Shamita-Raquesh equation

Shamita is a dominating, I-know-it all woman. Period. No question about it at all. She can be extremely rude, abusive and obstinate to have her own way. In fact her entire stint on BB is an advertisement for any guys considering a romantic relationship with her to keep the hell away from a controlling, childish woman like her. Under the guise of "being a strong woman" she just tries to have her own way.

Normally on BB this wouldnt have mattered as much if she were playing single. But she is playing with a partner whose personality is the absolute opposite of her. That's why it looks even worse. How she makes Raqesh bow down to her everytime with her anger and insecurity issues is painful to watch.

But on another note, I was thinking this even before Karan said it on WKV -- Raquesh would probably not even have been there if she hadnt carried him on her back. How he would have played with someone who respected him and collaborated with him on an equal plane (maybe Divya and him) is now going to be a mystery which we shall never know how it would have played out and if he would have shined in those circumstances. As of now really he is looking like a crushed, washed-up, used and re-used doormat. This was even more apparent in last night WKV (I watched the live version), when she blew up about Nishant calling her out and rightly so. She does talk down to Raq very badly. Raq was just going behind her and she said call out Nishant, and he pat immediately like the faithfully puppy only then immediately told NIshant to stop. :-) This was actually so funny, his taking orders like this and even Moose pointed it out.

NIshant was right abt her though, she was making a fuss about him being childish in that other task earlier when he was not backing out and allowing a decision. She did the exact same for the cancel out task with Nikki (in the live version, may have not been shown in the episode yet).

So conclusion is this connection is toxic for both involved, Shamita cannot play with anyone, she has to be alone. Would have been interesting to see her with a stronger pairing who might oppose her from time to time (like Nishant maybe). Raquesh, if he is strong hasnt been able to come out of her shadow at all and it would have been interesting to see how he would have played with another person.

Absolutely, totally and 100% with you on your analysis. This is a heavily co-dependant and toxic connection. It makes me sick to have to put up with them.

This is also an advertisement to all women to stay away from Raqesh. Who needs a coward as a partner. He has no guts to make a decision and stick to it. He makes his partner carry the mental load in the relationship. If it was an individual game from the beginning, he would have been evicted ages ago.

Originally posted by: Picasso9

This is also an advertisement to all women to stay away from Raqesh. Who needs a coward as a partner. He has no guts to make a decision and stick to it. He makes his partner carry the mental load in the relationship. If it was an individual game from the beginning, he would have been evicted ages ago.

This s exactly why I would have liked to see him with a different partner. Shamita is very over bearing, she would not have let anyone take "the load" as you put it. It has to be her way or no way. She could never adjust with anyone, no matter how strong or weak they are - she would just emotionally torture everyone.

On the other hand, though Raq has come out a wimp in this, it is mostly due to how Shamita is. Otherwise he seems like a nice grounded person. But yes, his personality hasnt really come out in BB. He says he is as obstinate as her during conversations, but we have never been able to see any other side of his personality as she doesnt even allow him to freely interact with other people, and I dont get why he is so terrified of her that he goes along with this.

Originally posted by: chachichampa

This s exactly why I would have liked to see him with a different partner. Shamita is very over bearing, she would not have let anyone take "the load" as you put it. It has to be her way or no way. She could never adjust with anyone, no matter how strong or weak they are - she would just emotionally torture everyone.

On the other hand, though Raq has come out a wimp in this, it is mostly due to how Shamita is. Otherwise he seems like a nice grounded person. But yes, his personality hasnt really come out in BB. He says he is as obstinate as her during conversations, but we have never been able to see any other side of his personality as she doesnt even allow him to freely interact with other people, and I dont get why he is so terrified of her that he goes along with this.

I disagree. Shamita only started being bossy with him after the first week when he was being told at the first WKV that he was not being seen, he is doing nothing and he is spineless.

Only after that did she start to actively take the mental

Load in the ‘connection’ to make it work. First she told him if he wants to change connections he could and when he decided to stay then she took on the load.

it’s unfair to say he would have been different with another partner because even someone like Divya is dominating and would have carried his load.
Probably that’s why his marriage ended in divorce too. If it’s fair to comment on Shamita’s failed relationships and lay blame on HER personality then same applies to him.

he is not a small child that has been suppressed for years by Shamita. He is spineless. Nobody can suppress a grown ass man who professes to have a spine within a few weeks. Especially one they’ve just met.

Also, he is conveniently allowing a woman to be scapegoated while his faults are shielded. He is ok with that. If he can’t take her dominating nature and wants to go complaining to other housemates, especially his best friend Kans mama but will not be transparent and honest to his connection then what kind of a classy man is he. In effect, he keeps leading her on. He is a con basically. He is not happy being her connection, has many opportunities to change connections or tell her the truth but just lies. He is also most aware of cameras around, does he think most people cannot objectively see through his gaslighting.

he came in saying he was going to be the ‘classy’ therapist in the house. Some class he is showing !!!
He doesn’t have the class to be honest about who or what he is but chooses to hide behind the vilification of a woman.

Well then, same goes for Shamita. She got a feedback from the audience as well as from HMs that she is coming off looking bossy and controlling. She could have also backed off, maybe even told him to change connection if she thought she is being a scapegoat for his sober personality. Cannot blame Raq for the way she chose to behave. None of his faults are shielded because of her, in fact they are highlighted as she only goes around doing that all the time. He is not leading her on, he has many times spoken to her about her dominating streak, but she comes out always with some long winded explanation. If this wasnt working for her, then she could have backed out like Neha did. And he is not the only one "gaslighting" her as you say. Everyone sees her behaviour so its unfair to say that.

Also I mentioned about her personality as she herself said it on the show, that its difficult for her to be in a relationship she she has high expectations and for the way she has become wanting to have her own way. So its unfair you bring out Raq's marraige and put this spin on it when it wasnt really spoken about on the show about how it failed due to this. In fact yesterday thy were speaking and he said it was because they both realized they wanted different things.