Rewind and Rewatch - Episode 9 - Page 8

Originally posted by: mallukumari

Shaurya gets to mourn his parents while still having them alive!

This is a very strong observation, and breaks my heart😭

Originally posted by: mallukumari

It's funny that family planning and birth control pills aren't discussed in ITV. It's reality in a lot of people's lives these days, especially girls getting married with careers that need to be cognizant of time. ITV would rather talk about the woman that hasn't gotten pregnant and how that is a blemish on the family than actual planning and concerns of fertility. I also worry that ITV just won't be sensitive even if they chose to tackle such a subject.

@bold: if this is tackled as a subject it will involve a lot of OTT acting on the part of the MIL etc. It is good that this came up in SAAKK and was not made an issue, but rather went to explain the question raised by Ramesh Bhallah mum.

Originally posted by: kiranpri

@bold: if this is tackled as a subject it will involve a lot of OTT acting on the part of the MIL etc. It is good that this came up in SAAKK and was not made an issue, but rather went to explain the question raised by Ramesh Bhallah mum.

Don't know if you watch Pandya store, but I saw a scene where the FL mentioned pills she had been taking and that's why she didn't get pregnant for 10 years. Of course they don't say the name and her mother in law doesn't know.

But you're right, anyone who says they don't want kids after marriage is vilified in ITV. Most FLs comes back with a kid after the separation and leap track. It's how they avoid having their female leads be shown as pregnant onscreen.

I wish ITV could do these subjects with more sensitivity.

Originally posted by: mallukumari

I think we all agree that the white washing of Mr. Bhalla was hard to digest. I think that was worse than the Tejvi 'redemption'. I really want a season 2 to explore the future of these relationships.

Exactly. So many things are pending in Season1

Originally posted by: mallukumari

kanya = unmarried girl(a virgin); dhaan = donation/charity. Calling a daughter a donation doesn’t sit well with me.

Mind you, I had a full Hindu wedding and my dad did the actions of the 'kanyadaan' for ritual sake. There's a lot of wedding rituals we do that might have 'meaning' but are irresponsible to continue. The idea that we still consider girls something we give away; girls have a sasuraal and maayka, what do guys have then?

There's a ritual where the girl touches her husbands feet for ashirwaad before receiving sarees from his family(in Kerala). There is no reciprocation of that. The guy never touches the girl's feet.

The baraat comes to take the girl away. Why? Again why do we give away our daughters but not our sons?

All the symbols of marriage fall on a girl.....chooda, sindoor, magalsutra, etc.

I'm sure there are regional customs that I'm not even privy to as well.

So true dear.I agree with you 100 percent.Kanyadaan is the ritual i too look at it from a perspective as you look it.Objectifying the daughter....does not go well with me too.How a father can give away his daughter who is so dear to him?The elders of the family gave me a long lecture which did not convince me but i had to oblige my parents.

Traditional way is that Daughter is lakshmi and when they are getting married the groom is vishnu.The parents of the bride are initiating the union of two Gods through this ceremony.After marriage no gods only devils and demons😁😁

The idea that we still consider girls something we give away; girls have a sasuraal and maayka, what do guys have then?

Very true.All preachings and teachings are for girls only and the reason they give is absolutely Rubbish in Anokhi's words.Women have patience and men lack it to manage between Maayka and Sasural.Son in law is always treated as a bhagwan at girl's maayka and daughter in law is not included in sasural.

There's a ritual where the girl touches her husbands feet for ashirwaad before receiving sarees from his family(in Kerala). There is no reciprocation of that. The guy never touches the girl's feet.

In our tradition the boy has to touch the girl's feet for toe rings ceremony not for blessings though.Girl has to touch the grooms feet to take blessings 5 to 6 times.After marriage even a girl wears new dupatta she to touch husband's feet.Time to change these things too.

All the symbols of marriage fall on a girl.....chooda, sindoor, magalsutra, etc.

Boys ...always brahmacharis and girls ..bechaaris.

Particularly south Indian customs are very difficult to follow.Sitting aside during three days of monthly cyvle,not touching anything,sleeping on floor ,not speaking while men eat their meals,etc. THANKFULLY breathing is allowed.

Walls of my house shall tell such rules because some elder uncle gives pravachan in the TV and that is being followed in our house. Yes things need to change....period.

I hope i have not offended or ridiculed anyone's ritual or tradition.