According to me, what makes it easier to understand Raghav in the current scenario is the fact that the emotion he’s undergoing is a very usual one. We all have known this insecurity and fear too well at some point in our lives. But honestly how many of us have even witnessed a situation that Pallavi is in. A widow living with her in laws. The in-laws with whom she shares a cordial relationship and treat them as her own parents. Let’s not forget that she is an orphan by birth. That is bound to have an impact here. They are now her ex in-laws to us, but to her VD remains a father figure only. I had a tiff with my parents years ago, and it went so bad in my head that I didn’t speak to them for months. At that time I was sure I was never going to. But today I am as attached to them as I ever was. What made me snap out of my ignorance was seeing my father hurting due to my behaviour. I put all my complaints to rest then and there. I couldn’t see him like that. You don’t forget, maybe you don’t even forgive but you melt down. You can’t be bitter or harsh for too long, especially to your family, that too in the situations which are already too hard on them. Because at the end of the day you are a human with varying range of emotions. That is exactly what’s happening here!
Another thing is, we equate Pallavi with ourselves. I would have done this or that in her situation. But she is not us. Sabka apna apna tareeka, timimg hota hai deal krne ka.
Example- if a friend comes and tells me that I hurt them with my words, but according to me my words were well known facts which shouldn’t have hurt anybody under normal circumstances : what should be my counter response?
1) itna toh kuch hua bhi nhi. You are overreacting.
2) or I should stop and think maybe this person is very sensitive. Or maybe she is going through certain difficult circumstances that a trivial things feels like a huge deal to her. Or maybe it has something to do with her past experiences that my words were hurtful uske liye.
I prefer going (2) way. If someone comes and tells me they are hurt- so they are hurt. Period.
I don’t get to decide if they should or should not feel hurt. What’s not hurtful for me might be extremely painful for them. And vice versa.
So I see pallavi in this light only. If she’s telling me that she still feels attached and responsible towards her in-laws toh baat whin khatam. IMO, I don’t get to decide how she should or should not feel. There must be so many factors which have lead to this.
Edited by Inese_20 - 4 years ago