Its right to blame Anupamaa ?

Its right to blame Anupama for not raising her voice in front of his wild husband , or not focusing on her career or doing house chores alone ? If you ask me , i dont think so because

she come from poor family and this is what her family teach her

pati ka ghar ghar ,

pati jo bole sai,

Agar pati gussa ho toh chup reh jana ,

shaadi ke baad no career ,

top of that agar husband vanraj shah jaise hoo toh koi kaise apne voice raise karege jaha yeh dar hoo kahi ghar se na nikal de where you have no where to go and stay , where you know your ghar ka situation is bad and you have no education degree to work and take care of your self and top of that ghar se yeh sikhe mile hoo that your husband is your everything chahe jaise bhi ho

jo sikhe ghar se milte han is very hard to change because since childhood wahi bataya jata han and Anupama was doing all the things jo usske maa ne ussko sikhya remember in one episode her mother said kash tumein padhaya hota aur tumein khud ke liye stand lena sikhaya hota

shayad Anu vanraj ko abhi bhi tolerate kar rahe hote agar vanraj ka affair samne nahi aya hota , expose ke baad she raise her voice now first he was tolerating because this is what anu family teach her and second her love for husband dono hi reason after affair mar gaye thi for her

Still now in this generation in many house they teach girls that pati is parmeshwar and to boys they teach your more superior then your wife

here we can blame systerm not Anupamaa

In many house we will find One Anupama specially in poor house and galat kisi ke bhi nahin because sab fortunate nahi hote to study

PS: i really want to add this " apne ghar ke kaam kar ne se koi maid nahin hota agar koi happily kare why not aur anupama 25 year se yahi karte aa rahe han ab toh woh job bhi karte han if she can manage both nicely why not ?

in addition rakhi dave over react in the last epi no one asked kinjal to work soo itna react karne ke koi zaroorat nahi thi itna bhi pahad nahi thod rahe thi kinjal sirf she bring vegetables aur wo ek dish banane ke soch rahe thi uss main galat kya han ?

moreover rakhi dave become dam irritating now she act she is soo sophisticated high class women but kharkate toh usske Mohalle Ki Aunty jaise han ,

someone she act she is the most power women but get scare of kavya h"wow"

her character become joke now .

RaKhee can have all the love and care for her daughter but the way she yelled at Baa and mocked about Vanraj in his absence was petty.

The elders seem to find the time to forget their pain and share a light moment why ridicule them?

Kinjal obviously craved for the noise and simplicity and nok jhoks . She is a single child raised by a kind father and an overbearing mom.

One moment RaKhee is seemingly supportive in another she bitches about.

Anupama may have been naive thinking of only others. Some people find great peace in that. The positivity , maturity and not creating controversy or disrupting family peace is how they live

Kavyas PDA unmindful of who's around, RaKhee s words and actions to disempower others are not signs of strong women.

Anupama is thoughtful and respectful of everyone whereas Kavya and RaKhee are insulting of all. The difference is in their outlook to life

I totally agree with you 👍 my MIL she was BSC graduated but she always told us ke pati ki avaz par patni ke pair chalne chahiye before he finishes his sentence you should start work what he says 🤢 even today's my dever kehta hai ke patni ki jagah pati ke pairo mai hi honi chahiye 😡 ..so I completely understand your point 👍🏼 Mai apne husband se 16 years se alag alag yaha Canada mai rehti hu par wo ajj bhi jyada drink kar leta hai to apni cheating ka sara blame mujh pe daal deta hai ke usne maafi mangi thi to mujhe usse maaf karna chahiye kyu ke wo mera pati hai to wo jo bhi bole ya kare mujhe sirf sun na chahiye aur man na chahiye and he is gold medalist in architecture 🤡par maa ki soch bahot important hoti hai baccho ki life mai...so if Anupama is doing this and still not raise enough voice I can understand her

Yahan ghar ke kaam ki baat hi nahin ho rahi hai . Sabhi log ghar ka kaam karte hai Even I do ghar ka kaam

Yahan anupama ko maid ki tarah isliye bola jaa raha, kyonki jaise hi anupama shah family mein aayi

Sub ne anupama ko bataaya ki mujhe kaun se beverage peena hai . Anupama kitchen mein gayi usne akele bartan maaje e akele sabke liye chai coffee banayi

