Ques for those who hv done arranged marriage:How is ur compatibility? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Mahisa_22

But you're of Pakistani origin right?

Yes I am. But trust me when I say there is a HUGE difference in the way of thinking between us and those who have been raised in Pakistan.

And I am not exaggerating

Originally posted by: saria1985

Yeah me 34.

I've lost hope

Did you try dating?

I got married on 9 days notice to some girl who I never met before the ceremony in a foreign country lol. It wasn't the most conventional marriage. I never talked to her before we were married either. Parents just asked and I said yes 😆 Everything went fine and I got a kid now

But that's my story. An there was stuff we had to learn about each other. An knowing me she was in for shocks. As was I. But eventually we got an understanding.

Im sure you will find someone. Do you have any type of person in mind ?

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

Whether love or arranged, it doesn't really matter. Some marriages will work, some won't. It depends on the maturity of both individuals and how much effort they are willing to put into the relationship. You will have disagreements, arguments, fights...and honestly I feel a relationship without these things is not a normal one. It helps your relationship grow and helps you as an individual come out as a stronger person.

As for me, my husband and myself are polar opposites. Literally. In every way possible (almost). I have always been an introvert whereas he's an extrovert. I was born and brought up in UK and him in Pakistan, so there was a huge cultural difference too. At the beginning, we fought a lot and there were times where we literally wanted to give up on the relationship (another normal thing which is what others told me), but we got through it all and over time we have matured and learnt to understand each other much better.

It has now been 6 years of marriage and we are going stronger than ever 😎

A special mention to my dewar who is more like a 'deewar' between us these days...but we will get through this phase too!

We all can vouch for your love ishhtory with your husband and hate ishhtory with your devar. The latter is more entertaining tbh🥳🤣

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

Whether love or arranged, it doesn't really matter. Some marriages will work, some won't. It depends on the maturity of both individuals and how much effort they are willing to put into the relationship. You will have disagreements, arguments, fights...and honestly I feel a relationship without these things is not a normal one. It helps your relationship grow and helps you as an individual come out as a stronger person.

As for me, my husband and myself are polar opposites. Literally. In every way possible (almost). I have always been an introvert whereas he's an extrovert. I was born and brought up in UK and him in Pakistan, so there was a huge cultural difference too. At the beginning, we fought a lot and there were times where we literally wanted to give up on the relationship (another normal thing which is what others told me), but we got through it all and over time we have matured and learnt to understand each other much better.

It has now been 6 years of marriage and we are going stronger than ever 😎

A special mention to my dewar who is more like a 'deewar' between us these days...but we will get through this phase too!

So happy everything worked out in the end Hinna 🤗🤗

Let's hope deewar issues won't exist after the pandemic 😆

Originally posted by: saria1985

Yeah....okay I do reject a lot myself...but what am I supposed to do with a guy that wants me to become strict religious, or a guy that doesn't wants to work, or a guy with two earrings in his ears, or a guy that doesn't wants to get married any time soon etc...

Just never met the right one or someone I could settle with.

These guys you mentioned... Were they just dates or boyfriends?

Originally posted by: MallikaDua

I have a question for those who went for arranged marriage. Are you compatible with your partner? Do you enjoy your relationship or is it full of compromises ? Has anybody found a good life partner through arranged marriage system?

I have not been able to find a good match for me by myself.... arranged marriage is the only option for me. I have talked to many guys but I am just not able to connect with them. I am shit scared of getting married! If you feel comfortable, please give your honest opinions about your how is your relationship going on with your spouse and how did you make adjustments. I need some guidance about it as I am going through a stressful period because of this marriage issue. I need suggestions about how to know if a proposal is a good match .

Please don't report this topic because the mods will shift it to general discussion section and nobody visits it.

I think it takes time to find a good match in arranged marriage. Since when have you been looking? Also, why not try casual dating?

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

I got married on 9 days notice to some girl who I never met before the ceremony in a foreign country lol. It wasn't the most conventional marriage. I never talked to her before we were married either. Parents just asked and I said yes 😆 Everything went fine and I got a kid now

But that's my story. An there was stuff we had to learn about each other. An knowing me she was in for shocks. As was I. But eventually we got an understanding.

Im sure you will find someone. Do you have any type of person in mind ?

Just curious - what made you say yes to a person you've never spoken to?

I am content with my cats and have no plans to marry. Especially after reading this thread😵

Originally posted by: _Khaleesi_

We were not at all compatible , first 1 year was very difficult for us.

Actually we decided we would get divorce but then pandemic happened and we bonded during this period.

You have to make a lot adjustments, i am a feminist and my husband is a psuedofeminist (rahul bose from ddd). I had to make compromise that his family will always be his priority. I made peace with that.

He had to accept that i am feminist and my first priority is my career and i am not interested in having babies (I actually told him that before marriage but he thought i would change my mind lol never).

Our marriage is not toxic anymore and we are kind of fell in love during this lock down period 😳

I am happy you fell in love but girl dont say he is still a non-feminist? I would rather die than be married to someone who thinks his gender is superior.