not a good husband but a good son - ranting - Page 2

Originally posted by: ShinyShine

Exactly I mean technically she is the only person who isn't going wrong.

No one said anything to Shiva when he was a bully to Raavi but if Raavi even says a word which was not wrong people start saying she is wrong.

No one said wrong when Shiva said ki Raavi ko bachana nahi tha haddiya toot jaati, medicine nahi lagana chahiye tha, Suman calling Raavi wrong but not asking her son shut up.

He manhandles, talks shit but if Raavi even says a word against Shiva people start saying that Raavi is wrong.

Why ?

I love Shiva the most but I have started having a soft corner for Raavi. She isn't doing anything wrong but just few days back too people were judging her for no reason.

She doesn't support Mami in her wrong but obviously she doesn't like things blowing out of proportion and insult game to Start.

Bang on! I completely agree! Will Shiva ever go against his family to support Raavi? No right! Then why are there such high expectations that Raavi should always be the one to go against her family and support Shiva! Why? Because Shiva is the man of the house and Raavi is his wife? Does it give Shiva the leverage to manhandle Raavi, treat her like shit, ask her to shut up ! I dont get it.. I understand Maami is wrong, but Raavi has time and again stood up for Shiva in front of her, she even asked Maami to never fight with him . What else should she do? When I heard Raavi say that statement even I was taken aback and I was like why is Raavi saying this but then I watched the full episode and realized what Shiva did towards the end is totally unacceptable! Though he is like this since the beginning and is in character but what he did to Raavi is just wrong! He cannot treat Raavi like an object which he can toss and throw from one side to another! 😡

I agree with you. Raavi should have asked for the kangan when she came to know shiva's reason for wanting them.

Originally posted by: aashkairaan

I agree with you. Raavi should have asked for the kangan when she came to know shiva's reason for wanting them.

yes raavi should have done this. i just don't want mami to escape with the money after this, she should suffer

Originally posted by: tintin1234

She said it afterwards.

Shiva-Dhara convo: 13:30

Shiva-Suman convo: 14:30

Shiva-Raavi convo: 16:30

Forget about today, Raavi-Suman convo happened last week, what she did then? She sarcastically yelled at Maasi "Kyu aai yaha pe apni baizaati karavne" that Suman got it and pointed her "Tu use suna rahi hai ya muje?". E122. She very well knew bangles were stolen. Kaam baizati wala kiya hai toh sun na padega na? But chalo that I ignore as she didn't know the importance of kangan at that time.

After knowing everything, She dared to ask Shiva. "Tu aaisa kaisa kar sakta hain" like seriously? even after listening that its her Father-in-law's last gift to her MIL, how can she question Shiva?. Instead she should ask her Masi to return bangles, Not as a Wife but atleast as Daughter-In-Law toh mang hi sakti thi. But no she decided to support her Masi even she is wrong.

I really dont like Shiva put her in bargain deal. I dont support at all. He should face the consequences for that.

Regarding why others not saying? Suman because of his brother's reputation, Dhara because of Mama and Raavi's reoutation. But Shiva, shiva ki koi majburi nahi hai. He is fighting for his Mother.

I am not saying ki Raavi should’ve spoken to shiva like that I am just saying have empathy towards that character sabka way of dealing alag hota situation ko lekar and it’s tough to listen any bullshit against your mother infront of ur in laws … although she did pointed out mami’s mistake but how shiva reacted when Raavi pointed out dhara’s mistake … rude enough manhandled .. but people are being unnecessarily harsh towards Raavi I think before making any sort of judgement we should watch next episode as well …

Thank you 🙈 I thought I was the only one who was not pro-Raavi and all angry at Shiva.

I am not able to point out what my issue with Raavi is, but I really didn’t like her today. I’m not sure what I was expecting.

I am probably the only person who does not want Shiva to grovel… I know Shiva is rude to Raavi, but Raavi is not exactly a sweetheart to him.

Coming to mental health issue, yes Raavi is suicidal and deserves all the love and support in the world. But Shiva too has been subjected to a emotional torture from childhood by Maami. Just because he shouts and fights back does not mean he is not affected. Should’nt he be given a little slack too?

Raavi can continuously taunt him for leaving her, openly tells him that he is a punishment, and subtly undermines him in front of others(she was ok with him getting beaten by Dhara), then should she also not grovel in front of Shiva?

I feel both Shiva and Raavi need to grow from this… not only Shiva. If Shiva is not a good husband then Raavi too is not a great wife 🤷‍♀️

I felt really bad for both Shiva and Raavi. Shiva is all alone fighting against the evil, disgusting excuse of a woman he has for a mother-in-law. Raavi has been dragged into a situation that is no fault of hers, simply as collateral damage, and is bearing the brunt of it.

