Why all the reservations are only kept for Sai/a woman?

Just because Virat is the man & ML he can go outside garden at odd hours with his ex and bhabhi who still pins for him which he knows and sits on a swing to have one on one talk with her. He is a man so he can & behave however he wants around women but Sai can't? If Sai does she's called characterless by the same hypocrite. What kind of sexism & chauvinism and misogynism this is? Are we living in 1900's era or what! 🥱

PS - If Sai wasn't in the picture with Samrat being MIA, I'm sure Virakhi would've had EMA by now fosho. Just look back at the initial days after SaiRat marriage how emotionally close they were in those days compared to today. Only because Virat is now supposedly & apparently fallen in love with Sai...

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I have tried to explain Virat and his thought process as to why he behaved or behaves with Pakhi the way he is behaving now.

He has made mistakes in the past, has double standards, I agree.

At the time when Virat left with Pakhi as in that jhoola scene, he wasn’t fully aware that she was actually pining for him and was expecting something from him. I don’t remember, don’t think so. This was when he had asked Sai not to talk to Pulkit and had asked for time from her to reinvestigate. Friends can sit this way and talk but she was not just his friend, was his ex too. One can sit with their ex too and talk as long as they don’t have anything between them, as long as one doesn’t expect a relationship from the other.

I think at that time, in this scene, all that he knew was that Pakhi was feeling lonely, she doesn’t have any feelings for Samrat, wasn’t really waiting for Samrat.

- He knew that she was expecting him to keep his promise made to her.

- He knew that she wanted him to be her friend, was getting jealous of Sai and the attention that Sai was getting.

- He could see that she used to be caring, concerned for him.

- He could see that she couldn’t see him and Sai together but wasn’t really sure about it.

I think he was confused, was thinking that she would change, her thoughts would change. He might have thought that she was having issues because he was moving on and she was left alone. I am not sure if he knew that she had feelings for him and wanted him to reciprocate her feelings.

I think he knew certain things but also didn’t know, he was surprised with a few issues that she had raised, he didn’t like her taunting Sai, he didn’t like her showing care for him, he didn’t like her taking liberty on him but he never gave it a thought, he never even wanted to think, was dreading to think that she might have something for him and that is why she was doing it. Even after many issues, he had planned to take her and Sai so that they both can become friends.

He perceived Pakhi’s actions as jealousy of one daughter in law with another. He had thought that she had issues with Sai because he had supported Sai and spoke against her. He thought she didn’t understand Sai as how she should be understood and was creating issues many times due to all this.

The day when Alta was applied on her feet, she had shared how lonely she was and how her rights were given to Sai.

There have been many actions of Pakhi that should have made Virat doubt her intentions. I felt that he dismissed them off and many a times he used to be distracted with his own happiness and his own problems with Sai that he failed to notice or understand certain actions of Pakhi. Sometimes he didn’t even want to, it looked as if he was avoiding to think about all those in that direction.

Hence he had not thought much while moving with Pakhi as a friend, be it the day he went to complain to her about Aniket or in this jhoola scene or where he asked her what she was doing in the terrace. He has made mistakes in the past, made mistakes by giving her a leeway, let her speak anything against Sai and made mistakes even during the Ladakh trip, but he has defended or supported Sai to her too.

He might have got doubts when Pakhi asked him if Sai was telling truth about him having feelings for her (on PD lunch day) which he had denied and clearly told her what he thinks of her. He did say that he doesn’t know what she feels but he doesn’t think or have any such feelings. So, he wasn’t sure about her but at the same time, never pondered I guess. Like, I have said it was an uncomfortable thing for him to think about and I guess he tried to push away thoughts that Pakhi feels for him.

He never encouraged her talks when Sai had left to PD’s house or when she had expressed her wishes to stay for 2 more days in Ladakh, or even in this jhoola scene. Even in this jhoola scene, when he was upset with Sai, he didn’t get instigated with Pakhi’s words though she was trying to do it. He instead explained to her about Sai, was telling her that Sai’s intentions have always been right.

He probably could sense what Pakhi was trying to say or do, but I think he would ignore or neglect it thinking that cannot be possible and sometimes ignore since he doesn’t want to ponder.

The first time he got very angry on her to be questioning him for moving with Sai was during Holi. He didn’t like her bringing up the promise, didn’t like her monitoring his actions and that too question him about a private moment that he shared with Sai. And then onwards, she had started to directly taunt about his closeness and his feelings for Sai. He wasn’t comfortable to have food with Pakhi in his room after he had ousted Sai when she wanted to. That is because he didn’t find that to be right and she was comparing herself with Sai, kept demanding openly which started to alert him and made him say no. And the confrontation after he returned from GC also made him draw a line.

He did make a few mistakes later like holding her hand on the day of Harini’s wedding to stop her or shushing her near the dining table and all that especially after knowing what she feels. He had again failed to maintain a distance especially when he knows her intentions.

