There's someone in my extended family who has said things about me since young. Like very young. And honestly I've held a grudge till today, I used to say things back but now I don't have to even meet her. I'm not even friends with her daughter anymore because there's too much bitterness. But she has stood up for me, and I will always respect her for that. My parents did have harsh words with her but it didn't reduce my pain. If they asked me to get along with her I reckon I would have hit out in a big way.
I have come across people like Mami in my family and in my inlaws family, I don't have any relationship with them. I grew up in a joint family until I got married and went into a nuclear family after marriage😆 Have seen both good and bad of both sides😆 But now if you ask me, I prefer nuclear family, can never imagine going back to Joint family after living there for the first 23 years of my life.