To be honest since the misunderstandings have started my heart breaks for Raavi more. She was ditched at the alter and the man who she thought loves her did not and in fact he doesn’t even respect her he literally humiliated her in front of everyone and his brother, who has always hated her, was forced to marry because his bhabi who he loves more than anyone asked him to. What is she supposed to expect from this marriage. As far as she is concerned shiva always hated her only married because of his dhara bhabi for whom he will literally do anything. She is not his choice. He has said this to her as well. Even in the khandar scene he told he will not leave as she is his zimmedaari not wife not friend not partner but responsibility. Then when she was growing attached to him he literally traded her for kangan and told her in front of everyone that he doesn’t care if she comes with him or stays. She is not a mind reader she doesn’t know that he didn’t mean it he only said it in anger. She was soo hurt after thinking she is just his wife because of dhara and he has no actual attachment or feeling for her as a person in herself. I would be feeling the same. Still she forgave him. She does not allow herself to fully love shiva because she does not expect shiva to love her at all as far as she is concerned he is only with her because dhara got them married and he is a man who fulfills his obligations with a whole heart and in all honesty his actions have reiterated this point time and time again. She hoped for atleast friendship but he rejected that too saying he doesn’t want to be her friend and in her heart she has taken that he doesn’t even want her friendship indicating their relationship only exists in the context of their marriage and nothing outside so it makes sense that she would try to be the ideal wife for him. Getting pushed around and constantly rejected despite how hard she is trying is heartbreaking and emotionally draining as far as I am concerned even though raavi doesn’t realise she loves him (she won’t even consider because she doesn’t believe her will ever love her his maami ki behen ki Beti) she is still the only one actually putting any effort into their relationship.
I also don’t think raavi is not wrong in saying that they need to adjust to make the marriage work because even in a love marriage this is necessary. You go from two people living on your own to two people living together, this requires adjustment because you have to make room for the other person in your life you can’t just carry on as you were before marriage because things have changed and the relationship has evolved into so much more. You have responsibilities towards each other and have to combine your separate lives to a single journey with common goals and expectations.
the fact that she is willing to compromise to become his ideal partner is also telling because she thinks shiva does not want her as she is. She is equally insecure even more so now that shiva is so distant with her. She wanted to be a pandya bahu because she wanted the family something she never had. In fact even before the wedding she always said that once she married dev shiva would have to accept and love her as he did dhara di in fact looking back it’s obvious she loved dev for his family more than for him.
Shiva is insecure and knows he has started to fall for her but she does not know this and his actions have not indicated this either. I truely believe that of shiva shows even an iota of what he is feeling she will love him so much harder and will literally do anything for him. She is that simple all she wants is love and affection and at this point she will even settle for acceptance which makes me so sad because she has so little expectations and demands.
She might be a dhobi in her lack of understanding when it comes to shiva’s words but she has also been through a lot and it’s not that surprising that she will take him at face value because she’s been betrayed before when she mistook friendship for love. Until he actually tells her her cares for her for her as raavi and not his zabardasti ki wife she will not allow herself to love him fully or believe he loves her.
Everyone sees shivas side I thought I would put raavis side across as a woman and wife myself.
I hate how he treats her and I hate how she accepts it because she believes that he will never truely love her and that the most she can expect is tolerance and maybe friendship even though he has rejected that notion Time and time again.
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