Originally posted by: shahsb_26
We can cut some slack here.... Anokhi knows how to break barriers and she had done that when she escaped from Kapoorthala to Chandigarh not from there to Goa behind the man who was enjoying dinner with his ex lover night before. But fine, love is blind and irrational... Plus bit of guilt trip (undoubtedly she was given terrible dialogues of revenge and manipulation night before... She was made to seem wrong for being upset about seeing ShaSha)... Anyways that's the different discussion....
Why should Anokhi not start showing her joy towards the luxurious life? Because this has been given to her by rich in love boyfriend and not something like her hard earned life ... That her rich lover is trying to show.. How does it matter?
Again only my opinion, her mother had to go through a lot to put Anokhi where she is... Astha had to get shot, Babli had to face wrath from Vineet and her mil... Khair Babli is here sharing the fortune.. But what about her mother... For once, think how long has it been we have seen her even talk to her mother or sharing the bond? She Nikki spends her time in luxurious resort munching delicacies sent by rich boyfriend and basking in his attention .. Her own mother or Astha or had Babli not followed might still be in misery... That's where I say her reactions and actions are completely misfit for where she was back in time... This Anokhi seems to careless about anything but Shaurya... Thank god Babli is here to put her in place! Hence, the life that she is enjoying needs to be earned by herself through hardwork (or marrying Shaurya maybe if that's what makers want to show
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So I am a bit confused as to what the implication by the bolded lines is. Does that mean that because Anokhi has received all of this from her family, she should be indebted to them? She cannot enjoy anything in her life because Babli, her mother, Aastha went through a lot to bring her here? In that case, what about when she dropped all her studies to go looking for Aastha? Was that also inconsiderate of her mother and sister who had worked so hard to get her to where she is? Or is it only because Shaurya is a man and she is going after him that this becomes an issue? Also why are we assuming that Anokhi must sacrifice her entire life in order to save her mother and sister? Are we looking for another mahaan FL who puts everyone's problems on her head?
Anokhi has consistently been shown to be working hard just so that she can bring her mother and sister out of their misery. She had shouldered the burden of their pain and they have always been her strength but also her weakness. She only accepted getting married because her mother was being thrown out of the house. Whenever she knows about what is happening with Babli, she has consistently tried to help her by standing up for her and convincing her to leave. And precisely because she knows that they might need financial support, she has been studying hard and doing everything she can for them. However that does not mean that she must stop living her life or enjoying pleasures afforded to her only because her sister and her mother have it worse. If she is in love and is enjoying that feeling (and being happy for the first time in her life freely might I add since her whole life has been spent fighting one battle after another), then I'm happy for her. That she finally gets to experience what it means to be doted on since until now, she has never received that type of love. If that's wrong, then should we similarly blame Babli for falling in love with Vicky, rather than worrying about her mother and sister who were being abused at home? Why should Babli not have been a stronger person to fight for her mother and sister? Or is it precisely because Anokhi is stronger that she bears the unequal burden of fighting for everyone's fights?
No, she should not throw it in the pool, she could least return it politely and tell Shaurya she will accept this later on when relationship is little more serious and some time has passed. Hearing I Love you with true feeling in itself is a gift. These things can wait... Shaurya who is changed person could understand her reluctance and respect her decision! First clear to point that self respect should be ahead even when two people are in relationship. That's not about ego here... It's about how people would see their love... I am sure... Some may feel.. Why should they care about the world... Well head back to library scene... It's about Respect...
Remember the comment of gold digger that Shaurya used in library... Didn't he mention something like... If you keep using people.. You will never get respect? Haan haan... I know I know.. Anokhi isn't using Shaurya (though pathetically scripted dialogue did say... Mauka hai.. Le lete hai.. Aisi life jeene ka..)... But not everyone would understand that! Shaurya's view has changed... He knows Anokhi isn't the one after such opportunities... But what about everyone else? Yes... Everyone matters and not just Shaurya's views... Respect is something you earn from the world though only few would matter... But for sake of his family who clearly does not like her.. Hence, strictly in my opinion, they should tone down her basking in attention wala feeling a bit...
I don't think Anokhi was anamored by the fact that it was an expensive gift as much as the fact that he gave her something that she pointed out that she liked. If Babli had given her this gift, would it have been a problem as well? Or again is the problem that it's coming from a man that she loves that makes it a problem? And if so, how do we distinguish betwen her sister who loves her and a man that loves her? And why should we?
@bold I feel like the library scene was trying to show us the exact opposite of what is being said. The library scene was not meant to show us that Anokhi needs to be mindful of how people will perceive her actions and change them accordingly. Rather the library scene shows that people who have terrible and regressive views about women always will, regardless of whether or not someone provides them with reason. As a sidenote, I don't think anyone's actions should be called "providing reason" because that again is victim blaming. How is this any different than society telling someone who is wearing revealing clothes that it's their fault because they should have known better they should have catered to the perceptions of others? So Anokhi should not have to change her behavior regardless of what other people will think because it's their mindset that needs to change, not her behavior. Maybe the point is that, well we can't change society and therefore if she wants respect, she has to play within the bounds of societal implications. But Anokhi has always been shown to throw it back in society's face. Regardless of what people say about her, she has topped in SIAC. Her intellect alone will earn her respect and that does not mean that she has to cater to the regressive views of society and change her behavior just because someone might interpret her actions as taking advantage of him. Because if that's the case, then Anokhi shouldn't have accepted Ahir's help either. She shouldn't accept the help of any man because society will always label a woman who accepts the help of a man as "loose character" or someone who is "taking advantage"
Babli cannot blame him till that's explicit... Devi can definitely blame Anokhi for whatever character sketch they have given Nikki in Goa... Because Nikki is literally spending Saberwal Ka paisa on her luxurious life... Shaurya hasn't tried getting too physical yet for Babli to comment... And second Babli's concern is that Shaurya might not be as serious as Anokhi can get...
Devi has been shown to blame Nikki with or without any fault of her own. She has blamed her for taking advantage of their family when they tried to falsely frame her for the rustication and when she was staying with Aastha in Shaan's house. Also I return to my point above about changing one's behavior just because people who have the wrong mindset don't misunderstand.
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