If we look at it, he had asked her to leave from the hospital too as soon as he woke up and found her with him, refused to feed her and felt disgusted when Kaku asked him to feed Pakhi when Sai was at Pulkit’s house, refused to have milk from her or go with her to hospital for check up when she offered to.

When things go wrong between him and Sai, and when Sai is not around, he acts very careful not to make things worse and so that Sai doesn’t misunderstand him any further. He also maintains distance whenever he doesn’t find Pakhi’s behaviour or expectations to be appropriate.

But when things are okay between him and Sai, he acts like a friend forgetting that Pakhi has feelings for him and has expectations from him. That is where he is disappointing. Whether or not it would create issues between him and Sai, he should always maintain some distance from her. But having said that, he would never encourage any inappropriate thing whether or not he and Sai are having issues. He draws a line when Pakhi crosses the line by trying to feed him or hold him because he knows about her feelings. But since he doesn’t have any such thoughts for Pakhi and knows that he isn’t wrong, he forgets to draw the line sometimes and he acts like she is his friend.

What I have tried to convey above is that Virat wouldn’t encourage Pakhi when she crosses a line, especially ever since his confrontation with her after he returned from GC because he has come to know what she thinks and what her expectations are from him. However, he also doesn’t think or understand that him being right and him having no such thoughts for Pakhi doesn’t mean he can act casually with Pakhi as if she is his friend. It is like mere mann mein toh koi chor nahi hai. But he still needs to draw a line with her until he is sure that she has moved on, until he is sure that Pakhi has no feelings for him and no expectations from him.

This is why, I called it double standards because he is not able to tolerate friendship between Sai and Ajinkya, is getting so bothered about it, so much that he is overreacting but doesn’t think about his own behavior with Pakhi sometimes. She is not just his friend but his ex too.

Even if I think that he has been wrong in Sai and Ajinkya’s case so far by over reacting, I can still see why he is feeling insecured. I can see the reasons behind his insecurity. Let’s wait to see what he does before commenting any further on it.

I strongly disagree with your views that if Sai wasn't in the picture with Samrat being MIA, Virat and Pakhi would have had any relationship. Virat is a guy with high moral compass. He might have made mistakes but those were unintentional, that was when he had no control over his feelings and he was trying to get rid of those feelings at that time. He didn’t even know what exactly he felt for Pakhi and still had tried to keep the promise made to her. He had meant when he had promised to her and that is why he was in a turmoil when he had to take Sai’s responsibility, when he had to get married to Sai.

Even if what he had for Pakhi was love and not infatuation, he would never cheat his brother or anyone for that matter. He would respect Pakhi and Samrat’s marital relationship and would never think of encouraging any such thing even if Sai had not entered his life. I doubt if Pakhi herself would have developed all these feelings or expectations if there was no one in Virat’s life. She might have never stopped having feelings for him but I feel that her jealousy is the reason for her to act this way now, is making her to pursue Virat. Virat could move on in his life this soon because of Sai, but that doesn’t mean that if Sai had not entered his life, he would have thought of having an affair with Pakhi. He would never do that.

Can't stop myself from commenting I am one of those people who does not like too much interference in my day to day life ever since I am 16.

Kindly note below is my personal perspective and not against any character as such..

Trust respect communication are equally imp in a marriage as much as love.

Virat lacks all three and the onus is more on him since he is the older and secure one( he does have fam apart from her). Trust is when people stand by u without needing proof. Trust and respect is earned not given . Why should Sai at all trust Virat after he threw her out once. It takes time. Plus he never calls out PP easily who keeps abusing Sai. All the fam that has done so many crimes are being whitewashed and normalized. This is not how fam are

Sai again is too impulsive and she also needs to be more communicative and not hide behind smoke screens. Where is the Sai from initial days of marriage? How can she do so much for someone who has been a part of emo abuse. One gift and all is hucnky dory . Again no redemption for Ninad and normalizing abuse ?

True, very true. I hate virat so much, I'm only tolerating this show for ayesha and Sai's character. It's funny how I had started this show for Neil and now continuing watching it for ayesha. Sairat as a couple ended for me long before. Virat never defend sai firmly as required, him being a police officer is a joke. I hate virat more than paakhi, paakhi was anyway negative. Isn't virat the ml, he is worser than the villian. I hate how somehow the people I did not visit the Indian forum during birthday episodes but in Twitter 😂 people went on to lecture sai that she should behave like a married woman because according to them she is not behaving appropriate like a married woman. Jealousy and possessiveness are two of my favourite tracks but both should be upto a limit, virat's jealousy was cute at first but now looks like distrust. Sai has her own flaws but virat is literally toxic mcp guy. Can't believe itv had righteous ml as a police officers before they made virat. We had Neil khanna and hanuman singh as police officers who were not joke like virat chauvan and actually used brains. I don't know how half of members are looking past virat's actions after he threw her out of the house track because I'm not able to. Don't come with explanation that he was manipulated by his family, he is ips officer doesn't he have brain to use.