Originally posted by: Transference
Gaumbi and his Insensitivity:
Gaumbi has always been that man who grew up faster to shoulder responsibilities. Unlike Shiva, who always willingly grew up, Gaumbi took Up the Duties out Of unfavourable situations.
We have always seen him prioritising respect and family more than love. If you watch a few initial episodes, you'd remember how he loved Anita but always kept his responsibilities ahead. Dhara was her sukoon when she entered his life and sheltered him from some of his blistering duties.
He isn't a passionate lover but an immensely romantic and loving husband. For him, marriage is above love; sacrifice is an honour, and compromise is a necessity.
If we go back to the wedding fiasco, we all blame Dhara, but if you see Gautam, he was insensitive. He asked Dev to compromise, and he will eventually fall in love.
So, I don't see anything out of his character when he scolded Shiva. He hasn't been melodramatic, and despite standing up for Dhara, he hasn't been an active husband to prevent Dhara from taunts etc. Suman throwing her blowups on Dhara is a testimony of that.
Gautam belongs to the thought cycle of the family being together.
He has been a paternal figure, but he hasn't been emotionally Close to His brothers As a friend or confidante.
None of them shares that intimate camaraderie. Their bond is very familiar, and that's why I always wanted to see Shiva with some of his friends.
Dev tries to come closer to Shiva, but Shiva has always had a love-hate relationship with him.