Is pallavi really wrong?

Hi,

I dont know why most of us are pointing pallavi is wrong?

How many times we dont listen to our loved ones and do something against their wish? Haven't we?

She is just listening to her heart and doing her duties( which is definitely not hers) .. she is willing do for her Aai and baba.. becos she has seen their loneliness. Wants to help them to live a happy life with mandaar.

She doesn't know abt present mandaar.. she knows past mandaar..according to which he is a good man, whom she can trust.

She is not ignoring Raghav's feelings, but she was under the impression that he is supporting her in all her steps.(hum saath is problem ko face karenge)

Raghav shd have told abt 7 day challenge before itself to pallavi or atleast Amma.. remember amma was the one who called him inside the house, asked pallavi to go to d house, chai, pani was provided ( i know she was help mandaar or comforting him .. due to humanity)... pallavi was very hesitant to do these initially...

If pallvi is wrong then raghav is also wrong...

One characteristic of a wife. She can read between the lines of what her husband says. Alas Pallavi lacks this.

You're right that we don't always listen to our loved ones and go against their wishes, but doesn't mean it's right though. For one person to make a decision that affects two people in a two-way relationship isn't fair. Raghav isn't her chachoo ka beta, he's her husband, her actions and choices affect him and have an impact on him. She should be a little more considerate of that, especially because Raghav is also a bit of a public figure. The media will have a field day agar Pallavi ki harkaton ki khabar mili toh!

I also agree that Pallavi is acting on the impulse of a daughter. However, let's not forget that Pallavi hardly knew Mandaar in the first place. He was her ticket to a full-fledged family, much like she was Raghav's ticket to bringing his Amma and sister home. Pallavi and Mandaar never spent any time together, then how did she come to trust him and his goodness? Why isn't she trying to get a second opinion to be able to nurse him back to health faster? It's these loopholes as well as her compliance to Mandaar and D-fam that's putting her under a bad light.

Raghav should have definitely told her about the 7-day challenge. In fact, he should've laughed as he told her because of how childish and moronic it is. That being said, as the episodes have progressed, I can see why he didn't. She wouldn't have listened to him. She's in a bubble right now where she's back to being D-fam's daughter and isn't able to see that she's forfeiting her role as a wife and daughter-in-law. It's not easy for anyone to strike that balance under any circumstances, so Pallavi's one-track mindset makes sense to some degree. It's just unfortunate that she's become tone deaf to her husband and her marriage. Raghav shared his insecurities with her multiple times, but she went on a tangent about "main tumhe tumhara pyaar yaad dilaongi" instead of addressing whether his concerns are valid or not and what they can do as a couple to resolve them.

Ultimately, both Pallavi and Raghav are wrong in their own respect, but the way I see it, Pallavi's pushing Raghav's buttons a little too much.

Both are wrong here.. we cannot scale who is more at fault... for pallavi it is her maayka and she treats them sweetly.. she will understand in a hard way...

Both are in a new relationship.. nobody is perfect..

They dont know how to handle the situation but once, Raghav and pallavi understands each other deeply. They will punch all problems together..until then we need to wait patiently.

Originally posted by: masin

You're right that we don't always listen to our loved ones and go against their wishes, but doesn't mean it's right though. For one person to make a decision that affects two people in a two-way relationship isn't fair. Raghav isn't her chachoo ka beta, he's her husband, her actions and choices affect him and have an impact on him. She should be a little more considerate of that, especially because Raghav is also a bit of a public figure. The media will have a field day agar Pallavi ki harkaton ki khabar mili toh!

I also agree that Pallavi is acting on the impulse of a daughter. However, let's not forget that Pallavi hardly knew Mandaar in the first place. He was her ticket to a full-fledged family, much like she was Raghav's ticket to bringing his Amma and sister home. Pallavi and Mandaar never spent any time together, then how did she come to trust him and his goodness? Why isn't she trying to get a second opinion to be able to nurse him back to health faster? It's these loopholes as well as her compliance to Mandaar and D-fam that's putting her under a bad light.

Raghav should have definitely told her about the 7-day challenge. In fact, he should've laughed as he told her because of how childish and moronic it is. That being said, as the episodes have progressed, I can see why he didn't. She wouldn't have listened to him. She's in a bubble right now where she's back to being D-fam's daughter and isn't able to see that she's forfeiting her role as a wife and daughter-in-law. It's not easy for anyone to strike that balance under any circumstances, so Pallavi's one-track mindset makes sense to some degree. It's just unfortunate that she's become tone deaf to her husband and her marriage. Raghav shared his insecurities with her multiple times, but she went on a tangent about "main tumhe tumhara pyaar yaad dilaongi" instead of addressing whether his concerns are valid or not and what they can do as a couple to resolve them.

