Main hi naam change karu, main hi sindoor lagau aur tum bachelor? - Page 2

Intentions is what continues to matter the most no matter which gen one may belong too. If one is a honest life partner he/she will remain, visible signs of marriage or not.

even in cultures where man n women have no visible signs of being married, go around backs as we know. 1 or 4 permitted wives, doesnt matter.

this argument of women name change doesnt go very far.. for ex kareena kapoor khan, but do her children carry her last name? no, many such women who carry their parents name dont pass it to their kids! wonder why? when the dna is 50/50 why stop last name with yourself?. So the whole thing just ends there and just seems like a adamance and nothing else.

Our hindu society has adapted such discussions in society very well, therefore we see one applying sindoor another not n yet largely no fuss.

Originally posted by: brat2008

Lol 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

52 yrs old - married

Do not wear sindoor nor mangalsutra

Did not even change my last name

I had to face it with tyrant of a Mother in law for many many years

She just could not get her way 😜 so she gave up

Its my life it’s my choice

She got it loud and clear 🤣

I thought I was the only one in her 50's. Great to know I have my generation here...😃

Nice topic.. Enjoyed reading everyone's views.. Honestly I didn't think so much while changing my name and adding my husband's name to mine. And I m in 30s, having two young kids.

It all depends on person to person I guess. Even if I would have kept my pre marriage name, My husband or his family wouldn't have had any problems. Yet, my husband used be happy seeing his name with mine on my certificates and other documents.. may be he felt my achievements are his too..

Its all about being accepted and happy at the end I guess..

I didn't change my name and my in laws didn't create a fuss. But I carry the signs like sindoor and shakha pola ( I am a Bengali) , esp when my in-laws are around. Most Bengali woman of our generation especially those who are city bred don't wear them nowadays. But I know if I don't wear these my in laws won't like it. Why to hurt them just to create mini revolution at home. They are a little conservative. I object to some of the things that I find too discriminatory and sometimes they change, sometimes they don't. At the same time they don't have a problem with me working till now. ( pata nahi future me kya hoga when kids come into picture 😆) They also don't have a problem when my husband does the dishes or mops the floor ( We share the chores). Pushing them too much to change their ages long conditioning is also unfair on them. Him not carrying the signs doesn't mean he is open to flirting. It depends on him. Even a married woman with all signs can be open to flirting if she wants.

I think these signs were in a form a means to protect the women from others. In olden days, it was like a warning to men that these women belong to another man and you should keep your hands off her. I may be wrong. I have not studied the history of these practices. But most of them are to protect the woman's honour. Even sati and all has a similar origin. To protect them from being slaves to attackers. A woman's honour was always placed on the highest level and even before her life.

I in no way support these practices. Some women like carrying these signs. Our generation needs to change so that we don't perpetuate these practices into our future generation.

Originally posted by: Idiotboxer

I didn't change my name and my in laws didn't create a fuss. But I carry the signs like sindoor and shakha pola ( I am a Bengali) , esp when my in-laws are around. Most Bengali woman of our generation especially those who are city bred don't wear them nowadays. But I know if I don't wear these my in laws won't like it. Why to hurt them just to create mini revolution at home. They are a little conservative. I object to some of the things that I find too discriminatory and sometimes they change, sometimes they don't. At the same time they don't have a problem with me working till now. ( pata nahi future me kya hoga when kids come into picture 😆) They also don't have a problem when my husband does the dishes or mops the floor ( We share the chores). Pushing them too much to change their ages long conditioning is also unfair on them. Him not carrying the signs doesn't mean he is open to flirting. It depends on him. Even a married woman with all signs can be open to flirting if she wants.

I think these signs were in a form a means to protect the women from others. In olden days, it was like a warning to men that these women belong to another man and you should keep your hands off her. I may be wrong. I have not studied the history of these practices. But most of them are to protect the woman's honour. Even sati and all has a similar origin. To protect them from being slaves to attackers. A woman's honour was always placed on the highest level and even before her life.

I in no way support these practices. Some women like carrying these signs. Our generation needs to change so that we don't perpetuate these practices into our future generation.

There is no harm in wearing sindoor or any signs of marriage as long as it is not used as a form of weapon to subjugate the wife.

I like wearing my sindoor occasionally when there is a religious ceremony or something, but not out of obligation more like a pleasure.

Anything done with love and respect is beautiful, be it wearing a mangalsootr etc, so we should not lose these traditions becuase of modernity, but should value it for what it is and see the beauty inherent in it.

Originally posted by: kiranpri

There is no harm in wearing sindoor or any signs of marriage as long as it is not used as a form of weapon to subjugate the wife.

I like wearing my sindoor occasionally when there is a religious ceremony or something, but not out of obligation more like a pleasure.

Anything done with love and respect is beautiful, be it wearing a mangalsootr etc, so we should not lose these traditions becuase of modernity, but should value it for what it is and see the beauty inherent in it.

I think that is what the idea was. Choice over compulsion.

Originally posted by: kiranpri

There is no harm in wearing sindoor or any signs of marriage as long as it is not used as a form of weapon to subjugate the wife.

I like wearing my sindoor occasionally when there is a religious ceremony or something, but not out of obligation more like a pleasure.

Anything done with love and respect is beautiful, be it wearing a mangalsootr etc, so we should not lose these traditions becuase of modernity, but should value it for what it is and see the beauty inherent in it.

That is what I meant. Some women wear it because they like it. I wear it because I don't want to go against my in laws for such a minor issue. I won't have a problem if my future generation wears it or not. That will be completely upto them.

Yes, it was a really important issue raised.. ❤️