Is beech shah family se koi anupama help karne ko nahin aaya,. Kisi ne yeh nahin kaha ki tum rest karo tumhari surgery hui hai

Anupama ko chod kur sub sofe mein baithe aaram farma rahe they

Jub anupama akele kaam kar rahi thi aur baaki baithe anupama ko order paas kar rahe they bus sofe mein aaram farma rahe they aur anupama akeli kitchen mein kaam kar rahi thi to anupama ki position kya hui . Maid hi jaisi to to hui

Ghar ka kaam but iska matlab yeh nahin ki anupama saara kaam akele lag jaaye ya, phir saara, kaam anupama pe daal do aur baaki log bus sofe mein baith ke aaram kare

Hum apna ghar ka bhi karein to bhi help chahiye hoti hai we cant do it all alone

Aur anupama ki maa ne khud bola hai ki usne galat teaching di hai anupama ko uski maa anupama ko khud kehti hai ki tum mayke mein raho

Pehle anupama finacially independent nahin thi to samajh aata tha ki anupama ko kyon yeh sub karna, pad raha hai

Ab aisi koi majboor nahi to ek maid kyon nahin laa rahe ho ya phir agar maid nahin mil rahi to shah family espicially bache just sitting on sofa and relaxing not helping anupama not Even ask her to rest

Jahaan pur 7 member ho wahaan pur koi bhi ek person saara kaam akele plus job yeh sub kaam akele nahin kar sakta hai

It it totally imposible to to do all work all alone by one personin big family

Even during samudra manthan devtaaon ko bhi amrit nikalne ke liye demon ki help leni padi thi

Jub devtaaon ko demon ki help leni padi thi kyonki devta log akele ocean churn ahin kar sakte they inspite of being demi god ( I am giving example)

Yahan to anupama phir bhi insaan hai

And we are not blaming anupama we are showing concern for anupama

7 member ke liye bhi khaali kinjal aur anupama ka kaam karna sufficient nahin hai baaki member ko bhi ghar ke kaam karna chahiye

Originally posted by: moonwearer

RaKhee can have all the love and care for her daughter but the way she yelled at Baa and mocked about Vanraj in his absence was petty.

The elders seem to find the time to forget their pain and share a light moment why ridicule them?

Kinjal obviously craved for the noise and simplicity and nok jhoks . She is a single child raised by a kind father and an overbearing mom.

One moment RaKhee is seemingly supportive in another she bitches about.

Anupama may have been naive thinking of only others. Some people find great peace in that. The positivity , maturity and not creating controversy or disrupting family peace is how they live

Kavyas PDA unmindful of who's around, RaKhee s words and actions to disempower others are not signs of strong women.

Anupama is thoughtful and respectful of everyone whereas Kavya and RaKhee are insulting of all. The difference is in their outlook to life

Rakhi dave think what she said its funny but its not

this is her so called high society value ? to go her daughter in law house to enjoy their fights ?

Originally posted by: dipali13

I totally agree with you 👍 my MIL she was BSC graduated but she always told us ke pati ki avaz par patni ke pair chalne chahiye before he finishes his sentence you should start work what he says 🤢 even today's my dever kehta hai ke patni ki jagah pati ke pairo mai hi honi chahiye 😡 ..so I completely understand your point 👍🏼 Mai apne husband se 16 years se alag alag yaha Canada mai rehti hu par wo ajj bhi jyada drink kar leta hai to apni cheating ka sara blame mujh pe daal deta hai ke usne maafi mangi thi to mujhe usse maaf karna chahiye kyu ke wo mera pati hai to wo jo bhi bole ya kare mujhe sirf sun na chahiye aur man na chahiye and he is gold medalist in architecture 🤡par maa ki soch bahot important hoti hai baccho ki life mai...so if Anupama is doing this and still not raise enough voice I can understand her

first society need to change their mind set that koi ladka aur ladki nahi hota jab baat ghar ki ate han koi superior koi small nai hota ghar dono hone chahiye equally as soo decision

agar pati bahar jata han kam karne ke liye toh ek patni ghar main reh kar kam karta han kisi ka kam small aur big nahi hota dono kam main mehnat han sirf different yeh han ek main salary nahi mila , holiday nahi milta , aur kam 24 hours hota han toh patni ko wo value kyu nahi milta jo uss ko milna chahiye

