Astha- Defeated and Wronged

A woman was made to choose between her parents and child.. She chose the former and suffered all her life..

A mother's first responsibility is always towards her child.. She is the creator, the nurturer and the protector..

But what about our duties and responsibilities to our parents? Doesn't it go both ways?

She had to let go of her son for her parents and self-respect.. It hurt her everyday but she learnt to live with it.. She didn't want her child to suffer in a broken marriage and broken house but didn't realise how far it broke her own son..

She chose to fight for her parents' life but lost the battle for her own son's love and attachment.. She lost the most precious thing in her life and had no one to wipe her tears.. She had to bury her feelings deep inside her heart because no one cared for them.. She was judged and humiliated for her choice because it seemed she cared less but she always cared the most.. A mother can never stop caring or loving..

She sees the inate goodness and strength in her son which others even his own father fail to realise.. She understands his feelings and love which the people in the house who nurtured him for 25 years couldn't fathom..

She wanted him happy and when she knew his newfound feelings for a girl, she was in seventh heaven.. She decided to fight this time, for her son, for his happiness.. She was questioned, misinterpreted but she didn't stop encouraging him, she didn't stop standing behind him for his happiness.. She could never fight for her own but she would for her son..

Her son came to call her back but it wasn't what he wanted.. He was just tolerating her for someone else.. She realised what she had lost.. She knew her son may not love her but she realised he didn't respect her even.. Her choices and decisions didn't matter to him.. She wasn't going to be an unwanted guest in his life.. She refused him and waited for the day he recognised her pain and reconciled with her with his full heart..

Thank you Arpi for the idea.. 🤗

Beautiful post Jiggs❤️🥺

As a mother myself I can totally relate to Asthas pain , how difficult this journey has been for her. One day my child comes late home I panic then just imagine Astha she has lived years grieving for her son. And now she sees only hatred for her in him, no matter who brain washed him or what her reasons for leaving him were, its her son who has suffered the most.

I suppose she had chances could have made an effort to see him as he was growing up, he was no longer a 4 year old. This reflected what Shaurya said I waited for her , to share my grief with her but she was never around .

A mother can never stop loving or caring a big yes but the child needs to feel that , to be reassured of that love and care. Now Astha is giving good to Devi why didnt she when her son was a bit old enough to come and claim him. Kids understand their parents differences Shaurya would have too, but he was never given a chance. He said my zidd is from my mum. Was zidd more important..?? We see a fierce Astha fighting for her student then why not him.?.

How can he understand her pain and reconcile with her when she made no effort?. After 25 years she goes and says listen to me when he is a fully grown man , will he..?. Why should he? Her words kept ringing in his ears but Devi manipulated him yet again.

I would say yes Astha has suffered but is also responsible for Shaurya's soch today. There was no one to stop her to look after her parents and been in touch with her son whilst he was growing up. Did she ever call Shaan and ask how her son was, she called for Anokhi but not for her own. Split up couples do keep in touch for children's sake. No wonder most of the hate that Anokhi felt from Shaurya was not her as a person but because she was someone that his mum loved and not him.

Nice post. Will come back soon.

If there are levels on who has been wronged the most... I still say Shaurya..... And the one to wrong him the most is Devi - Not Astha!

Astha has undoubtedly suffered a lot, but atleast she had a little say in the Shaan-Astha-Shaurya dynamics... Unlike Shaurya... ! Her suffering has been evident since episode 1 where Anokhi too noticed it saying... Not sure ki inhone ne apne zindagi mein kitna kuch saha hoga...

Because being a woman, family and responsibilities will always be top priority.. But further problem is.... That it will be Sasural wale ki family and not their own... In the process, they tend to lose their own identity... Saberwal vs. Kashyab had strong stance for Astha too... She was OK to give up everything for Shaan till life pushed her to make a decision, which could be unfair to Shaurya...

At the moment, she is trying to be stronger mother, but in process... I did want her to help Shaurya understand her perspective and show little reluctance towards ShaKhi alliance.. But ultimately agree... After explaining to Shaurya about all the ways Anokhi can suffer with Saberwals.... I guess makers are just going to make the realization through changed in love concept... But I hoped Astha also tried mending relationship with Shaurya as actively as Shaurya is expected to...

I keep thinking what if Aastha was the protagonist of the story. Maybe then her actions, her thoughts, her suffering could have been examined more. I will always take her decision with a pinch of salt because I honestly feel she should have fought harder for her son. Today Shaurya's dialogues hit me hard, his pain hit me hard. But on the flip side I get Aastha's decision too and the pain her choices have caused her.

Urrgh, I love this show for this. Being able to understand everyone's point of view. Nothing is black or white, everyone is grey except a certain someone who shall not be named. ❤️

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After seeing today's episode we got to know about Shaury's pain and suffering. In previous episodes also it was shown how shaurya longed for his mother but they never showed properly Aastha's pain and sufferings.

