Originally posted by: Amphitrite
I dont know who came up with the romance wala thing but I guess many of us need to clarify on why this track wasnt something anyone wish to have.
Yes I am the one whose post triggered everyone here because I accused people of asking for romance in this and every other show with a message on TV. I will answer this further.
Firstly let's go with the love. Love this feeling is different. Its pure. And its not always romantic. Love can happen anytime and not everyone is romantic about it. Love can be between friends, family, the pets and their owners. Its this wrong notion of love we have which never makes us think about it beyond the romantic aspect of it
Rudhita for us defined love not because it was romantic but because it was pure. It was endearing to see Bondita having an elder one who guided her and none of us had any thoughts about romance in our minds. So there that is kinda bad to actually tell that
For us the love between a teacher and a student is pure right? How teachers are always so selfless for their students for their successes? Just that way we view Anirudh and Bondita
Just because they are married this notion gets twisted.
But you know Anirudh's love be it for his country. for his family, for his childhood love is shown fickle which itself made many of angry and due to that the track got repulsive reactions.
Manorama was amazing and let me be clear if Anirudh's love towards Manorama was executed well then many of us would have taken it well and would have been truly amazed with Anirudh but it didnt. Instead it felt like the male lead is being whitewashed.
I understand that the track was not written well, but is the use of a harsh demand for a good cause objectionable?
Think hypothetically, a husband forces his wife to lose weight for looking pretty enough for him, and a husband forcing his wife to lose weight because she has fatty liver, borderline diabetes and is prone to a heart attack. Both demands are same right? But aren't intentions of both of these different? What if the wife in latter case chooses not to listen to the husband's explanations, has cheat meals behind his back, and asks him why can't he accept her the way she is?
What is wrong with the husband doing something strict for the benefit of his wife?
None had problem with nullification of the child marriage thing but instead the promo made it feel negative is why the outrage
Discussions were never about how it nullifies Rudhita's marriage instead it was about what should have been extra added on the act so as to make it better for those child brides
Really??? Still denying it? Please read the various posts made on it in IF itself, with the language used that had to be moderated. I cannot add the links here because it will expand into a preview and elongate this post
And ofcourse it is gonna be negative, it is wrecking a societal norm. Rudhita marriage will be nullified and Ani will have no justification to keep sponsoring Bob's education. British banned child marriage to stop deaths due to child pregnancies, they had no strategy or interest in rehabilitation of the abandoned women. Society on the other hand was trying to object to it as much as possible. How else do you want the makers to soften this blow? Please recommend.
Please understand no one wants romance. No one wants hugs or anything between the two leads. Instead most of us want is fights of Anirudh and Bondita against the society being mentor and mentee how Anirudh teachers Bondita and how Bondita takes education
I repeat child marriage is disgusting. And there are as many chances of Rudhita to remarry as adults, as is for them to end up with different people while still remaining mentor-mentee. I am comfortable with this, but if someone is not and is venting their anger in awful ways on social media, obviously they are interested in eventual romance.
Edited- And the biggest problem is that the show had shown and extremely traumatic experience for a child. Lets face it Bondita is in her vulnerable stage where it can affect her way too much and to see the only person who supports you being like this all of a sudden can be highly exhausting mentally. No offence to Anirudh but what he did only made that child even worse
There's a way to go forward and this isnt the way
I go back to the weight loss hypothesis I gave. Was the use of harsh demands wrong when the situation demands it?
Also how does Bondita become an adult while fighting for her rights, but conveniently a child while handling trauma?
Do you know what else hurts children?
The slap on their bum post delivery, falling of their milk teeth, realising Santa doesn't exist, vaccination injections, them being left alone with strangers on first day at school, parents letting go of their cycle while teaching them when they trusted that they will be supported from behind, applying chilly powder on their thumbs so that they stop thumb sucking and so many more ways to cause them physical and mental pain.
And most of these are given to them after they have been fooled enough with excuses, and later their "trust is broken".
Eventually the clouds cleared up for Bondita, do you think if she has any sensibility, she is gonna revisit these events as mental torture by ManoRuddh?
No, she is thinking and will keep thinking that she needs to mend her ways and she was stupid to not realise her folly sooner. Is that mental scarring? If yes then half the people should never learn from their mistakes in fear of breakdowns.
PS, more mental torture in form of gender discrimination, racial discrimination and loneliness is in store for her, when she studies further. Ani may not and should not meddle to protect her every time, else how will she learn??
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