Pandya Store|Episode Discussion#65|Masale Ki Mehek,Janu Ko Baja Dala - Page 61

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

Piu my girl!! You literally spoke my mind!!!

The bodies of women are just meant for procreation and those who cannot conceive are treated like shit in the society. Everyday you feel the pressure rising that you have to live upto the expectations of the society including your own family. If you are unable to conceive, the society will be ready to blame the girl. Why? Dont boys play an equal role in reproduction? Why is it the girl's fault always? When the Janardhan. Gaumbi track was shown with all the "namard" crap I was glad that maybe, just maybe PS will be an exception where they will actually show the guy having issues. But I was wrong! Makers made a mockery out of this issue at a whole new level!

I am so shocked seeing what they are showing right now, especially when one of the writers (Shilpa Choubey) is a woman herself!

Piu I so agree with you #mybodymychoice !! Thank you for making me feel better

Babe! Trust me, people will have things to say all the time! We💪, women need to take charge of our lives, and let not anyone tell you otherwise!

We exist! It's OKAY to be YOU!!🤗

Women have the right to say NO

Women have the right to Choose
Women have the right to pleasure!

❤️

Phenomenal Woman

BY MAYA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size

But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.

I say,

It’s in the reach of my arms,

The span of my hips,

The stride of my step,

The curl of my lips.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.

I say,

It’s the fire in my eyes,

And the flash of my teeth,

The swing in my waist,

And the joy in my feet.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered

What they see in me.

They try so much

But they can’t touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them,

They say they still can’t see.

I say,

It’s in the arch of my back,

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Now you understand

Just why my head’s not bowed.

I don’t shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.

When you see me passing,

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It’s in the click of my heels,

The bend of my hair,

the palm of my hand,

The need for my care.

’Cause I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Originally posted by: mpks1

Nupur as you said will definitely happen when the time is right , You are going to have a beautiful baby and you inturn are going to be a wonderful mother. My situation is slightly different. My cycles were giving me problems even before marriage, still my husband and I decided to postpone, atleast wait for 2-3 years. It did get into fertility issues and the problem was me and not my husband as we both got tested, My OB/GYN started me a fertlity drug called Clomid, took it a for a year, nothing worked, he suggested IVF with a specialist. i went for my first visit, she asked me to wait for my next cycle to start the treatment. We waited for 45 days, I never got it and called the fertility specialist, she prescribed me a drug to get my cycle started and promised me it will start in a week. It didn’t happen and by 60th day I got fed, cried one day, couldn’t go to work and called the specialist. She wanted me to go for a blood test for pregnancy as the normal urine test was coming negative. The next day I get a call from that I was pregnant. I cried over the phone, she calmed me down asked me to call back my OB/GYN for an appointment. This all happened on a Friday. I called my husband back and told him this, his joy knew no bounds, but both of us decided to be cautious until we met the OB/GYN and got an ultrasound done. Pregnancy was confirmed by him again, we waited for another 30 days to let our parents know because he kept saying the first trimester was crucial. Eventually things settled and we started sharing the news. I had lot of complications during pregnancy, but was dropped another bombshell that I cannot have another child. My husband and I resigned to the fact and decided to raise our probable only child in the best possible way. My son was born, lot of complications again during delivery but after seeing him for the first time, all that pain, complications went out the window, 2 years later I skipped my cycle one month, called my OB/GYN, he said no way I could be pregnant with the complications I had but still wanted me to take. a pregnancy test before he started any kind of treatment (that’s the protocol). Guess what I was pregnant again, this no treatment, no medicines, no complications and my beautiful daughter was born 9 months later, I wouldn’t trade anything in tje world for these 2 munchkins, they are mine and my husband’s world, In all this my pillar of support has bern my husband, knowing fully well that I was the problem, he forbade me from sharing that information to anyone. Till today, even my mom doesn’t know about it. One other thing that worked in favor of us that we lived in the US far from the prying eyes of relatives. So whatever we went through it is between us and none of others beeswax

This is my story, I shared it to reassure you that you will definitely get your turn, the journey and the end result is going to be beautiful

This is so heartwarming

Originally posted by: firsttimehere

Am so sorry for butting in but the topic of infertility and the hullabaloo the families create over it hits home deeply .

@Nups_Mish -i don't know you but I wish you lots and lots of love and may you be blessed with what your heart desires. I don't know you but been in same phase with parents and everyone around interested in knowing if I were pregnant that month or not based on asking my period dates and the huge ruckus that follows when I am not pregnant - for each month for 8 long years - I feel you . I hope you find the mental strength to deal with all and wish you get what your heart desires.

@ Transference

Obstetrics history being the drawing room discussion is so damn painful and one can never really forget that all life. Wishing you all happiness in the path you have chosen for yourself

I am not a regular participating member here but I do follow the EDT for all the lovely insights all of you share on the episode.Thank you for your amazing views . Never really mustered courage to participate as I don't believe am as articulate as you all here and also am typically always way behind in the EDT

The sheer amount of ridiculousness we are being subjected to in recent episodes is unbelievable .And their sensibility and sensitivity meters have gone for a toss at the danda episode itself but it's shocking to see the writing and story fall to new lows every day.

