Shivangi Khedkar/Pallavi AT #6 ~ Blooming In Adversity ~ - Page 58

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

I know I sometimes react very very strongly to these things, but it's just one of those big pet peeves. I am not a counsellor or therapist, but my academic and professional background is in psychology, and I've worked somewhat extensively on Intimate Partner Violence in the past, so both watching such stuff on TV, and reading the kind of comments that are common here just immediately infuriates and scares me. Adults ka toh kuch kar nahi sakte, but when I see young girls internalizing these beliefs and romanticising abusive, toxic men under the tag of 'he's an alpha', I just..idk. It's upsetting. I worry for them turning into Kirtis in real life, because no one deserves that, and the line between admiring certain traits in fiction and then in real life is so thin, and so blurry.

I used to be on IF a few years back as well, and rejoined this year on a different account, but one of the reasons I left was how prevalent these things got at one point. It's so much better now. I remember a phase where it was very cool for the ML to rape the FL in fanfics, and it would be all leading into romantic and angsty plotlines, and just for the sake of my own mental health, I had to deactivate and leave.

Your major in psychology helps you understand better how these things work and how much influence it has on younger minds...and this is something which just not shown in ITV or bollywood----it's a trend in the entertainment industry--the macho or as you said alpha ML and the shy timid FL or more like submissive who will readily do anything, suffer through anything, forgive at a drop of hat ---these were the type of shows and movies in the earlier times and people liked it

good thing the producers decided to unfollow this trend and tried to create an equality between male and female but Alas...majority of the audience still loved the old concept of dominant and submissive and to maintain their show in the long run they started showing the same thing too--misogynist, abusive relationship

it's really disheartening to see young girls idolizing such type of relationship and willingly wanting to be in it--but in all this fairytale wishes of their they forget that the male they are idolizing is a completely different character in real life and all they see is a fiction

Originally posted by: Rusty_Quill

sorry for the intrusion.. but I felt the same . I remained away from IF for five years and then could finally return...

I feel IF is now much better than how it was before. People used to blindly follow the flow of these kinds of plots and would make it look like it was normal.

Don't feel that you are intruding us with your posts. We welcome every kind of comments from everyone as they are healthy. So feel free to pen down your thoughts. Don't back away thinking you are new here.

Originally posted by: Rusty_Quill

sorry for the intrusion.. but I felt the same . I remained away from IF for five years and then could finally return...

I feel IF is now much better than how it was before. People used to blindly follow the flow of these kinds of plots and would make it look like it was normal.

Arrey, intrusion kya 🤗 Always welcome to jump in, there are no private talks here.

I'm glad you remember that phase too. It disturbed me greatly.

It's leaps and bounds better now, there is no comparison.

Originally posted by: Inese_20

Okay, crazy idea.

When I have enough resources I am going to file a petition in SC to make it mandatory for the shows to put short disclaimers on air time, where different actors from the show come up and describe whatever toxic is being shown in the show is just an act, and that’s not how real life should be. 😆😆

Atleast new generations won't get wrong impressions watching such things on television

Originally posted by: Amnnaa

Exactly. They ruined Keerti after the entry of Sunny. She is a perfect example on how blind love change a person's character 360⁰.

I want to know their backstory. I hope CVs will give us a short (very short) scene on their first meeting and start of relationship.

It will be a great example on how girls should stay away from such toxic relationship.

Originally posted by: Rusty_Quill

sorry for the intrusion.. but I felt the same . I remained away from IF for five years and then could finally return...

I feel IF is now much better than how it was before. People used to blindly follow the flow of these kinds of plots and would make it look like it was normal.

Same I felt so tooo ❤️

6yrs back there were hardly few people in a fandom who were okay now it's a much better place

Originally posted by: Wallflowers

I told this in another thread, I was very much impressed by keerti's character when she took pallavi with her when VD throws her out and voicing for pallavi when amma was deciding her future. But I can't see that mature keerti after Sunny's arrival. I was so mad at makers for ruining her character. I want them to give a proper explanation to her behaviour and blind trust for sunny

Exactly. I have the same sentiments.

Originally posted by: Inese_20

This one is a crazy place, as you must have figured by now. Last evening was a trailer 😆

so please feel free to join in anytime with whatever you want to say. Off topic, on topic doesn’t matter 🤗 just have fun and maybe add a bit of more crazy to us 😆 it’s been only 4-5= days we all have known each other and look at us 🤣

I am happy to have found this place😃

Originally posted by: Amnnaa

Don't feel that you are intruding us with your posts. We welcome every kind of comments from everyone as they are healthy. So feel free to pen down your thoughts. Don't back away thinking you are new here.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Yes, do it! I'm happy to help, however it is required!

You know, they do put these terrible disclaimers sometimes, but the threshold is insane. Aaditri and I were talking about IMMJ earlier, and I remember disclaimers only twice in all the abuse on that show- once, when the ML gave the FL a paralytic so that she couldn't go and do something he didn't want her to, and once when she was strung up on a noose. Does it have to be this bad to tell the audience 'hey, this isn't cool'. And then also, they scroll by so quickly, at the bottom of the screen, in fine print.

What you're suggesting would be so cool. When 'You' came out on Netflix, and Penn Badgeley was getting tons of love for the character, he used to point it out in every interview- DO NOT ROMANTICIZE THIS. I loved that.

The immj example is sick! Haven’t watched it though. I guess there are so many things being shown on different shows which need accountability.

@bold: I will make myself familiar with this. Sounds awesome though 👏