Ultimately, both Pallavi and Raghav are wrong in their own respect, but the way I see it, Pallavi's pushing Raghav's buttons a little too much.

Well written

Agree wid everything you said....point to point.

Yes Raghav is also wrong. He is making mistakes. Dts true. I will leave it at dt.

Abt us going against our families for things we believe in .....yes we all do. But is dt okay? Does dt mean it wont hurt our loved ones ? Also can we alwys be ryt and our loved one alwys wrong ?

Pallavi is definitely doing it for Aai baba. Corrct. She should but in a limit. Dts where the problem lies. She doesnt know where to draw a line or maybe her lines are a bit farther away. And if she is doing it for dem.....why not listen to Aayi when she is advising her. Why not consult a second doctor ? Pallavi cant babysit Mandar her whole life now , can she ? Dts d problm......she isnt doing anything logical.

Pallavi toh didnt even care to ask Amma before leaving the house. Doesnt she hv any responsibility towards her ? Is it just her ex in laws dt matter to her ?

I find that it’s not finding fault with the character but more so , why as women we are not able to connect with Pallavi. As a woman I want to be able to root for her and feel the emotions that Pallavi is going thru but that is not the case.. I feel that she is miles from where we all are as women.. just as an example in yesterday’s episode as a married woman I would have said let me discuss with my MIL and husband and get back to you about coming over .. if not that at least an eye contact to get their approval.. this is something any generation of women do Also, we look for expressions and body language changes in our husbands even though they say everything is good. Raghav was showing it clearly that he is not happy with what’s going on and she chose to ignore it. I think it’s from the beginning her going over board with deshmukh have always been something that I could not relate to. As married women we kind of bridge the gap between in-laws and mayka and she not acknowledging that is something that I could not relate to. If they had showed at least a video call of her talking to her brother and SIL would have helped us. Her not having that conversation with Kirthi about the photo shoot disaster also is a let down..

I think these small conversations or expressions would have made us connect better . I do agree that by helping Mandhar would give her the much needed closure and help her move on with her life with a clear conscience but the way she goes about doing it is something that I am unable to connect to where she makes promises without consulting her husband to live somewhere else and her husband has no say in it .. we are modern women but we wouldn’t make these kinds of one way decisions without consulting with our husbands.. marriage is a commitment and there is no “I” but only “We”. And that applies to both.. Also we kinda of agree with Raghav as his character has been like that from the beginning and we have gotten used to it and we root for Raghav since we understand his character and Sai has done an excellent job in making us root for him..

I am just expressing my thoughts please don’t take it any other way. Open to all your replies

My problem is

She demands Trust from Raghav where as she has zero trust in him - why he placed a tracker and what are his intentions. Did she believe that he doesnt trust her or its just that it hurt her ego?

she keeps repeating that she stood by him when everyone was against him- is she really asking for credit ? I can easily mark it down as a noble deed by the righteous pallavi who thinks she is always right. If she believes something then it must be true.

Why did ahe agree to go and stay in DH when she clearly knows Raghav is insecure .. ?? She basically left him when he is fighting with his insecurities and asked him to deal with it??

Really is this how a spouse will behave??

Till now I had not found Pallavi wrong, I did have a problem with her Mahan nature but not wrong.

Infact Raghav was wrong at few places. Not telling her about the challenge, faking that he was okay with it but wasn't and placing a tracker in her bag. He made his fair share of mistakes.

But yesterday I did find her wrong.

In a marriage you can't take decisions that will also affect your spouse by your own self.

Even if she has to go and stay at her maiyka without even Mandy in scene. She doesn't have to take anyone's permission but the least she has to do is still communicate with her husband. Tell him what she has decided. (This is an eg for like a normal scenario)

But here she has gone to take care of Mandy. Who has lost his memory. There is no timeline when he will get better. Plus she makes a promise to her Baba she won't leave till he gets okay.

She is totally wrong here. She has a husband and she ought to have told Baba that she cannot take such a huge decision without discussing with him.

Even when Aai and Kaka kept telling her, she bowed under pressure without thinking of the repercussion.

They are newly married and often during new marriages normally all families stress on the imp of living with your spouse. The initial years are some of your best years with your husband and she wants to spend that being a nurse. Aai raised a valid question when she asked her till when does she decide to stay there 2 months, 6 months or 1 year...

What is Raghav supposed to do sit waiting for his wife till Mandy gets better which we don't know is till when.

So yesterday I did find her wrong for taking a desicion that would affect Raghav's life too without his consent.

Yes you are right. There is not time limit on how long she is going to play nurse.. these are some of the inconsistencies in character of Pallavi which we cannot relate to