I do hope that the show runs for the sake of the families of the crew that work on this show and the ensemble cast who must have been most impacted financially due to pandemic .

It's sad that the excitement I used to have to watch the episode at 6 in the morning diminish to this level that I cringe to watch any episode now. It was a good show , I hope it miraculously recovers from these stupid plot twists somehow

You should participate more 🤗

We are all women from different age groups with so much to share 🤗

Originally posted by: Sakmen

So generally, I'm very lazy about doing homework here, but after Prema and Nivi's posts I went to read the previous EDT's Last night's conversations. And I'm very emotional right now.

Thank you all beautiful and strong ladies for pouring your hearts out🤗❤️

I can't even imagine what you all have gone through or are going through. I'm much younger to you all and haven't even experienced things as much as you all. But whatever little I've seen, I've come to know that relatives have got noses just to poke in other people's businesses. They can neither see you happy nor unhappy. You do them all good or all bad, they'll still find problems in you. So never give a damn about them. YOUR LIFE YOUR RULES.

I know fertility is a very sensitive issue, being suffering from PCOD myself for years now, I do get told by a lot of people around me to lose weight so that you don't have problems conceiving in the future.. no care about my health but for the conceiving part only, as if I'm just born to do that.

I can't even imagine what you must be going through Nups and Piu🤗 Big hug and a lot of strength to you ❤️

Prema, your story is so inspiring and beautiful.. I know it is so now, but at that time it must have been a lot to go through. And I'm so glad that you came out of it as a warrior. God bless your family.❤️

My own parents got married very late. My mother was 38 and father 40, when they got married. It was my mother's first marriage and my father's second. He had a "son" from his first marriage, but due to some strained issues in the marriage, they divorced. He never met them, including his son, after getting divorced. He started his new life with my mother with all his heart. Conceiving at 38, was obviously an issue for my mother, but 2 years later they had me. And due to some complications, the doctor told her that she won't be able to conceive again. My father had no problems with it, but some people did and till date have, as I was a "girl".

My father never discriminated or thought of me any less, for not being a particular gender. He always let me have my way and fulfil all my desires. He never ever even mentioned to me about his son or past life, until few months before he passed away... when that son appeared out of nowhere after 30 years to demand a share in his property. And, my father just couldn't help but hate for it afterwards.

My grandmother loved me a lot too, but she sometimes used to have a taunting undertone for my mother that she's given birth only to one child and that too a daughter.

My father was terminally ill for about past 7 years, underwent 3 major surgeries during this time. My mother and I single handedly have took care of him all this while.. all my relatives including his real brothers and sister used to come as guests and go, just for formality sake, nobody was of any real help if I may say so! Having done all of that alone, from the age of 18, my relatives still have the audacity to say "ladki hai, kya kya karegi" and still be of no help at all.

when my dad passed away, and it was time to decide that who'd do the cremation, yeah they had to decide that, I was asked by a cousin of my father as whom do I want to do it.. I without any single thought said that I want to do it. When he has brought me up without any thought that whether I'm a girl or boy, then at this point also I have the whole right to do it.

My "so called family members" still had problems with it as some sin would ensue on them if a girl did it. But I did it anyway.

Since then, most of them have not even come to ur house after all the rituals got over, it's been 4 months. Just some formality phone calls every now and then to check up on mom n me. And even some complaints that we don't call them.. I told you, whatever you do or not do they will find problems.

It's not easy but we are doing fine while dealing with a lot of issues... So lead your lives the way you want to because people will have issues anyway.

I think I wrote too much while crying in between.😆

Maahi I'm all up for the alternate YKB platform 🤗🤗

Lots of love and strength to you all❤❤❤

Meri Saksh, so much love to you ❤️

You’re carrying so much on your shoulder and yet putting up a strong front and supporting your mom as well. I completely agree with everything you did. And I know your father would be so proud of you.
People will say a 100 different things, don’t let anyone get to you. You do what you feel is right cause at the end it’s your life and you’re answerable only to yourself.

You’re doing amazing, hang it there, we are all rooting for you here. Love love love love and only love for you, Saksh. ❤️

Originally posted by: Transference

You should participate more 🤗

We are all women from different age groups with so much to share 🤗

Tagging firsttimehere for Piu.

Hi, what’s your name btw? 😆

Hii guys what's up? 🤗❤️

Why previous thread titled as Gaddar Gombi

Originally posted by: frnd_ship

Why previous thread titled as Gaddar Gombi

Because of his last shot of leaving his paralysed mom on the floor as she extended her hand towards him and running towards Dhara.

Thank you 😊

Your epsidoe analysis posts are amazing.the ones on marriage sequence are my favorite 😊

Ha ha thank you for tagging @ raindroproses

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