So I finally caught up with the episode.
Now, before I say anything else, I would like to say, that I am in no way trying to bash Raavi or prove that she is wrong and Shiva is right, nor am I trying to justify the manhandling, crude choice of words, or today's precap.
If you watch it carefully, we can see, twice Shiva tried to keep Raavi out of the kangan issue. He told Dhara, in the precise words, "Ye baat Raavi ki ni hai bhabhi." When he explained the value of the kangans, how it was his father's last gift to his mom, and it was rightfully hers, even Suman became emotional. She tried to stop him, but you could see in her eyes how much those kangans meant to her. Still when Raavi asked tu aisa kaise kar sakta hai, he clearly told her, "Ye tere baare mein nahi hai Raavi, ye Mami aur mere beech ka matter hai." He was not the one to bring Raavi in between them, at that particular day at least.
On the contrary, it was Mami who equalized Raavi with kangan, as if she were an object. She is the one who said ki jab tu yaha se jaayega na to tere saath sirf meri Raavi jaayegi, ye kangan nahi. Ideally speaking, yes Shiva should have stopped her from bringing Raavi in between. But you have to understand, at this point, he had been provoked thoroughly. He was too emotionally volatile at that time, to fully process the implications of what Mami said, or what he is about to say. Yes, he was wrong to have said what he said. But Mami knew he was bound to make a mistake when he is in such a vulnerable state, which is why she deliberately bought Raavi in between, and successfully manipulated Shiva.
Shiva has done many things to hurt Raavi. Raavi's anger is very much justified. Shiva needs to reflect on his actions, understand that he has to control his aggression, find a healthy way to vent, realize his mistake, and sincerely apologize and seek forgiveness from Raavi. His actions need to change.
But what I am saying is, I agree Shiva is wrong, but he is not the main culprit here.
Mami genuinely loving Raavi and raising her with love and care for so many years CANNOT be a justification for her wrong deeds.
I understand that for Raavi, she is like her mother, she is stuck between the two, and she was hurt by Shiva. So her being angry with him is very much correct.
But the whole onus of the fight cannot be put on Shiva. Mami knows which point to press in order to hurt Shiva and she did exactly that.
I would again like to emphasize that in today's precap, I am very much upset with Shiva. And yes, he could have, and should have handled the whole issue better. But what I am saying is, he is not evil, Mami is.
Would like to hear your thought and opinions.
PS. Sincere request, please don't make it a Shiva vs Raavi thing. I love and support both the characters, and do not want to see either of them being bashed.
Arjun