Shiva was wrong today to make a deal by objectifying Raavi. There is no justification for it. He was wrong to use her as a bargaining chip. I'm glad Raavi is standing up for herself on that. But at the same time, I also think that Raavi is wrong by not demanding her mother figure even once to return something that she stole so mercilessly and is repeatedly flaunting in front of the people she stole it from, and is hurting them. I don't expect Raavi to demand the kangans from maami in support of her husband or her sasural, but because it is the right thing to do. Theft is wrong, yet Raavi seems to simply ignore this and only tells Maami to stop fighting with Shiva.

Both of them have not been good spouses to each other, and I hope this track helps them evolve, grow as characters, reflect upon their marriage and understand what exactly they want from it, and whether they even want it at all.

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

Bang on! I completely agree! Will Shiva ever go against his family to support Raavi? No right! Then why are there such high expectations that Raavi should always be the one to go against her family and support Shiva! Why? Because Shiva is the man of the house and Raavi is his wife? Does it give Shiva the leverage to manhandle Raavi, treat her like shit, ask her to shut up ! I dont get it.. I understand Maami is wrong, but Raavi has time and again stood up for Shiva in front of her, she even asked Maami to never fight with him . What else should she do? When I heard Raavi say that statement even I was taken aback and I was like why is Raavi saying this but then I watched the full episode and realized what Shiva did towards the end is totally unacceptable! Though he is like this since the beginning and is in character but what he did to Raavi is just wrong! He cannot treat Raavi like an object which he can toss and throw from one side to another! 😡

Exactly it isn't even about going against his family. I don't know how people forgot when Raavi said the correct thing about Dhara then Shiva manhandled her. Atleast Raavi knows what is wrong and points it out. She tells Mami where she is wrong and doesn't support her but Shiva doesn't even hear it. But people find Raavi at fault. I mean why?

What more she should do ? Insult her. I mean have anyone seen from Raavi ka perspective for Raavi who is orphan was taken by Mami and treated like princess for that Raavi can't ever find a greater person for her just like what Dhara is for Shiva. If Shiva doesn't even points out Dhara's mistakes heck dude he doesn't even hear if someone is telling the truth so he is great but Raavi becomes wrong even after pointing out the mistakes and telling the truth on Mami's face.

I saw on twitter and remembered Shiva said to Raavi ki Dev ki galtiyo ki saza Dhara bhabhi ko kyu de rahi hain. What happened to him now? He was doing the same from last 10 yrs but got problem within hrs and now in today's epiosode toh it was ridiculos.

Raavi calling Shiva names etc etc Raavi apologized right. Did Shiva did ever ? For what he did from 10yrs, what he said shit at many occasions still Raavi made sure Shiva had his food went back to normal. Shiva didn't even realised what wrong he said and at the end it is Raavi who is at fault.

Wow kamaal hain

I am angry with Raavi. When Dhara was wrong, shiva did not tell her she was wrong. Then why expect raavi to do the same with maami.

I completely understand that Dhara and maami deeds cannot be compared. But their relationship to both Raavi- shivaa is very much similar. In the sense that they are grateful towards them.

Even when u have a parent who is wrong, still it is extremely difficult to go against them, almost impossible. It is very natural. So i am not really concerned that she is taking maami side now.

It will take time. Its cannot be like now she is married, so she should suddenly see maami in a different manner. To her she is the same person who took care for her when she had no one.

Originally posted by: tintin1234

I 100% agree with you.

I was so mad at Raavi when she dared to ask "Aaisa kyu kar raha he?" Was she deaf or blind, when he was explaining his reasons? I think instead of asking Shiva, She should directly attack her masi "Maasi maa, apke liye ye kangan hai sirf but hamare parivar ke liye papaji ki akhri nisani, aap pls yeh kangan wapas karde"

This is what sensible and supportive daughter-in-law do. Not question her husband when he is right.

In that matter, I like Anita today, atleast she dared to tell Masi.

Excuse me. Why should Raavi do all that?

Didn't Shiva himself told her to stay out of it because this was not related to her?

She is neither deaf nor she is blind but Shiva is definitely the stupidest person ever! He's rude, he always manhandles her, his hatred towards Raavi is unjust and nothing, not a thing can justify his actions!

Everybody is expecting her to be a sensible daughter-in-law, but when have her in-laws been sensible about her pain.

Oh, wow! I wanna clap for you👏 Using his wife for a stupid exchange is such a right thing to do. Brilliant! Every woman deserves a man like that!👏

Shiva himself said that Raavi has no right to speak in between his and Maami's issue and then he drags Raavi into this himself. Wow!