rich business tycoon. Not for her own fairytale but for the sheer situation that is in shah family. Any of the members of "team anupama" hold no real sway. Neither in the house nor outside. Baapuji kinjal samar nandini none of them have the means to support her in the way she needs to be supported. Vanraj kavya baa paritosh and pakhi are overall in a much more dominant position in the house. And we cant forget the show needed someone who could dilute rakhi.

Anuj had to be shown rich because without any real influence and the power to utterly destroy everyone that harmed either him or anupama the "team vanraj" would have trampled all over him and would have made his and anupama's life hell. Not much progression for a story right?

Regarding the romantic pairing i remember saying that even before anuj entered the show that we have been invested in the show for the personal growth of a character that has faced various hurdles in life and is paving her own path towards self-discovery and independence and self sufficiency.

Anuj's entry has just filled the gap of a well wisher with some real sway in anupama's life. Anupama's journey should infact still be the ideal theme of the show.

I object over the fact that the show is implying that a woman needs a man. Anuj himself has reiterated more than once that anupama doesnt need him to fight the dragons in her life while she is busy being the damsel in distress. And also anuj has yet to do anything to really help her financially that goes against his interests.

He knew why she wanted to sell the factory and still refused to entertain even the idea of it untill his legal team arrived on a conclusion.

The proposals were not passed in a college boy crush hurry to impress her either.

Soo i am not sure if anything in the show implies that. The show does in a way imply that a human irrespective of age deserves genuine unconditional love.

I think they made anuj single for a reason. Anupama's first love had been vanraj and it was unrequited. She needed to maybe feel that pure special bond that first love often times is. A widower or a divorcee would have been much more realistic agreed but it wouldnt have created the same charm in her life. It would have been looked even to anupama more of a case that she is just not worthy enough to be someone's first. That she just has to be the second choice that he would have made out of maybe loneliness. Here anupama will be forced to see his unadulterated love. That he WANTS to be with her not because of his family or children or out of loneliness but because he is in love with everything she is

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

No yaar .. Anupama became too mahan with her in-laws . It became too toxic. We watch for entertainment more that that it made me mad especially when in our fam. They discuss how right and great she is since this is the only one they watch . How can anyone justify her need for acceptance of her in-laws for speaking or not speaking to her friends. It makes me feel sad when.ambitious and modern thinking is tries be shown wrong.

Even one of my fav character Kinju baby is becoming anu 2.0 . Hence I stopped watching

After anuj entry he is pretty savage decent nice yet he knows to put peeps in their place when they misbehave. Does not take.a decision to favour anu but decides to discuss proposal with team. Mix of practical and emo.

Values his job and his emo also.

Well yes I know someone who never married . He was 24 when he got engaged and his fiance died in a road accident. They were college sweethearts. To date at 42 he is not married

But he did adopt 2 siblings who were below 5 when their parents died some far off relative. His ma and SIL help him with the kids. He has a great job which he works out of home mostly.

In today's episode we saw the heights of toxicity today. What else can I add Anju!!!!

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Yeh pehli baar nahin hai kosha Forum tabhi active hota hai jub tuk serial mein dashing jodi nahin hoti

Ek aur forum tha jahaan jo jyaada active nahin tha. Wahaan pur bhi poocha gaya tha ki forum active kyon nahin hai tub maine yahi jawab nahin diya film forum mein mein abhi tuk dashing jodi nahin aayi hai

Yahi haal balika vadhu sesaon 1 forum u, uttaran forum ka tha

Though both were path breaking show but forum active nahin tha. Forum active tabhi hua jub usne triangle rectangle love story dikhane lage

Btw mere liye show isliye acha kabhi nahin ho sakta kyon usmi dashing jodi dikhate hai. Main show ko tabhi pasand kanoon jub tuk usne sweet idea couple na dikhaye yeh mere liye jarooi nahin. Because mere liye i have said many times romance se zindagi nahin chalti. . Hum log jo serials mein jo romance ko itna jyaada appreciate karte hain but kya real life kya koi har time romance karta hai

Kya har times romance karne se koi apna imporatant kaam kar sakta hai jaise loan chukana bijli ka bill bharna aur bhi imporatant kaam hote hai woh kya romance karne se ho jaayega

I have seen real life ki do logon ne pyaar mein aakar bhaag ke shaadi kar ki but un logon ki naukri nahin lagi thi aur woh naukri dhood rahe they. But baad mein girl ko naukri chennai mein mili aur boy ko kisi aur city mein to dono bread butter ke liye alag alag shehar mein naukri . Ki. Bread butter ke liye unhone alag rehna bhi manjur tha

To jub main real life mein is tarah ke condtion dekhti hoon to mujhe yeh romance yeh hot dashing chemistry couple story mein samajh nahin aata,. Kyonki yahan log life mein jeene ke liye itna struggle kar rahe hain bhaaga daudi kar rahe hain to serial mein har times romance dekhna irritating lagta hai jaise zindagi mein aur kuch karne ko nahin bus romance hi imporatant ha

I always prefer watching those serial jo hame life ke real bitterness ke baare mein bhi show kare. I am glad anupama is one of them. Khuch to alag dekhne ko mil raha hai warna wahi serial mein eyes lock ankle mein payal pehnana khaana banate samay ek doosre ko aata, lagane baarish mein bhigana aur bus plannig plotting dekhna to man mein yahi irritating lagta tha ki serial bus yahi romance planning plotting dekhein

It is nice anupama ek aisa show jo romance pe jyaada focus na karke jo most of house wife jo ghar mein face karti hai usme focus kiya khuch to cvs ne awarenes jagayi if not completely. Mujhe to har times romance dekhna irritating lagta hai ki bus yahi story reh gayi writer aur khuch naya nahin dikhane ke liye except romance? Ek aisa serial jisme se hum kuch seekh sake character ko. Feel kar sake character ke problem se connect kar sake aisi koi story nahin hai and finally anupama is there

Atleast jo serial do chaar, 8 year tuk chal rahe hain use ro main bus romance ke liye nahin dekhoongi. Romance hi dekhna hota to ise bhadiya mein koi romancnti fimi gana ya romantic movie hi dekh like kajol aur sharukh ki movie dekh loon loon but serial jo aamtor pe roj aata hai to usme bus main romance nahin dekhoongi

Mujhe to Boring lagega agar serial mein roj roj bus romance hi dikhaye

Your post is simply bang on!!!! Surabhi

It is true

There was a forum POW, such a classic series. But it was not a romantic show, so the forum was less active.

And then FF's and all type of things.

Honestly I think FF's to be boring