Originally posted by: sandyjayaram
Thank you for the Gifs and catching up on the thread š¤. Looks from the spoilers we have an interesting week ahead š
Speaking of emotional strength, yesterdayās episode was a clear comparison of the emotional capabilities of Malini and Imilie. Sorry I am bringing didi into the mix but it was so in the face yesterday on how the two ladies manage a crisis.
On one hand we have Imlie who has a strong resolve who would go any lengths to achieve what she intends to do and on the other hand we have someone who runs to her mother for every little thing š¤·āāļø
We know Imilie has the support from Adi, but even if he didnāt support her fully in this, nothing would have stopped her from what she intended to do. Such a strong independent 19 year old that many especially one that can take lessons from š
On a side note, I get back to work after my summer break, will be on top of all the posts as much as possibleš¤.
Oh looks like hum sabke timings aur clash karne waale hain for discussionsš.....No worries, pop in whenever you canš¤......hum hain raahi pyar ke, phir milenge chalte chalteš
@bold: Very true about the contrast in emotional strength levels of Didi and Imlie......but more than that, I was struck by another thing.....
The saas-bahu relationship at its core is forged over the connection two women share with one man.....one is his mother, the other is his wife......the two most important women in his life......how that relationship is balanced and nurtured tells you a lot about the women involved.....
I've always gotten the sense that for Malini, Aparna is only to be viewed as Aditya ki Maa.....all this "Maa, Maa" jaap she does is completely superficial.....she doesn't really consider Aparna to be a mother to herself....Aparna is just an entity to her that helps connect MALINI to Aditya......Malini's entire mindset has always been about what can help connect me to Aditya.....whether it's through his family, whether it's through cooking fancy dishes.....that is how she perceives all these things and people......isliye all this breathy "Maa yeh, Maa woh" drama she does is just another way to keep a hold over Aditya.....cuz Aparna is Aditya's mom......her and Malini don't share any independent relationship beyond that on any genuine level......Malini is like a doll to Aparna that she would like to sajaao and show offš.....and for Malini, Aparna is how she can keep a link to Adi.
Imlie is the total opposite.....from day one, she considered Aparna to be like her own mom regardless of the link to Adi.....she didn't consider Aparna her own mom cuz she was Adi's mom....she just did that on her own one on one level with Aparna.....jab aap rishta dil se jodte ho rather than treating it like a means to an end, or a ladder to climb over someone, that is when it is actually genuine......Imlie has never considered Aparna to be a MEANS to get to Adi.....she has considered Aparna someone to love and respect on her own ability.....irony yeh hai that the bahu goes around calling Aparna "Maa" never really considered her Maa while Imlie still calls her Chhoti Kaaki but has always treated her like her own mother.....apni Amma ke level kar darjaa diya hai Imlie ne Aparna ko shuru se.
Even that line where Imlie was talking about how bahu woh hoti hai jo is baat ko value kare that the woman who gave birth to her life partner is to be given the highest of regards equal to her own mother.....so for her, Aparna isn't just a link to Adi.....for her, Aparna deserves that high regard for giving her the blessings of her life partner.....she's venerating Aparna rather than treating her to a means to an end.....yehi farak hota hai between people who treat relationships like transactions and people who apnaao someone dil se just out of the love in their heart - not to nikaalo koi matlab.
Remains to be seen if Aparna ever understands this.....ki bas "Maa" bolte rehne se koi Maa jaisa darjaa nahin de deta aapko......aur asli bahu wala pyar kaisa hota hai beyond her superficial visions of doll jaisi bahuš