She is a mother and a daughter. She was wronged in many ways, She was asked to choose between her married life , son and her parents, her husband didnt support her when she needed it the most.

Having said that , what was the mistake of that 4 yrs old boy who had to bear the burnt of all this. She left without fighting for him. For 25 years , She must have come to meet him when he wa sick and Sabharwals didnt let her meet him but for 25 years , she never spoke to her husband .. She should have asked about her son and how he is coping up with all these issues but she didnt do that.

After 25 years , she is coming back in his life and that also for a student . This time also she didnt come for him.

Maybe Aastha's situation was very bad and she had to take decision for her parents who needed her attention but what about that 4 yr old jiski bhi ek hi Maa thi..Maa ki jagah koi nahi le sakta hai.

Aastha should have fought harder, She gave up early. She is at fault and she should take responsibility of that.

We are like she understands her Son so well , but if we see she understands Anokhi also equally well. Maybe she is an understanding person but this doesnt prove that she is a good mother.

Devi was able to foul Shaurya's mind but Aastha never felt the need to justify herself infront of her son. Wo samjhati to wo jaaror sunta.. Samjhta ki nahi I dont know

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Wow...Jigs 🤗

How well you have described the current equation of Aastha-Shaurya. Loved it ❤️

Amazing post, you described relation between Aastha n Shaurya really well

The complexity of Aastha's situation 25 years ago has always intrigued me. She sacrificed her career, her independence to marry Shaan. Perhaps even accepted the unfair practices of the Sabharwal house for the sake of her husband and child. But when her old and ailing parents were left in a dire situation, she could not turn her face away. Women are always expected to make compromises with respect to her parents after marriage. I have seen how women in my life accepted many unjust demands of their in-laws to keep peace and avoid conflict. The same was expected of Aastha too. It was time for her to do something for those who gave birth to her, nurtured her, stood by her side through thick and thin. She could not leave them at the mercy of Tej Sabharwal. She knew how humiliating it would be for her parents to be dependent for life on her in-laws. Sure they would understand and accept that fate. But Aastha would never be able to look herself in the mirror. She wanted to take the responsibility of both her parents and her in-laws' family. Tej and Devi would not have that. She pleaded with Shaan to make them understand but Shaan had no say infront of his brother. She never asked him to leave them and come with her. She never asked him to break that family. She only asked him to support her but he remained silent. Aastha understood there was no place for her in that house. She could not stay there and fight till eternity when the person who brought her in that house did not support her.

Therefore she decided to leave along with her son. They stopped her again. Shaurya was a Sabharwal. The eldest male child of a powerful family. They would not let him go with her. They threatened her with their power. They threatened to take her to court. Aastha was left helpless. She knew she could not afford a long dragging court case with the influential Sabharwals with her meagre salary. She also had the resposnsiblity of her parents on her shoulders. Even if she fought them, she would risk damaging Shaurya's childhood. She did not want him to see his parents fighting a tug of war with him in the middle. She did not want his childhood be lost in the alleys of the courthouse. While discussing Aastha's past with Kanchan, Gayatri said that a mother can go through extreme difficulties but couldn't bear her child getting hurt or something along those lines. Aastha's condtion reminded me of the tale of two mothers who were asked to prove their rights on the child by pulling it to her side. Aastha felt it was better to let him go than fight over him. Then again she said while leaving that she will fight for her son till the end. Perhaps both Aastha and the writers forgot that.

The Sabharwals were well to do people. Shaurya was pampered by everyone in that family. His wishes were always prioritised. Aastha thought he would be fine there. She perhaps didn't think about the feeling of abandonment he would face. But parents often give more importance to material needs of their children than emotional needs. Maybe she thought Shaurya would soon be over the pain of her leaving. She had a difficult life ahead. She couldn't risk dragging Shaurya into that. Parents don't want to make mistakes when it comes to their children, but end up making bigger ones due to wrong decisions. Aastha tried to take the best decision for Shaurya given the circumstances at hand, but it turned out to be the wrong one. She perhaps never thought that she would not be able to meet him even once in 25 years. She didn't have an idea that Devi would block all her attempts to reach her son. She didn't force her way then because she didn't want to create a ruckus that would disturb Shaurya even more. She couldn't foresee how Shaan would turn out to be even a worse father than husband. That he would not be able to give love and attention to their son even while being so close to him.

This is what I could gather about her character from what has been shown so far. I do not necessarily agree with all her decisions. I still don't know why she didn't try to contact him when he was older. Even then I feel for her. More so because despite life handing out so many blows, she took them in her stride and moved along in this journey called life. On the way helping others to make their life a little better. Apno ke liye to sab karte hai. Jo dusro ke liye karte hai, wahi duniya badalte hai. True she could not do anything for her son. But I still don't think she was a bad mother. Like Anokhi said, "Maa galat ho sakti hai, par buri nahi."