Originally posted by: Loony_lovegood
I know in this show we are only seeing a fraction of what we will get to see in the real world. I agree even in day to day lives we get to see some kind of discrimination..be it gender based, or class or whatever. Many people practice them not because they want to..they are subjected to it because their social circle demands it. Otherwise they will be judged by this same social circle. That is exactly why Tripathi's are also doing the same here.
Even if they have genuine love for Imlie underneath, we cannot ever forgive them for their words or actions as viewers. Because we all know honour killings etc happen even now because of the system prevails, and the victims are not strangers, they are their own kids..they do not do it to satisfy themselves. They do it to get the approval from their social circle, to conserve their social status. Though I don't say that the Ts could go in that direction, their thought process is still similar. It roots from the same belief that they need validation from the society they are in. That itself is very toxic.
Just IMO
I agree to what you say completely. It is very difficult to forgive such kind of behavior, when you know it is not justified in anyway. But again, I still feel glad that we are getting to see this, because we as a society have forgotten to forgive. Now hear me out before you react. I am saying that today's society has fogotten 2 things - patience and forgiveness. While it is easy as a third person to say it, but today's world refuses to give time for change to happen organically. They want quick results & assume sides very easily, without walking in the other's hoes and thinking from their point of view. In your example, this applies to both us who are judging these people and them who are judging us and their children. While people have done horrible things in life, when time comes and karma punishes you, you think of what you have done and sometimes have genuine remorse. If you actually are a good person at heart, but are bound by societal conditioning, they day you decide to break free and follow your heart is the day that you win.
The reason I am saying this is that I still hold hope that I can forgive the T's if they genuinely accept Imlie again as their own for her qualities, despite how they are behaving today. Can I still consider them as those airhead happy go lucky people they were earlier - No. But the makers have dropped hints of this behavior, albeit subtly, throughout the 200 episodes. I have shared many such examples, like how Imlie always sits down and not on the sofa with the family, she never eats with the family at the dining table, the family's tone when asking her to do some work, Aparna & Radha's behavior during the entire suicide kand upto the charity function and many more. Also somewhere I feel that the makers jaan bujhke used the ruse that they are generally sweet people and very good to Imlie, as a way to warn us that people like them can also be stuck in this rudimentary thinking and can also get vicious when their thought process is threatened. Their main purpose was to show change in society's thinking, using Adi & Imlie as messengers and the T family as the medium. So I still hold hope that I can forgive them, but yes I cannot forget what they did and that is still okay with me.