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Yahan ghar ke kaam ki baat hi nahin ho rahi hai . Sabhi log ghar ka kaam karte hai Even I do ghar ka kaam

Yahan anupama ko maid ki tarah isliye bola jaa raha, kyonki jaise hi anupama shah family mein aayi

Sub ne anupama ko bataaya ki mujhe kaun se beverage peena hai . Anupama kitchen mein gayi usne akele bartan maaje e akele sabke liye chai coffee banayi

Is beech shah family se koi anupama help karne ko nahin aaya,. Kisi ne yeh nahin kaha ki tum rest karo tumhari surgery hui hai

Anupama ko chod kur sub sofe mein baithe aaram farma rahe they

Jub anupama akele kaam kar rahi thi aur baaki baithe anupama ko order paas kar rahe they bus sofe mein aaram farma rahe they aur anupama akeli kitchen mein kaam kar rahi thi to anupama ki position kya hui . Maid hi jaisi to to hui

Ghar ka kaam but iska matlab yeh nahin ki anupama saara kaam akele lag jaaye ya, phir saara, kaam anupama pe daal do aur baaki log bus sofe mein baith ke aaram kare

Hum apna ghar ka bhi karein to bhi help chahiye hoti hai we cant do it all alone

Aur anupama ki maa ne khud bola hai ki usne galat teaching di hai anupama ko uski maa anupama ko khud kehti hai ki tum mayke mein raho

Pehle anupama finacially independent nahin thi to samajh aata tha ki anupama ko kyon yeh sub karna, pad raha hai

Ab aisi koi majboor nahi to ek maid kyon nahin laa rahe ho ya phir agar maid nahin mil rahi to shah family espicially bache just sitting on sofa and relaxing not helping anupama not Even ask her to rest

still you cant say maid in that situation too wo apne family ke liye kar rahe han you mean koi agar saath deta you wouldnt label her as maid ?

toh unn logo ne kaha na jhilmil ajayege itne bhi jaldi kya han

maid ghar lana ek big responsibility you cant trust any one and bring some strange to work in the house

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Jahaan pur 7 member ho wahaan pur koi bhi ek person saara kaam akele plus job yeh sub kaam akele nahin kar sakta hai

It it totally imposible to to do all work all alone by one personin big family

Even during samudra manthan devtaaon ko bhi amrit nikalne ke liye demon ki help leni padi thi

Jub devtaaon ko demon ki help leni padi thi kyonki devta log akele ocean churn ahin kar sakte they inspite of being demi god ( I am giving example)

Yahan to anupama phir bhi insaan hai

And we are not blaming anupama we are showing concern for anupama

7 member ke liye bhi khaali kinjal aur anupama ka kaam karna sufficient nahin hai baaki member ko bhi ghar ke kaam karna chahiye

possible han main ne khud apne aunty ko akhele kam karte dekha han without any help still now she happily do all ghar ka kam

its doesn't mean if you cant other cant too noo all have different capability

I have also seen aunty unke teen bache do girls and i boy aur unka husband aur mother in law rehte

Though uncle aur unke teen bache aunty sub kaam karte hain yahan tuk grand mother bhi kaam karti thi woh apni pottiyan ke liye woolen socks banati thi yahan ki ladoo mathri banati thi jub unki age 70 thi

Aur kisi ko koi bimari nahin thi except grand mother jinhe age related bimari jahaan pur r sare log ghar ke kaam kar rahe ho phir bhi aunty ne kaam wali bai rakhi thi

Aunty ke jub age 48 thi tub unhone kaha tha ki pehle to mujhe se daud daud kaam hota tha ab nahin hota hai jubki unhone koi bimari nahin hai

Aur aunty sirf house wife hai

Jub aunty house wife hai aur unke family member ghar ke kaam kare rahe hain still unhone kaam wali baai rakhi

To pata nahin anupama jo abhi bahut weak hai aur jo dance aur teaching dono kar rah hain aur anupama ke bache koi ghar ka kaam nahin kar rahe pata nahin kaise anupama saara ghar ka kaam almost akele kar rahe hain for 7 member